hawkwolf7
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I don't know if this fits your situation, but since it is a possibility, I thought I would share. My very first D/s relationship was with a woman who was a Fem Dom, but for whatever reasons, she desired to be submissive to me. So, while she is technically a switch, there are very few people she would consider being submissive to. In other words, she was effectively a Fem Dom. Anyway, she had several submissives of her own, and their relationships preceeded ours. Our relationship caused a lot of discomfort for one of her submissives. She would have to walk away whenever we played. After several months, all three of us working to build relationships together, as human beings instead of BDSM roles, we discovered the problem. My submissive's submissive was uncomfortable because she had placed her Mistress on a pedestal. And one of the strongest pillars of this pedestal was that her Fem Dom was the meanest, toughest bitch around, (which she really was), and seeing her submit to my will, (or anyone for that matter) knocked that pillar away, and sent the pedestal crashing down. In other words, part of the "stroke" she got from being submissive to her Mistress was the knowledge that not many could or would be able to take on her role. And that she was a favorite of one of the communities feared and respected edge players. So, she felt a loss when her Fem Dom would submit to anyone. It just didn't match her "image" of her Mistress. Fortunately, the three of us became good friends, and upon occasion, the submissive would serve me as well as her Mistress. For my part, I tried to be sensitive to her needs, and would limit our D/s play to the times she wasn't there. So, MStar, I have no idea if your submissive shares any of this dynamic. If so, then I hope that my story will be helpful to you. But, if it is as simple as your submissive being unwilling or unable to share your attention, it has been my experience that a relationship structure like yours (linear poly) simply cannot support feelings of jealousy by any of its members. Well, that's not quite true, but the person who will take the most damage from the jealousy is you. Sincerely, HawkWolf
< Message edited by hawkwolf7 -- 5/11/2007 5:26:28 PM >
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p.s. Everything I write is simply one person's opinion: mine. Feel free to take what is useful and blow off the rest. All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost.
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