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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/17/2006 7:00:22 AM

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We've got t-shirts? They aren't black are they?

And Shifted, you could just say "We're not in complete disagreement" if that settles in your stomach better. :D

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/17/2006 7:09:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: yoursubliminal

Thanks for your help (NOT!) Ms. LuckyAlbatross. I've been reading many of your posts and it must be wonderful to have the answer to all the world's problems.

Why ask for peoples advice and oppinions if you don't want it? Not a very good way to introduce yourself to the boards now is it?

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/17/2006 9:20:55 AM

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I was released by my previous Master some time ago and he has been assisting me in a search for a new one. He introduced me to a someone who appears to be suitable.

My problem...things are moving very slowly in getting to know this new Master. No commitments have been made on either side. I have been feeling very 'alone' and decided to have coffee with my old Master to discuss things. Well, it turned into a little more than coffee. Now I feel like I have betrayed my prospective Master's trust.

Was what I/we did wrong?

It does sound as though this is a complicated situation, and though you may not like what LA had to say on the subject, I tend to agree with her.

A sexual fling is one thing, but you are now wavering between commitment and non-commitment with these two men, and you don't know that they are not playing a game with you.

Take a step back and look at the situation objectively. Don't involve anyone else in your decision-making process. Though you are a sub, you are also a capable woman that can make decisions on her own. Go with your gut instinct.

As far as the "fling" with the ex-Master... I see nothing wrong with it as there has not been any commitment made to the "new" Master. However, you want to set your allegience and go with that. The longer you hang on to the old Master, the more difficult it will be to move on. He is a safe haven for you right now, easy to return to because you know him, but you can't move on until you have severed that final "physical" tie with him.

As far as things moving slowly with the new Master... that can be a good thing. Sir and I took several months before we really got moving on our relationship, and that has turned out to be the best thing ever! I found that putting too many expectations on the relationship can drive it into the ground before it has a chance to get started.

I wish you the best of luck. Take this for what it's worth.

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/17/2006 9:45:41 AM

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Perhaps the reason you didnt find it helpful was because you didnt want honest responses...merely validation for what you did.

Sorry that we cant all accomodate..

I couldn't agree more with this statement. I find it quite interesting that the same advice, however one fully blaming the man (of course we all know how evil the Dominant can be, forcing himself on something that is not his), was fully appreciated, whereas the one who forced a look inside was chastised.

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/17/2006 10:52:32 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

We've got t-shirts? They aren't black are they?

I thought you only did pink? With white fluffy, puffy tails affixed on the backsides which must have somehow (obviously a freaky weather anomaly) became dislodged and lost during shipping because I swear I don't know anyone with fluffy, puffy tail fetishes. Not that I've seen them...I just hear things...here and there.

LOL..I just had an image:

(front) LA Defenisve Team
(back)We've got her tail!

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/17/2006 3:42:26 PM

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So...both Masters are aware of everything. I am being shared. Bubye.

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/17/2006 4:00:38 PM

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So your old master doesn't want you & the new master won't commit. No wonder you're feeling off-key. Yup, gotta agree with other posters here, stand on your own & figure out what YOU want. You're not a donut to be passed around half eaten, are you?

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/17/2006 6:35:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: yoursubliminal

So...both Masters are aware of everything. I am being shared. Bubye.

That's great! If you think its great. <smiles> Hope your holidays are good ones.

Best wishes,
Christine

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/17/2006 8:44:39 PM

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Like a few responces have said, I think that after any break-up a person should take the time to try and figure out what went wrong, learn something and find themselves somewhat whole again before even thinking of entering another relationship.

Then the issue that your ex-master found this next master for you and is also mentoring him doesn't sound very wise on your exes part.
If things didn't work between the two of you why would you want him to pick out and mentor your new master?
It sounds to me as if he has issues with control that he dosen't want to let go of and he doesn't have your best interest at heart.

It seems like a situation that could get very sticky and ugly especially when he meets you for coffee and loses all respect for you and the other master by smashing the bondaries and I think taking advantage of you being in a vulnerable place.

I encourage you to get out of this situation all together. Take the time necessary to get yourself readjusted and find what you desire and then begin the search for that new master without your ex involved.

Missy.

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/17/2006 8:48:14 PM

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"Blame the man" ALWAYS goes over well. Women do it so they don't have to face their own mistakes, and men do it because it never hurts to tear down a competitor.

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ORIGINAL: SweetAndInnocent

I find it quite interesting that the same advice, however one fully blaming the man (of course we all know how evil the Dominant can be, forcing himself on something that is not his), was fully appreciated, whereas the one who forced a look inside was chastised.

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/17/2006 9:31:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

"Blame the man" ALWAYS goes over well. Women do it so they don't have to face their own mistakes,

Hey..it works for me... <wink and a grin>

*and adds the obligatory.."just kidding"*

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/17/2006 10:00:38 PM

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i would think twice about a man who represents himself as someone who is done with a relationship with you when he is not, who represents himself as a possible mentor ro someone esle, when he is not able to control himself with the man's potential sub.... it seems to me that this man is unable to master any of the three involved, and he certainly is no one i could respect....

Good luck in figuring this out...
Master's dorei

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/18/2006 5:56:29 PM

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I think being open and honest with yourself, that'd be a starter.

What would of been so wrong to of said, "im feeling isolated, alone, horny, whatever, and id like to play with you please?".
What is so wrong in saying "until i am in clear agreement with someone re monogamy, i will sleep with whom i please" to your old Dom.

I dont blame the guys, they are not responisble for 'your' actions, only theirs.
I dont feel you are a victim in this scenario, in fact, femme fatal would be how i see you.
But very young, and honesty, can seem awfully complicated to the young at clit.

Be strong, be true, be happy,
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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/18/2006 6:42:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: Voltare

It's one thing to reject someone's advice, quite another thing to take a pot shot at them. If you find her posts irritating, there's a big red hand that's next to the word 'BLOCK' under her post. You'll find it under mine as well. Liberal use of both should make your world a happier place.

I couldn't agree more.

Free speech and all that the OP had the morals of a common street cat then came here to ask us to approve. Oops, our bad we didn't.
LA gave you the logical answer of removing yourself from the situation because it's f'd up. The reality is finding yourself and not getting handed around like a party favor is probably a more healthy way of finding a partner. If being the center of drama is your kink then hey, at least you do it well.

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/18/2006 9:49:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U
Free speech and all that the OP had the morals of a common street cat then came here to ask us to approve. Oops, our bad we didn't.
LA gave you the logical answer of removing yourself from the situation because it's f'd up. The reality is finding yourself and not getting handed around like a party favor is probably a more healthy way of finding a partner. If being the center of drama is your kink then hey, at least you do it well.

Well that first part is true, the second part not at all.

I LOVE being passed around like a party favor, and I think a common street cat likely has higher morals and regulations than I do when I'm in heat and allowed to go into the headspace of a fucktoy.

I didn't really give her advice as to whether to embrace her sluthood or not- merely that she should step back and make the choice openly amongst everyone, and embrace it for herself- rather than continue to let herself get swept up in her feelings, worrying about truths, and dealing with the aftermath.

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RE: Transitioning from one Master to another - 12/18/2006 9:53:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: feylin
I thought you only did pink?

That's as bad as being all black. Pink is a good choice though if we're going for just one color. With shark fins on the back.

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