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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/14/2009 4:01:20 PM   
subNsuit


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Status: offline 		Greetings ishy,
 
I am happy for you.  I wish you well on your journey in all aspects and safe travel.
 
~donna~

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/14/2009 8:23:42 PM   
kiani


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Status: offline 		Greetings ishy:

What great news. Congratulations. Safe flying in the friendly skies.


<giggles>

she wishes A/all well,
kiani


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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/16/2009 6:39:18 PM   
XaviersXian


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From: Australia
Status: offline 		greetings ladies,

Angel, I came across a quote of yours:

"A slave can be a dominant woman she just sucks at being Free".

After reading it, I had one of those "light bulb" moments.  Thank you....

well wishes,

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/16/2009 6:59:36 PM   
barelynangel


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You're welcome. To me, it really is amazing how versatile slaves really are in the women they are. 

In reading that one line lol to clarify for those who may not understand -- dominant woman means simply a woman who has a dominant personality -- not dominant in BDSM sense and/or label.


angel

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/20/2009 6:17:31 PM   
kisshou


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Status: offline 		hiya girls,

you ever see a man and get hot for him? Seriously physically hot ? How do you deal with the overwhelming physical feelings you have?

well wishes
kisshou

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/20/2009 6:34:20 PM   
ishyB


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Status: offline 		Hiya kissou,

I don't deal with it.
I can't.

I react to them.

Usually that means I flirt excessively with him, and it used to often lead to sex.
Obviously that's no longer allowed, the flirting is still there, but I try to keep it in check because I know that with me, one thing can lead to another.
I try to focus on Master, just thinking about them seems to take the edge off of other men. I however still respond and so my only 'defence' at the moment seems to be avoiding those men if I cannot be sure that I can trust THEM to pull on the brakes in time.

If I cant trust them to pull on the brakes, like with Master's friends, I just tend to let myself go, respond and flirt to my hearts content.

I wish you well,

ishy

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Someone's gotta go
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But I wanted to move on
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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/20/2009 6:42:05 PM   
kisshou


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Status: offline 		greetings ishy :)

I seriously appreciate your thoughtful answer though and now i feel a litle guilty because really my post was more of a whine about why do some

men have to be so *hot* !

What is a poor slave girl to do!

do you remember in that one book where the Master chained the slave girl up all night because he knew if he didn't she would crawl around begging

all the men in camp and he didn't want her disturbing their rest. She was so needy and helpless and he was such a Bastard.

well wishes
kisshou

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/20/2009 6:57:14 PM   
ishyB


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Status: offline 		Hey kisshou,

I didn't took your post to be whiny, but English is not my mother tongue so sometimes I miss nuances and take words like 'deal' very literally.

I don't remember the scene you describe, but there are a number of them in the books. The one that always stuck in my head was Tarl explaining that sometimes girls, that were kept in kennels a long time without the touch of men, would scratch open their own thighs in frustration, or trow themselves at the bars of their cell, only to be beaten away again for the mere touch of a man's sleeve as a guard passed.

When I first read those books, I thought to myself upon reading those scenes "puhlease, in a man's wet dream maybe, but no woman would ever really act or feel like that ".
How wrong was I, oh really, how wrong was I...

I've since long discovered that it is indeed possible to have such feelings, even prior to meeting Master I've known a man that has made me discover those, though meeting Master has not helped at all reducing my the new found depths of my passion.

And like I said above, I am, like the girls in those books, no where near closer to finding a way to 'deal' with it.
It seems only a wild, animistic, brutal, primal raping of me seems to temper the heat, and even then.... it leaves me lusting for more...
Much, much more...

Men, oh those delicious Men... *swoons*

I wish you well,

ishy

PS: see now what you have done, you've got me all worked up girl.  
     15 more days, oh Lord, 15 long hard lonely days.....

< Message edited by ishyB -- 7/20/2009 6:59:25 PM >

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/20/2009 7:23:35 PM   
sabba


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kisshou

hiya girls,

you ever see a man and get hot for him? Seriously physically hot ? How do you deal with the overwhelming physical feelings you have?

well wishes
kisshou


greetings kisshou;

Just laughs....and thinks about her answer......go see a production of one's favorite opera.

well wishes,
sabba

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/20/2009 10:31:20 PM   
BeingChewsie


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Status: offline 		Yes, every time Master walks in or out of the room. I must confess my problem is not the men(I think all the men out here in soCA suck or something because I rarely get hot under the collar for other men out here.. but the WOMEN.. oh my God! Truly some of the most beautiful creatures on the face of the earth grace the beach communities in Southern CA. I don't deal well...I go ga-ga, I try and get Master to meet them so maybe I can live vicariously through him lol. It is just a sea of hot blonde hard bodies...ugh..it is enough to make a girl like me CRAZY! Can you tell it summer at the beach and Chewsie is dying...dying I say.

quote:

ORIGINAL: kisshou

hiya girls,

you ever see a man and get hot for him? Seriously physically hot ? How do you deal with the overwhelming physical feelings you have?

well wishes
kisshou


< Message edited by BeingChewsie -- 7/20/2009 10:43:06 PM >

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/21/2009 3:17:00 AM   
estah


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Status: offline 		Greetings kissou,

Heck I know that problem only to well, my answer to that is just to swear off physical contact with men otherwise I land up rather quickly in bed with them.

estah

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/21/2009 3:48:47 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Hi kisshou,
What a question.  When I was surrounded by Latino men, I was just ga ga all the time.  They were generally very manly man and verrrry sensual.  I had the hardest time focusing and doing my job.  I mean... they were my students for goodness sakes!  And part of what they did was, each of them kissed my cheek as they walked out of the room - I taught 7 classes.  It was killing me in an ohhhh soooo wonderful way.  What's a girl to do?  I learned to temper my want by going out salsa dancing until 4 or 5 in the morning.  If nothing else, it exhausted me.  And I was dating the bouncer, so after he got off work... well, dating may be stretching things.  *wink.

As for now, sigh... exhaustion is a good thing.  The M's have me work and work and that usually tempers it.  But I'm generally kept at a "hum" *I think Chewsie used that term once and it really resonated for me.*  I get to do things like rub their feet or give them massages or things like that.  I kind of wiggle around a lot.  I don't mean to, but it just keeps happening.  Sometimes I'll rub up against Master's clothes in the closet or something....

But yes, seriously hot... oh yes... oh dear....

well wishes,
sunny jo the scorcher

eta:  Master was away for a few days, and Mistress let me wear one of Master's t-shirts. Sigh.  She says I almost danced around the house. 

< Message edited by sunshinemiss -- 7/21/2009 3:53:06 AM >

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/21/2009 11:55:00 AM   
fierykajira


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Status: offline 		Hi Kisshou,

I have to say that after reading all of these responses I'm feeling so peculiar. I've never experienced this. Then again, I'm unopened. Mostly I'm terrified of a painful first time. A Master has assured me that at some point the want will override the fear. I hope so...
I mean, sometimes if a man is very authoritative I find myself fantasizing about what it would be like for him to take me, but doesn't everyone? I feel left out! -pouts-

♥ fox

(fixed typo, eeewww)

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/21/2009 3:34:01 PM   
sweetgirlserves


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Status: offline 		Hi girls,

I have a question for anyone willing to share...

Do any of your families know about your 'life' and are the accepting of you... did they try to deter you from your path? How did/do you handle the 'others' in your life... especially the parents, siblings, family, friends etc who really don't 'get it' at all?

~sgs

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/21/2009 4:01:40 PM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		hi sgs

my family "knows" as much as they want too. with the exception of my son and baby brother, it is not discussed, but they do not try and talk me out of it either. my son wishes for me to only be happy, my brother thinks im wacked! and enjoys the stories! my friends, the ones outside the lifestyle, are mostly work related, so i dont say much there.

well wishes

tazzy

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/21/2009 4:02:55 PM   
donnaamarie


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Status: offline 		Hi sgs,
My entire family is aware of my relationship with Master.  That said we don't go around announcing it every time we are near family and we don't do things that would draw stares or comments when we are with them.  However, we wouldn't do anything in front of them if we weren't Master and slave.  I serve Master when I am out, he always eats first and then I do.  I've told this story before but my sisters and sister in law HATE when I do that, saying, "he has legs, let him use them."  Master merely chuckles and tells their husbands "you need to train them properly."  When I first told my family about the relationship between Master and me, I only had one Aunt who wrote to me and said she thought I was a stronger person than that.  My response was "so I am no longer strong in your eyes because I choose to serve the man I love in this way?"

In the end I don't have to live with them, their opinions would only matter if they supported me or if I was dependent on them for my livelihood. None of those things exists for me.  I make no apologies and do not try to hide what I am to Master.  They've all learned to accept it as it is and I no longer get questions about it.  In the end it doesn't matter that they don't "get it", as long as I do.

donna

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/21/2009 4:13:08 PM   
Hiskajirah


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Status: offline 		Greetings sgs

Yes everyone knows to one extent or other, all the family, our children were raised to know, all of this ones friends understood it for her, even if it was not for them.

Even graduated recently from a 6 week outpatient therapy program with collar and bells on. ~smiles

Warmest wishes,
~twinkle

quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetgirlserves

Hi girls,

I have a question for anyone willing to share...

Do any of your families know about your 'life' and are the accepting of you... did they try to deter you from your path? How did/do you handle the 'others' in your life... especially the parents, siblings, family, friends etc who really don't 'get it' at all?

~sgs


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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/21/2009 4:36:20 PM   
BeingChewsie


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Status: offline 		Yes, my family including my son and his bio-dad now know. Everyone clearly sees by how much I have accomplished in his collar and how good life is for me and my son in his household. It is my ideal life, they know it. I can't tell you how often family members have kiddingly said " Can he adopt us?" It would be hard to find fault here, to say that my life is a million times better than it would be if I was on my own is the understatement of the year. If they or anyone had any problem I would direct them to Master as it is not my issue to worry about anymore.

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/21/2009 6:18:12 PM   
fierykajira


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Status: offline 		Hi sgs,
No one knows... Save for a few choice friends. My dad thinks I rule men. I can't imagine what he'd think if he knew I'd rather they rule me.

♥ fox

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RE: slaves thread: support and girlie time - 7/21/2009 6:35:12 PM   
ishyB


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Status: offline 		Greetings sgs,

Everybody knows, friends, family, most of my co-workers, some of the neighbours.

I get good and bad responses.
My parents leave it at: "It's not something we approve of, but the most important thing is that you are happy."
Sometimes people try to convince me that what I'm doing is wrong, but as you have been able to see on these boards, I'm not one so shy aways of a debate and I usually come to the table with a much better prepared argument then they do. So thus far, everybody who has tried to convince me I was wrong either ended up agreeing with me, or walking away from trying to argue about it.

As to those who do not understand, I'll try to explain it to them if they care to know, and when I do, I tend to get away completely from the word slave and stick to Master's preferred wording 'mastered woman'. I also try to stick to debating Gorean ideals and philosophy and turn away from the emphasise of slavery.
Too many people associate the 'slave-thing' with BDSM and playing kinky games and I try to make clear that that is not at all what it is about.
I usually find that when you explain that, people are much more receptive to the whole idea.

I wish you well,

ishy

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I want you to know that it doesn't matter where we take this road
Someone's gotta go
and I want you to know you couldn't have loved me better
But I wanted to move on
So I'm already gone

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PoJFn_RIdkg

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