Calandra -> RE: submission (7/27/2006 6:39:22 PM)
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ShadowHwk, I read your post about applications, and I see why it would seem as if someone who used applications were looking for a sub/slave who was worthy... but that is far from the truth with My experience... An application for me usually consists of a list of specific questions about things that I am seeking/NOT seeking in a sub/slave and a BDSM activities checklist. The questions are usually about various relationship issues such as smoking, drinking, drug usage, medical history, children (have them/want them?), goals about career and education, political affiliations, volunteer work, hobbies, etc. etc... This is only a TOOL that will help me to discover whether someone is a good prospect for a relationship with me and my poly family. It's NEVER about worthiness, and benefits both sub and Dom/me since it helps both people to isolate any possible mismatches in their lifestyles and goals. To be honest, I have at times also filled out my own application and exchanged it with a prospective sub... I expect that they deserve the ability to make informed decisions about the person they are considering serving. I find that there are good reasons for this application: 1.) Wankers won't even take the time to apply, preferring to seek easy prey elsewhere. 2.) The communications skills of an individual are easily gauged. 3.) The practical skills of an individual are now more easily discussed. 4.) Obvious mismatches can be isolated and discussed early, saving both people time and emotion. 5.) Oftentimes (if both people fill out the same information) undesireable/unrealistic attitudes and/or expectations can be discovered (such as a Dom/me who is into micromanagement and a sub who needs macromanagement - neither is wrong, simply wrong for each other)
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