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The Braid and the Knots - 4/28/2006 2:26:27 PM

MHOO314

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I wanted to share this analogy for thought and input, it is one I used with one of My students today and it seemed to appropriate to a BDSM relationship, it also is the result of some recent turbulent times--

I see the R/relationship like a macrame project--it starts with the ring, the agreement that there is a "circle" a yin and a yang, it moves, spins, but always supports. The T/two (add your number here) are the colored strands individual, from separate skeins of yarn---the initial knots are tied, separate and distinct. Then the weaving begins--if you think every strand, every knot is composed of mixed colors, I'd say you were wrong, for you have an identity that cannot and should not be lost completely in a relationship--as you each identify the things that are you, the knot should be your color alone---things like---elder care, child raising ( if pre-existing)--work decisions ( if pre-existing)--things that start out belonging to and are an agreement that they are you ( you here used to mean one or the other)---things that you agree on as a "team, family" should be mixed colors--as you make the knots, there should be an equal balance--IMHO--what I have found is when the knots are too much all one color, too much the other color, or two much a mix--its out of balance--if it becomes, this MUST be M/my knot and not yours---is it then that O/one begins to compromise themselves too much?

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RE: The Braid and the Knots - 4/28/2006 2:44:06 PM

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The only comment I can add is that your weave is a lot more complicated than mine.

Me, one girl-no kids.etc...........

Nice analogies otherwise,spot on.

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RE: The Braid and the Knots - 4/28/2006 7:49:07 PM

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Using your anology, I think you find the basis for all working relationships, you, me, and us. In every relationship, it can't be all me, or all you, but should have a nice blend of the three.

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RE: The Braid and the Knots - 4/29/2006 4:01:55 AM

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I agree completely, but I think we too often see, at least here, is that in the BDSM mode, it has to be all the Dominant and that is just not true, too often people don't let go of the fantasy to allow for the cold slap of reality, that life, life events and life issues have to be negotiated and determined.

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RE: The Braid and the Knots - 4/29/2006 4:13:53 AM

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Prefer the Jackson Pollock description...

The blank canvas is the first time that you lay eyes on each other. Every word is a drop. Every action is a splatter. By the time that the painting (relationship) is done, you have a one-of-a-kind creation that is yours' and yours' alone.

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