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Hm. Not sure about c-space - 8/30/2015 1:24:19 AM

AstandMarq

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We've been here for a few days now. Seems difficult to meet anyone. Got harassed by some vampire nosferatu wannabe, demanding to see my "asshole reality" immediately. lol
Site has potential I think, though...
Anyone have any positive experiences here?

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RE: Hm. Not sure about c-space - 8/30/2015 6:33:20 AM

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I have met some great people here. The first Dom I ever played with was from here. We stayed friends for 10 years. The first submissive I ever knew and talked to was from here. She took me to my first munch. I have met a lot of people through this site from all over the western states. I have made friendships that have lasted for years with people I met through here.

You are seeking what is referred to around here as a unicorn. It's not that they don't exist. The problem is that there are 100+ couples looking compared to the very rare bi female submissive who is willing to join an established couple. You have to sell yourself. You have to show her why she should pick you instead of that other couple. At the moment you are only offering her the chance of spicing up your sex life.

I had previously read your profile and was thinking of writing you. I looked at your picture and compared it with the height and weight you list in your profile. Quite frankly, and please forgive me if I am wrong, I think that picture was taken many years ago. You really should put up a picture that is more current. If you meet someone and don't look like the picture you put up here, then she will wonder what else you might lie about. It's also not a great idea to be negative in a profile and that is what you do when you mention alt and fetlife. Not sure why you even mention fetlife as it's the greatest place online to find munches and events. Fetlife was never meant to be a place to find a unicorn or a partner. If you are members of alt...well, sorry to hear that. By now you should know that you wasted your money. To me alt is a meat market. It's a bunch of horny men looking to get laid.

So my first suggestion to you would be to redo that profile. Add the vanilla stuff you enjoy doing and might do with your unicorn. Sell yourself in this buyer's market. Then you should go to your nearest munch. Attend events. You might even try some swinger's groups to find that unicorn.

Online is a hit and miss way of meeting a partner. Yes, I have made many friends through here, however, the vast majority I talked to here are not who or what they said they were. There are men pretending to be women. Married pretending to be single. There are many who have no intention of ever meeting with someone else from online. This means you will talk to many frogs or frogettes before finding a prince or princess.

Edited to add: If you really expected to find someone in less than a week, then you are extremely naive.

< Message edited by peppermint -- 8/30/2015 6:37:45 AM >

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RE: Hm. Not sure about c-space - 8/30/2015 10:45:41 AM

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Pretty much everything that peppermint said. If you are going to have pictures, make them recent. That picture does not represent who you are now.

Also, I'm very real here, and even "realer" on Fetlife, where I have 7 years of identity established under the name that everyone knows me by, which is not this screenname. That's my social network, I've met in person at least 75 of the 120-some people on my friends list.

I've done the unicorn thing, for a weekend. It was fun, but it's not a very fulfilling role for long term, that's for sure. I had to be ultra careful to be certain that I didn't hurt the girl's feelings (I liked her very much and knew she was a little uncertain with the situation). We all had a really good time, but I was not especially sexually fulfilled by the situation since I was essentially acting as a sex toy for the couple to use. The parameters had been negotiated so I wasn't let down or anything, but I'm a unicorn's unicorn.

What do you have to offer?

Oh, and in my first run through this place, back when it was still Collarme, I met my Master and others dear to me. So yes, it can work.

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RE: Hm. Not sure about c-space - 8/30/2015 10:53:17 AM

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If all you want is someone to play with, hire an escort.
Or join your local swinging community, make friends, and alternate playing. One week the other couple has an extra woman for play, the following week you do.

If you want someone for a relationship, well how many years were you out dating before you two met? Add half again to that for what it should take to find a compatible partner.

And yes, a whining profile about your inability to get a woman to date you is very unattractive.
The photos are obviously of much younger people than the age you claim to be. That by itself will make people assume you're both fake.

And here is the basic info on unicorns which you couldn't be bothered to do. Lazy and lying is not anymore attractive than whining. http://www.unicorns-r-us.com/

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RE: Hm. Not sure about c-space - 8/30/2015 11:20:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: AstandMarq

We've been here for a few days now. Seems difficult to meet anyone. Got harassed by some vampire nosferatu wannabe, demanding to see my "asshole reality" immediately. lol
Site has potential I think, though...
Anyone have any positive experiences here?

If you look on the forum page, right above this board is one called 'Positive Experiences".

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RE: Hm. Not sure about c-space - 8/30/2015 11:31:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

And here is the basic info on unicorns which you couldn't be bothered to do. Lazy and lying is not anymore attractive than whining. http://www.unicorns-r-us.com/

That was an excellent article. Thank you for sharing the link.

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