kirameaMW
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ORIGINAL: Typcynic Hello All, First post on this website and this topic looks the closest to my inquest. What's the friggin deal with people who delete e-mail without reading them? First you find an ad from someone who wants to communicate, to build a relationship. Then you spend 20 minutes or so writing and rewriting a message so that it isn't demanding, or insulting, or has typos, and is a little bit cute based on something in their ad, while trying not to write something that raises the big red geek flag on their mailbox, only to have them hit delete sight unseen. For all the time and effort, I'd prefer if they wrote back "F U LOSER", since I would then know a) they read my message, and b) that it had an effect. Not the desired effect, but an effect nevertheless. What's the old saying, it's better to be hated than ignored? Oh well, just had to vent and blow off some steam. i can't say for the others, but my experience is when i reply to someone i have no interest in, i usually get a very rude email back. Most of those however appear to be obvious form letters, or they haven't read my profile. If the email shows that they have put some effort in it, i will email them back with a "thanks, but no thanks" reply. If it's the other..... oh well. If they can't put an effort in their emails, why should i put an effort in replying? As for the OP's question..... if the first email i get is someone trying to top/Dom me, i will either tell them "thanks but no thanks" or hit the delete button. Until i give them consent to be my top/Dom, they do not have permission to treat me as Theirs. What i like in the first email is the person referencing something in my profile (other than "nice pics. have any more"). i want to get to know the person first..... to know what He's like other than just BDSM/sex. Tell me something about Your interests. Compatibility is very important to me. Will we be able to relate on a level outside the bedroom? If all Their interests are contrary to mine, i doubt we would be a good match. i would much rather know that in the beginning than form some kind of relationship and find out later down the line. Also, if all they can talk about is sex, tying me up and abusing me, i will lose interest very fast. Don't get me wrong, i like sex as much as anyone, but i'm much more than just that. i want to feel like they want to get to know me, and not just want me for a quick roll in the hay.
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