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reading profiles right - 10/26/2006 2:21:18 AM

mons

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greetings

i want to place this question to anyone of the submissives here, this is my question i did write before but i never got an answer but here it is. why do some of the submissives or slaves write to me and when i do check their profile they have things that are not in my profile such as dom/dom couples trans. dominant males and so on. i have this happen many times and i am kind i write and let them know i am not into this type of things but i had another letter tonight. it is not just being rude i think not to look closely at what i wish for but they are not paying attention to what is said so my question is why do many do this are the hoping i am into this? or are they just doing for the sake of doing it , it is a waste of time and they are nice but not reallly lstening to what i write? all i want is a submissive male no one else in the group one male . i hope someone can answer this for me ?

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RE: reading profiles right - 10/26/2006 2:28:44 AM

Siona

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Hopeful perhaps?

I don't know mons.
I'm sure lots of people don't read the complete profile.

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RE: reading profiles right - 10/26/2006 3:08:20 AM

givemyall

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Hiya Mons,

I think everyone gets mail from people that aren't suited - I think alot of the time people read what they want to read, and as Siona has said, some people dont read complete profiles. Although the nice side is that even if they aren't suited in that way, they can sometimes become good friends to chat to.

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RE: reading profiles right - 10/26/2006 3:48:31 AM

wandersalone

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My feeling is that a number of people send emails to others without reading their profiles properly or they do read the profile, see that the person isn't looking for the same things they are...and sends them an email anyway - maybe in the hope that they can convert them or open the person up to considering other people.

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RE: reading profiles right - 10/26/2006 4:10:08 AM

adommeforu

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I used to think that they just looked at the photos and were too lazy to read, now I realised that the silly sods just can't read!!!

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RE: reading profiles right - 10/26/2006 4:16:26 AM

littlespike

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Hi Mons:

i agree with the thought that a lot of people to not read the entire profile.

i myself checked out your profile and was a little confused. What appears at the top of the screen is Quote "seeking male submissive loving domme seeks submissve male must be over 30 dominant who is in..."

At first glance i was a little confused. Seeing "male must be over 30 dominant" was the cause. But after reading the whole profile it made more sense.

Perhaps you could re-word your profile so what appears at the top is more understanding.

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RE: reading profiles right - 10/26/2006 9:43:49 AM

damia

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i agree with littlespike. If someone doesn't take the time to read the complete profile, the heading does sound very much directed toward dominants. Someone might see it as saying: 'Seeking a male submissive-loving domme' (perhaps they think You don't understand what a domme is, people can be very insulting in their assumptions.

i agree, You could reword the profile to make the heading sound appropriate to what You want.

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RE: reading profiles right - 10/27/2006 6:28:23 PM

pixelslave

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I agree with littlespike as well, adding that I'd suggest you include more information about yourself and your interests. You might find this will help attract the man you are looking for and also to deter the ones you'd like to avoid.

When I read a woman's profile that tells me nothing about her as a person or is full of angry notices about reading the entire profile (something I already do and I do understand their frustration), it doesn't inspire me to immediately write to her. I prefer to see a profile that shows me something of a woman's personality as a human being and for it to not be entirely about the Domme she'd like to portray (which I never respond to). Add that to one which hopefully includes something more of her interests, and there's a much greater chance that something inside of me will click, compelling me and inspiring me to immediately write her. Plus I'll then have something meaningful to say or ask her about!

Otherwise, I'm only writing a message full of questions, often very general, instead of more specific to what she's already said about herself. And it's something a woman can use to weed-out those who aren't interested in what's unique about her; instead only looking for a Domme who'll play with them.

I'll also say that it seems to me there are some who take profiles a bit too literally. To me they're just a starting point, not something that requires a perfect match. I'll happily compromise on certain interests, readily foregoing some, in order to be with a Mistress I find interesting, intelligent, creative and engaging; one who is generally very compatible, but doesn't share particular interests that aren't essential to my happiness. To me it's about being flexible; neither expecting perfection of myself nor of any woman who'd be interested in having me as her sub!