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lilboysubKC -> How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 9:56:40 AM)
this ones has fought tooth and nail for the whole time he realized he was meant for this lifestyle and has yet to find a real Mistress....i was wondering if anyone could help? I am fairly new to BDSM but with ex g/f's i did experiance different things that are involved in BDSM

MasterFireMaam -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 10:13:37 AM)
you MUST work on your profile. A reposting of what I told someone else (But I've changed the age to match yours). Think of your profile as a resume. When you right a resume, you include a goal, education, experience and skills. What is your goal? What kind of relationship ARE you looking for? A monogamous one with someone you want to marry or a poly one with someone who is gathering a household? As for your education, start reading. Skip the porn and, for the most part, the fiction. Read these non-fiction books: Ties that Bind SM 101 Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns To Love, To Obey, To Serve Slavecraft The Path of Service: Guideposts for Excellence Loving Dominant Different Loving (if you can get through it...it can be dry) Remember that these books are often opinions...take what works for you and leave the rest. If you are looking to be a bottom for kinky sex, some of these books won't apply...but they will if you are looking to be of service to someone. While, at 21, it's hard to list kink experience...but how about physical experience? Can you cook? Clean? Mow the grass? Do you even want to do these things in the kind of relationship you are looking for? If you're looking to be a sexual bottom, you might list the skills you have there or the skills you wish to aquire, but know, sexual bottoms are a dime a dozen. A few other things: Even if you want kinky sex, don't list your fantasies in your profile. Even in sex, we want to be the focus...this is about you serving us, even when this is in a sexual manner. When the Dominant wants to know your sexual fantasies, they will ask. Hopefully, they match, then everyone is happy! List what physical and psychological boundaries you have. Everyone has them. Perhaps you'd rather not be maimed for life...or to be severely humiliated in public. Saying that you have no limits is crap...and dangerous. Saying that, if you find someone who is a match, then it can SEEM like you have no limits, because her limits are yours, too, IS correct. Don't settle. If there are big areas where you don't match, don't force it just because you really want to be owned. It simply will not work. Master Fire

MissyRane -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 10:16:11 AM)
How does one find a Mistress? Probably by looking..[8\|]

lilboysubKC -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 10:18:01 AM)
that was very very informative thank You very much

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 10:22:29 AM)
good luck buddy, i've been looking for over 10 years.

doggydog -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 10:29:03 AM)
You can't. Female dominance is so unnatural that heterosexual "dommes" are almost invariably hookers trying to make a buck off sad cases who can't face the reality of male-female nature.

MadamShy -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 10:30:59 AM)
maybe you would get more attention if you Were into Lifestyle BDSM LOL ... you just tolerate Real Life???

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 10:32:04 AM)
maybe i'm just tired of being too much of a challenege...hehehehehe

MadamShy -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 10:33:30 AM)
one who is hiding behind the vanilla doggy dog there are Many that are real .. I for one am Lifestyle and Pro .. have owned One kitty pet for over 4 years 24/7 try telling Him Im fake and just a prostitute ... I dont have sex with Clients .. Boo Hoo .. hey I don't bitch because I can't find the other Live in slave ... I know i'm strict and I know that not all are into what I am into ... get over your self

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 10:36:13 AM)
i think there's a Dominant for everyone...finding the right one...that's the challenge...

MagiksSlave -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 10:41:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: doggydog You can't. Female dominance is so unnatural that heterosexual "dommes" are almost invariably hookers trying to make a buck off sad cases who can't face the reality of male-female nature. You are kidding right.... eather way that was the most disgusting thing to say!! Magik's slave

Bearlee -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 11:05:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave quote: ORIGINAL: doggydog You can't. Female dominance is so unnatural that heterosexual "dommes" are almost invariably hookers trying to make a buck off sad cases who can't face the reality of male-female nature. You are kidding right.... eather way that was the most disgusting thing to say!! LOL Did you read his profile, MS? He likes to shock... !!!

Najakcharmer -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 11:14:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: doggydog You can't. Female dominance is so unnatural that heterosexual "dommes" are almost invariably hookers trying to make a buck off sad cases who can't face the reality of male-female nature. Translation: I'm ugly, unwashed or unpleasant to be around because of my bad manners and nasty attitude, and I have really poor social skills, so I can't get a date without paying for it. A REAL dominant woman would automatically want to have kinky sex with me. Right now, on my living room floor. No woman wants to do that even though I've asked and asked and sent out 6,432 pictures of my hard cock in bondage to every woman on this site. Therefore there is no such thing as a dominant woman.

Bearlee -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 11:19:01 AM)
LOL, Charmer... he says he's dominant and enjoys making women do all maner of bloody things while he sticks pins under their fingernails. Uh huh... he said so! It must be true... Really! bearlee

thetammyjo -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 12:45:25 PM)
I agree with MasterFireMaam but I'll also add that you need to try and get involved in RL groups -- munches, organization, workshops, meetings, sloshes, conventions, and maybe a play party or a go to a club (but those two I'd save until you had some knowledge of the folks in your area). There are a lot more groups and events than most folks know; you just have to look. Here where I am we have a yahoogroup that gets messages from 3 states and sometimes more of meetings, munches, sloshes, and events. If money and distance wasn't a big factor, I could go to two things a week.

Najakcharmer -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 2:15:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bearlee LOL, Charmer... he says he's dominant and enjoys making women do all maner of bloody things while he sticks pins under their fingernails. Uh huh... he said so! It must be true... Really! Unfortunately I heard that the last time he tried this with his girlfriend, she made a whistling noise and flew out the window. [:D][:D][:D][:D]

sissifytoserve -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 2:22:04 PM)
Ive come to the conclusion that she is going to come to you if anything. Ultimately...when a domme looks at your profile...she is going to figure out in about 2 seconds wether or not you are sub or slave material. If she contacts you...you might have a chance but you should tell her the truth about what your interests are and what you would be willing to try and what things you can compromise in order to get along. Whatever you do..don't fake it..because wwhen the time comes...both of you have general ideas about each other. Example: a male sub who says he is into full body whipping...and then meets a domme who cant wait to start whipping her sub..only to find out he is not into it is an immediate relationship breaker. Basically...be yourself..because you shouldn't want to be appreciated for something you are not. Thats a lie.

LotusSong -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 2:23:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: doggydog You can't. Female dominance is so unnatural that heterosexual "dommes" are almost invariably hookers trying to make a buck off sad cases who can't face the reality of male-female nature. awwwwwwwwwww..... bad prom date buddy? And to the OP: The Domme finds you..not the other way around. This is why you need a decent profile and decent pictures. We look and if interested, we'll contact you.

FLsubmalecd -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 2:33:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: doggydog You can't. Female dominance is so unnatural that heterosexual "dommes" are almost invariably hookers trying to make a buck off sad cases who can't face the reality of male-female nature. It just goes to show ignorance and the need for attention is everywhere. Another example of a male living in the dark ages where men thought they ruled, and are superior to women. Women are not second class citizens to cater to the wants and needs of a uneducated, uncaring, insensitive male such as this example. Just another social outcast and user/abuser wanker to me. In fact, he is a disgrace to any men that are true, caring Doms as well. And I know there are a few. We all know the type. Even us proud submissive men that adore and cherish the strength and power of Women. Guys that would write garbage like this almost make me ashamed to share his gender. But then again, I am a man, he is a mere male sub species.

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: How Does one find a Mistress? (11/22/2006 2:44:01 PM)
and here i thought "i" had problems...LOL

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