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Begging - 1/8/2007 6:27:06 PM

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Does anyone have advice on begging? I have never begged for someone who truely enjoys it. I am mystified as to what to say. How do I beg properly? IS there a proper way to beg?

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RE: Begging - 1/8/2007 6:31:25 PM

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I have never well and truely begged; I have however, asked prettily, requested submissevely, or just bitten my tongue.

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RE: Begging - 1/8/2007 6:31:31 PM

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My former dominant got off on begging, I had to beg for him to do anything to me. I enjoyed this somewhat, but it was not the end all be all of BDSM for me. The one that wants you to beg will explain the way it should be done effectively for them. I do not know if anyone can tell you exactly how it is to be done. For example between strikes when he hit me I had to beg him for another, that sort of thing. Other dominants might want you to crawl on the floor and plead with them. My Daddy does not like this, so I am not vastly experienced in this regard

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RE: Begging - 1/8/2007 7:03:39 PM

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I wasn't sure if it was a question that someone could answer or not. But I wanted to ask, just to be sure.

Thanks!

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RE: Begging - 1/8/2007 7:17:09 PM

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For me begging must come from a place of true need. Just ordering it doesn't inspire that NEED inside me.

The begging of slaves

Begging

Subs...asking/begging

The act of begging

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RE: Begging - 1/8/2007 7:17:40 PM

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Does anyone have advice on begging? I have never begged for someone who truely enjoys it. I am mystified as to what to say. How do I beg properly? IS there a proper way to beg?

It depends on what your Master wants. I have a sub who I make beg for things that she likes, but is embarrased to say so. (For example: she likes oral sex a lot, but won't ask for it if she wants it. So sometimes I tell her to ask, "Please throatfuck me, Master!". If she doesn't say it loudly enough, I make her repeat it louder and louder until she is screaming it.)

Having a large vocabulary probably helps, so that you can beg for the same thing using many different phrases without repeating yourself too many times. Once again, you need to talk to the Master/Dom/Domme to find out what they expect when they ask you to beg.

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RE: Begging - 1/8/2007 7:32:41 PM

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begging annoys me when it is forced or when it is done for me, but when I can hear and sense it is real, that the craving is intense, that she is begging for HER and not me, that is very very hot.

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RE: Begging - 1/8/2007 7:37:05 PM

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Thanks LA. I found some helpful words in a couple of those.

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RE: Begging - 1/8/2007 7:45:26 PM

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I hear a lot of opinions which say that most don't like it if the begging is forced. But if you are begging because your Master bids you to, how is it not going to be forced? Is the trick to make it sound like it isn't forced.

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RE: Begging - 1/8/2007 7:48:44 PM

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You asked a rather large question.

If I make someone beg me for something they don't want, I figure I am going to have to live with it feeling a bit forced.

However, if it is something they want, or should want, or I know they secretly crave, I want to hear the truthiness in the tenor of their voice.

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RE: Begging - 1/8/2007 7:59:10 PM

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How do I beg properly? IS there a proper way to beg?

Just voicing the intensity of your desires I guess....yet..if your Dom/Master/Whatever doesn't like begging its not gonna amount to much except a lot of frustration for you.

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RE: Begging - 1/8/2007 7:59:44 PM

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I'm sorry, but I have to be amused by your use of the word "truthiness". That's GREAT that you said that.
Moving on...
He wants me to beg for my spankings. And don't get me wrong, I DO want said spankings, but real begging in any sense makes me feel awkward. I feel mostly that I am not doing it right. I am hoping with practice and time I will get over this. I am a perfectionist and I HATE feeling inadequate.

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RE: Begging - 1/8/2007 8:28:00 PM

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Ahahaha I hear ya on being a perfectionist! *points at self*

I hate to have to say something that might come out sounding fake, so my begging would have to be for something I genuinely want badly (*mind wanders to Masters cock*). Then it becomes this intense, burning desire to have (fill in the blank) and with that mindset, I can beg and it is very real.

But if I'm kept from having what I'm begging for, for very long, then sometimes the begging can change to either a whimpering beg or a whiney beg. I don't like whining, so that generally comes from a place of frustration. The whimpering beg can be for something such as, Him having me masturbate then beg to cum.... He says "not yet" and the need to cum becomes more intense, but I'm not allowed to let up with the masturbating, so my begging becomes more intense but it's more of a whimpering beg because I'm concentrating on not cumming.

So the begging can be different depending on the situation and my mindset.

Hope that helps.

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RE: Begging - 1/9/2007 9:26:13 AM

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When forced to beg, I often have the impulse to turn my nose up at what I've been asked to beg for, even if it's something I want. The idea of having to beg for it is off putting, but then I get this "oh shit" kinda panicked moment where in my head I hear myself saying "if you don't beg for this' you may never be given it again' and at that moment, even if I truely do not want to beg, I beg, and I beg well because this mantra starts repeating itself telling me that I may never get to_______ if I don't beg. The more I beg the more the mantra replays itself untill I find myself lost in the begging and it's sincere...almost this panicked pleading more then a begging, and in those moments all embarrassment to having to beg is gone, and I'm left with only this true wanting for whatever it was I was told to beg for..

Hope that makes sense
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RE: Begging - 1/9/2007 9:41:46 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Zsuzsanna

Does anyone have advice on begging? I have never begged for someone who truely enjoys it. I am mystified as to what to say. How do I beg properly? IS there a proper way to beg?

I've always had a problem with the begging thing, mostly because I'm not good at acting. I knew one Master who used to tell me to 'beg' for something if I mentioned wanting or needing something. And I would really only need to phrase it in a very ass-kissy kind of way...
ie---"May I please have some time to do such and such before I come over, Sir?" was usually enough for him to consider that a 'beg' of sorts. To me thats just asking nicely but he would call it 'begging permisssion". I think anything beyond that is a put-on if a person is ordered to beg and they go on and on with the pleading and the crawling etc. I mean, it might be fun for some people, or a kink of sorts, but I wouldn't consider it genuine begging unless a person needed something so badly that they began begging without being told to do so.

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RE: Begging - 1/9/2007 1:07:31 PM

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It is my thoughts that that most Masters want to hear the sincereness from their sub/slave's voice. My belief is a Master should know enough about a sub/slave's inner desires enough so that during play, the Master instinctively knows how to go about having their sub/slave beg for more and know it's sincere.
Yes it is tough the first few times you find yourself begging for something you really want and in time will be easier to do so. No Master is going to waste time on a sub/slve when he knows that sub/slave isn't being sincere with Him and/or with yourself.

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RE: Begging - 1/9/2007 1:17:12 PM

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My problem with begging is that by the time he wants it, I'm usually not in a very verbal state of mind. I froze up totally the first time and wound up ending the play because I couldn't think of what to say and lost my headspace. The solution we've found is for him to tell me what to say. It's a lot easier to just repeat a given phrase until you're more comfortable with it and the phrase will come automatically to mind.

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RE: Begging - 1/9/2007 1:20:06 PM

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Well I really love it when a sub/slave begs, find it great fun, even if it's in a teasing voice. But then I'm playful and find it's great play that way.

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RE: Begging - 1/9/2007 5:43:22 PM

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When forced to beg, I often have the impulse to turn my nose up at what I've been asked to beg for, even if it's something I want. The idea of having to beg for it is off putting, but then I get this "oh shit" kinda panicked moment where in my head I hear myself saying "if you don't beg for this' you may never be given it again' and at that moment, even if I truely do not want to beg, I beg, and I beg well because this mantra starts repeating itself telling me that I may never get to_______ if I don't beg. The more I beg the more the mantra replays itself untill I find myself lost in the begging and it's sincere...almost this panicked pleading more then a begging, and in those moments all embarrassment to having to beg is gone, and I'm left with only this true wanting for whatever it was I was told to beg for..

Hope that makes sense
~dancer

Yes that does make sense desertdancer. Thank you.

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RE: Begging - 1/9/2007 6:03:20 PM

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I love being begged, I hate being begged. Begging of me revitalizes My power, Begging of me can be annoying. Beg if you want it, grovel, empower me, demean yourself, but if I say no, STOP, don't annoy me! (I'll probably let you have what your begging for l8r)

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