Mustardseed
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Joined: 5/27/2006 From: Seattle, WA Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: AlexAussieSub Do you ever meet people who you find attractive to the Dom/me part of you, but not to the Sub part of you, or vice versa? My Daddy seems to prefer switches because he likes a bit of pushback, and loves geeking about toys. However, my Daddy is a top and a dominant, and therefore has absolutely no interest in bottoming, subbing or switching. This has caused a teeny bit of pouting in our local community, not in the least of which because he has a high pain tolerance. However, he just doesn't go there. I respect that simply because I want others to respect my own orientation, and try -- at the outset -- to treat people with at minimum the amount of respect I'd want to receive. quote:
Or is someone just attractive to you and it doesn't really matter whether you go Dom/me or Sub to them? I had a brief fling with another switch who tried domming me, but that didn't really work out. However, she mentioned an interest in being submissive to me and my Daddy -- that worked out a bit better. quote:
If you're bisexual, do members of one gender tend to be attractive to the dominant side of you more than the submissive side, and members of the other tend to be attractive to the submissive side of you more than the dominant side? Despite being polyamorous, I find it difficult to take submitting to multiple people seriously. I'll date folks, I'll top folks ... but I'd rather bottom and submit to just my Daddy. It takes a lot to build up the amount of trust we have thus far, and some people seem to look at our relationship and think, "Oh! If I date one of them I can have that immediately! They'll just make a copy of it and give it to me!" Um, no. Clock in a couple of years of intensive and difficult conversation on both sides, among other things, and we'll see. But I digress. Generally, pretty much everyone who does seem attractive to me seems so as potential bottoms or submissives. I guess that since I'm getting my submissive side taken care of, the other side is starting to peer out. I see bisexuality and switching as somewhat sister orientations: a lot of people seem suspicious of them, or don't believe that they exist. I think it's mainly because they see the concept that orientation isn't so much black and white as a spectrum a little threatening: - "If other people behave this way, they'll expect me to as well!" An interesting opinion, but my own is that anyone worth knowing will respect boundaries and take "no" for an answer.
- "If I admit that I want both sides, nobody will take me seriously in my primary role!" Again, I think that this can be solved by surrounding oneself with far more understanding people.
*shrug* If it adds spice to the lives of others to believe that I'm part of some lurking conspiracy to come and force them into a role that they detest simply because of my own orientation -- well, everyone's entitled to their own fantasy life.
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