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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 10/10/2007 11:11:42 PM   
trueshadow


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It's a hard thing for most women to get their mind around. Society has ingrained in women that to sleep around makes them a slut. And that they can't possibly love to men at the same time. Plus there is the added bonus of the men that their husband wants them to sleep with they have no interest in.

The biggest issue I had was not so much the slut or who aspect. But I felt like he was pimping out MY body. It's one thing for him to have his kink that involves HIS body, like trying forced bi...but it's another thing to fulfill his fantasy with MY body.

I prefer to look at it as Yes it’s HIS kink…but I don’t go out of my way to fulfill it…if I decide I want to sleep with one of my subs than it’s my choice…I don’t do it to make him happy…it’s just an added bonus. My two cents.   Ms.Taboo



One woman I dated had no problem having multiple lovers.  I found it erotic and I enjoyed watching her be fucked hard multiple times.  She was an omvivore, though, and she would screw pretty much anything/one, etc.

Not surprisingly, she was a bit unstable and not a small bit over the top.  Too much for even me!

I do like Taboo's attitude, and that's what I'm looking for.  I want her to want to take whom she pleases, when she pleases.  I'm perfectly fine being in second place.  The danger, of course, is being permanently replaced :(


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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 11/3/2007 6:25:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HonestBitch

Quite frankly my b/f supports my seeing other men and encourages it, yet he's not a cuckold in any way.  He can see other women, and he is not humiliated or jealous in any way....two things I seem to always hear about in cuckolds.  Defining it as just his supporting it is really off.


What you describe is more of an open or poly relationship. The fantasy behind a cuckhold dynamic includes humiliation and degredation.


It can.

(It may not).

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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 11/3/2007 6:35:11 PM   
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Most guys that we have talked to who claim to be cucks are really only interested in the hot wife scenario ... that is the problem.


(It's not a problem for me!)

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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 11/12/2007 4:24:28 AM   
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Grow your own pair bitch. Hows that for a pair? Eh? Get your head out of your ass. Want to insult? I can too.

I went there to seek compatability, not necessity.  Some people lack comprehensive skills I see. Again I state. "THIS IS NOT ABOUT MY OWN NEEDS". This is about who I should become. I dont need it. As a matter of fact if I needed it, I would be doing crazy crazy things to support a so called need.  I need food, water, air and nutrition.  

Basically this is a case of someone insisting on defining someone else. And her lack of ability to understand variables to a point that they lump sum people into one box. People like that are what screw up crap all over the world. They think their word is law over everyone elses.  Now stick that up your ass bitch.

We chatted, we considered hooking up. Then: I see this terribly nasty side of you. No matter what.. I would never speak the way you have on this thread. I would never have a mate who spoke this way to others.
 
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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 11/12/2007 10:45:01 AM   
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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 1/28/2008 6:26:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Interesting thread...here is what i think (cringing at the anticipated response...): women enjoy cuckolding...IMMENSELY...but they want their "primary" male to be jealous and to resist what She is doing...even as She continues to do it with increasing brazenness.

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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 1/29/2008 2:54:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Toylet4YOU1

Interesting thread...here is what i think (cringing at the anticipated response...): women enjoy cuckolding...IMMENSELY...but they want their "primary" male to be jealous and to resist what She is doing...even as She continues to do it with increasing brazenness.


That's a bit like a gay man saying every guy loves being on his knees, taking it from behind.

Certainly, there's one (or even one million) women like that out there.  Yet how enthusiastic would you be to marry a woman who only wanted to own you, to cuck you?  Who spent the rest of her time watching television, eating candy bars and potato chips, and swilling down beer and Mt Dew?

It's cool to like the things you like.  It's cool to share the things you like.  It's not cool to assume every woman you talk to automatically is fixiated on the same fetishes you have.  This is where approaching fetishes from a realistic perspective is crucial.

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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 2/4/2008 9:38:36 PM   
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It's a very risky practice/arrangement comparative to others for one - I prefer a more intense connection fully tested and clean without any shadow of a doubt - when there's partner swapping and a lot of openness based just on flesh and sex it can't be kept as healthy and safe - and too ... completely separating sex from emotion or connection too being the basis contradicts most women and how they feel, think and operate



A woman should always strive to separate her heart from her cunt.

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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 2/4/2008 10:06:48 PM   
MistressPav


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ORIGINAL: Seductor

Hm, wonder if there is a female equivalent to this?



I greatly enjoy watching my husband with another woman, and I encourage it.  What would I be called, I wonder.  This term "cuck" is new to me.





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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 2/14/2008 12:10:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressPav

I greatly enjoy watching my husband with another woman, and I encourage it.  What would I be called, I wonder.  This term "cuck" is new to me.



That comment did catch my eye. This is the first time i have heard a Woman say that. Not only enjoying it, but encouraging it.

Do You just watch or join in some way? (not sure if he is sub to You or not)

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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 2/17/2008 11:15:13 PM   
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My answer is simple. I like sex.

If I love a partner, I will want to have sex with them. If I don't love a partner, they won't be a partner in the first place. And as Dominant partner, I take what I want, and sometimes that is sex. There are some things that are negotiable. I've played with subs who are more into service than pain, and that's fine. . .but I simply could not be with a man who did not want to have sex with me.

As an aside, I haven't met any female cuckolds. This seems to be mostly a male thing. What's the deal with that?

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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 2/17/2008 11:54:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NYCCuckold
In my life I've been lucky enough to be in one true cuckold relationship. Since then I've been looking for another woman I could be compatible with on a vanilla and cuckolding level. To my surprise, I've found exceedingly few--even on collarme. 
So, why is that? It seems like a great situation for a woman. Of course, I know there are men who claim to be cuckolds, but can't live the lifestyle.  Even accounting for that, I'm surprised that this isn't a more popular lifestyle.  Any thoughts?

I would love one!!!
It's just a matter of are you in the same place, do you want the same thing, is there a click, and do you get allong..
Just as simple as that

I wish you enough

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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 2/18/2008 4:12:22 AM   
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I would love one!!!
It's just a matter of are you in the same place, do you want the same thing, is there a click, and do you get allong..
Just as simple as that

I wish you enough

GoddezzT`



Ah, to be one, experience it (full service to Both parties at Her direction of course) would be the experience of a lifetime.

It does seem strange that more Women are not interested in this. Kind of like Her having Her cake, eating it too, and thowing in a sub-m as a fluffer and clean-up boy

But to each Their own...


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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 2/18/2008 4:35:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		And I still don't understand why you think it's so strange that we aren't interested ... Most who have stated that they aren't interested have also stated why.  It's not like we just up and said "you know, I don't like it" - there are reasons behind it.  Why is it so difficult for you (and others) to comprehend that we aren't interested in it when we explain why we aren't interested in it?

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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 2/2/2009 6:20:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Dearest Goddess Carla,
                                   im not sure why so few women are intelligent enough to see the benifit's of being a cuckolding wife /Mistress,.,. but i sure am glad that you are wise enough to see the advantages of  cuckolding .,,.,. it is truly your right as a Superior Dominant Female to have a cuckold husband as erll as an entire stable of various slaves.,  and as many hung lovers as you so desire,.,.,..,
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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 2/2/2009 6:35:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		For me, at least, it steps rather too close to a true fetish and having dealt with one of those previously, I am would be loathe to knowingly get near one again. 
Hmmm, even before I had that experience I didn't find cuckolding appealing.  I'm not into humiliation, particularly of males, and that is likely my strongest association with the practice. 
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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 2/2/2009 6:37:44 PM   
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A woman should always strive to separate her heart from her cunt.

Pav



A powerful quote and one with which I disagree wholeheartedly. 
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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 2/2/2009 6:52:40 PM   
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I have at least some interest in it, but haven't yet been in a place where I've had a chance to test that interest out.  (I'm one of those try-it-and-see people...)  The variety is what catches my attention the most, really.  I prefer the stability of a firm relationship, but at the same time... well, I prefer having some variety in my sex toys, so in theory why wouldn't I enjoy having some variety in bed, too?

The one person I've had any serious discussion about this was pretty specific about only having a specific race as the Bull, which doesn't sit comfortably with me.  It smacks of some kind of weird twist on racism to me, even if that's not the intention.

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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 2/4/2009 8:49:28 AM   
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(It's a wonderful thing :)  )

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RE: Why are so few women interested in cuckolds? - 2/10/2009 3:01:53 PM   
VanessaChaland


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Status: offline 		Most younger people, the new generation are more open to cuckoldry rather than the older crowd. Also, the replies on this forum on not a true representation of the percent of us that enjoy this fetish and lifestyle. Go check out any one of numerous forums that are dedicated to that interest, although many have no cross over interest in S/M B/D etc.

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