From: Santiago, Chile
A few thoughts...
First, any type of indentured service contract (in the united states) is completely illegal. You cannot legally be held as a slave, and such contracts would not only be voided, but in extreme circumstances, could result in criminal charges for kidnapping or slavery. As I am at a cyber cafe in Santiago Chile, I'll leve the task of finding the appropriate US title codes that address the issue to someone with more time then I have. A 'service' contract may be a little different - if I agree to perform xyz work, and fail to do so, then I am in breach of contract. This could possibly result in damages assessed against me, but the nature of the contract and work would be considered.
As to the moral issues, I agree with iwsu - if the game is changed halfway through the relationship, it is better to reassess the rules and boundries. In the end, no amount of submission as a slave relieves a person of the moral, legal, and financial responsibilities of living in society. If I tell my slave to go to the local bank and rob it, my slave goes to jail - not me (I won't address the conspiracy issues, etc, this is just for illustration.) Similarly, if my slave gives me her credit card and power of attorny to use it, then she is the one who legally has to pay the bill. Ethically, the question is not a matter of 'if' the slave can leave, but rather when should he/she leave? While the best general rule is 'when it feels right, or if they are in danger' all relationships take time and effort. If I threw the towel in the first time I had a bump with a slave, then odds are I will probably never have a slave longer then a few days.
As to the milder example, I would suggest that before choosing to 'leave' the slave takes the time to express her unhappiness, frustrations, and let the Dom do what is best. Perhaps as an experiment in the short term that works out (this is that trust issue you know) or doesnt, and the two move on.
In the end, the D/s relationship isnt about how hard or far you can push the slave (I think) but rather finding a place where everyone's needs are met (even if the needs are to be denied ________ (fill in the blank)) Like in any relationship, it takes time, effort, and care. Relationships that are fraught wtih ultimatums rarely last. Relationships with cooperation and comprimise are the stuff that lasts a long time.
< Message edited by Voltare -- 5/16/2004 4:33:46 PM >
"There is always some madness in love, but there is always some reason in madness." - F. Nietzsche