puella -> RE: Are there any Dominants who don't care about submissive orgasm? (4/26/2007 1:57:03 PM)
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Hello daddysprop, I think it is all in the motivation, of course. I think that 'just not caring' about just about anything about a person you are in a loving, emotionaly intensive, caring and healthy relationship with could indicate possible personality disorder indicators. For instance, you might feel a bit more skeptical if you switched the words... how would you feel about an owner who just didn't care that you experienced extreme pain or bleeding during intercourse, because he was taking you for his pleasure, not yours. How would you feel about an owner who didn't care that you were very unhappy much of the time, as long as his needs were met? It indicates (or could) to me a couple of things... lack of real value of the person they 'own', and instead just a value in the service disassociatively provided to them by 'property',and/or a personality which has no concern for the feelings and well being of others... which in the extreme, points to antisocial disorder/sociopathic tendencies. If the two people are symbiotic and happy... more power to the couple, I suppose, but there is something in my own personal understanding of a beautiful and healthy relationship, of any sort, in which both partners nurture and bring out the best and most healthy aspects of their humanity. I would think that, as Ravenmuse said, a Dominant would want to look into the issue of non-response in the woman whose growth and well being he has taken control of (even if, in the end it is decided that the best coarse IS for it to be a non-issue), rather than just breathngi a sigh of relief in finally finding a chick who he cum in without having to be bothered with all that annoying effort of 'getting the stupid bitch off' (I used two extreme examples in that comparison to show you what I meant in my first statment.. motivation.) At this point in my cumulative understanding of being a responsible person who gets involved in D/s power dynamic relationships, I think it is just absolutely imperative to scrupulously examine motivations.
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