Gwynvyd
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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead I hate it when ... But it sucks that I will once again, be made to look like the bad guy to the Things. "Mommy won't let you go live in the lap of luxury, go the best private schools, be with your other family, get international travel experience, etc." Yeah well, I guess I'm just a fucking bitch that way. Sucks to have me for a mom... oh well, I think I can live with that. The lap of luxury can be fun drh but there are two "buts". (Well three now, 'cos I introduced this with a "but" but let's move on; shit - four now). Luxury and privilege can be fun BUT not truly fun unless you've earned it yourself, not just inherited or been given it. There's a huge difference in satisfaction levels. If the things want it and try hard (and ok if they get lucky a bit too) then they'll succeed. And actually what gives pleasure is success in improving, not how far you improve - doesn't have to be a great big fuck-off house you live in to give a feeling of achievement, just a nicer one than the one you had before. Luxury and privilege can be fun BUT they're not necessary. There was a wonderful documentary from Michael Palin on travels in the Sahara where he met a woman with a husband and a kid and - wait for it - their own stick! (Or something similar). They had bugger all else in this world but they had every expectation before too long of owning two sticks! The pure joy on this woman's face when she chatted about her life and her wonderful husband and kid (and her stick) made you see life in a different way. And sorry - another "but" (you keep count, I'm lost). Luxury and privilege can be fun BUT there are hugely more stupid arrogant selfish shits in the privileged world than there are in the under-priveleged one, trust me on this. Don't let your things have an easy life which turns them into selfish thoughtless shits. Bravo! Some of the most awful, selfish, greedy assholes I have met have been in the privaleged set. I swear they breed and raise them that way. SD is right in that things earned no matter how meager they may seem to others *feel* so much better then shit handed to you. I have refused to cowtow to my family. I am so proud of myself, and happy even in the shittiest of circumstances because I am making my own way, and living my own life. Those wads of cash, houses and cars come with flaming hoops that you have to jump through most of the time. I see my realitives and thank the Gods I did not live the lives they have, and turned out as bitter, jadded, and money grubbing as they are. You are doing the right thing by showing them that it does take hard work to keep a family together. It does take hard work to put food on the table. When sucess finds them they will know how to appreciate it, and not take it as a given right. *more hugs* Gwyn
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