earthycouple
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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave I think that the training period is training for both Dom and sub, its called training the sub I think because well Doms dont want to admit they need the training to but the fact is they are going through the training together and the Dom is really beeing trained as much as the sub is!! Magik's slave hmm....damn us dominants for being so egotistical that we can't admit to having learned a thing or two. For the purpose of the rest of this discussion...assume I am NOT talking about casual play partners or tops and bottoms. Also I am not speaking about "new dominants" who are still clueless. Every single day I learn something new. I crave learning and thrive on change. There is a difference between skills and learning your "new" sub or slave. Once you have a skill, you have it. You may learn a new technique for doing it or a way to improve it somehow....but once I know how to throw a single tail that's it. I know it. I will not change what I know that based on who's at the end of it. A skill a sub aquires, for example, eye contact restrictions, may have to relearned for another dominant. There are many dominants who require a slave to not make eye contact. If my slave was trained in this he will have to relearn because I demand eye contact. I personally believe seeing one's eyes tells a story that no other body part or sound can. A sub or slave has to learn the particulars of what an owner wants in basics. For example Robert has to learn how to keep my multiple toy bags neat and organized for MY wants. Not how he wants or what he may learned from a different dominant. I have to learn how to properly train him to carry out this request. What sort of a learner is he? Can I simply tell him and he's got it? Do I need to stand over him and watch him do it because he learns by doing? I also need to know if he has preconceived notions about how toys should be arranged. That could be a block for him doing this to my specifications. So while people speak of training a sub, yes...the dominant is learning as well...he is learning the intricacies of his new ward. Of course if the dominant is 18 and never held a singletail, a length of rope or a flogger...we have a whole different story.
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