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thisishis -> RE: Questions regarding marriage and D/s or M/s relationships (11/5/2006 5:42:23 PM)
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ORIGINAL: nikaa
Good afternoon,
I have been thinking about marriage and M/s relationships alot lately. For me the role of wife is very defined as is the role of slave,however; the roles are very different in some ways. As are the roles of husband and Master.
I am wondering if I am alone in this. Are there others who struggle to find the balance between being half of a married couple who is also either D/s or M/s? How do you find a balance within the roles? How do you keep the roles defined?Does one role come before the other? Why?
Thank you in advance for your imput and I hope that my inquiry made sense. (I've sat here for about an 20 minutes trying to figure out how to word this post)
The roles in this relationship of wife and slave/property are not different for me.
The best way that i can explain what that means for me, would be to say that they are melded together as one, and in that sense neither is much different from the other. i am slave/property and He is Master/Owner of me ... period. There's no need to balance, define, or separate.
The differences:
As slave/property i own (aka have the right to) nothing, and that includes choices in the relationship, having property that is exclusively defined as being mine (to include myself, my body and what is done or not done with me, myself and my body etc).
As wife, (only) in the event of my Owner's death ... all of the above becomes null and void aka opposite. As wife, i don't have to worry that i'll be restricted to a waiting room or denied ceratin information etc if my Owner is hospitalized. i also am entitled to the legal right (as well as granted the priviledge and responsabilty to do so, by HIM) to step in and make medical decisions for Him if He can't do so for Himself (and i have ... more times than He or i can account for -- It's another example of how i serve Him and His needs ... as it makes His life easier) being His wife allows me to so, legally.
We started as Master and slave in June 2004. We married in April 2005. He became Partner A and i became Partner B on a marriage certificate (Massachusetts doesn't label married people as husband and wife on those anymore [;)]) and we refer to ourselves as Husband and wife, for others, when warranted. He was "Master and Owner" to me, first and foremost and above anything else (before Husband, before lover, before friend etc ect), from day one of meeting.
With those who we decide can handle knowing, we refer to ourselves as Master and slave, or Owner and property. With those who can't wrap their heads around that info, we are Husband and wife.
A piece of paper hasn't changed the dynamics of our relationship. It's done nothing more or less than given us both a sense of security that am recoginized as being His legal partner.... and making our lives easier in a world where the declaration of the roles of a Master and slave or Owner and property guarantee nothing other than a couple of odd stares, white coats or raised eyebrows.
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