toadMystC
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Hello Mystress, and All the people that have taken time to reply, I first want to start off by posting some quotes that do sort of fit the situation, then address each one, please bear with me : When I read that I got the feeling that maybe he was not necessarily scared of you. Maybe he was scared of the intensity of what it was you brought out in him, somehting that may have been unexpected. " MsKatHouston " This applies in the observation of intensity. pixel makes several closely accurate observations through his entire post, about tenderness of the area, and emotions on both parts. While Mystress was examining me, Her attentions were causing some minor discomfort because of being tender at being bound on the testicles and penis for the entire day with yarn, with some erect happenings during lunch caused by my arrousal and focus on Her, and the drive to and from work almost had me pulling over to walk around for a few minutes. During lunch, my arrousal was increased at the unexpectedness of added attention into a new area of curiousity as well, and this was explored in minor detail at home, while She was examining me. I was in a very relaxed, almost trance-like state, very focused on Her face, and while i did see her hand moving, heard Her voice in a calm and playful tone, i flinched when i did not notice Her hand almost to my face, even though it was in full sight of me at all times. I IMMEDIATELY slammed myself down in forced locked, upright position, but i could already see the damage was done, even though She tried to mask it. All i wanted to do was drop to the floor and cry, beg at Her feet, for another chance, but i didn't feel it would have changed anything at that time. In my mind, i was literally kicking myself for flinching, not because of how i felt, but how it made Her feel, i'm her slave, my feelings come second to our relationship, what matters to me most, is Her feelings and desires. She has worked with me in the beginning, to rid me of that jerk reaction of being hit, or touched, tied to a cross, and blindfolded, so that i could not see what was coming, and that night ( several months ago ) was the LAST time ( before last night ) that i flinched or jerked. I can only summise that it was the trance state, relaxed enough to remain focused yet enjoy the feelings of Her tugging on my scrotum and testing the tenderness, that didn't allow me to fully keep aware of Her exact hand position over my body, and when i became aware of it ( seemingly very near my beard, another place i like Her tugging ), that was the time that i flinched. My ex-wife had hit me for years for making her mad, yet i never had any, nor do i see any abuse coming from Mystress, and i did approach Her to explain as best as i could. The aftercare, to me, was Her tugging and administering Her affections while i stood there and enjoyed my focus on Her control over my body. When She says She'd rather cut Her arm off, i believe She would do that and more, to convince me that Her intention was not abuse, my trust in Her is absolute, and un-wavering. I've trusted Her with several knives at my throat and other areas of my body, not play knives, real sharp.. cut your skin if you rest against the blade, split hair in two sharp, floggers, and now CBT, which until yesterday, was something i was fairly sure i would not enjoy at all, let alone wear to work. She has since placed a new bondage peice on me, and it is more comfortable, and i'm grateful that everyone has not only given some excellent advice in Her time of need, but that everyone has helped convince Her to try once more to help me grow in my service to Her desires and pleasures. I am of the opinion that internalizing feelings is not conducive to a healthy relationship, yet the first instinct when i feel someone is mad or hurt, is to give them space for a time, then approach to talk when things are more calm. In retrospect, this may not be a good tatic, because it could lead right back to hurt or anger, before being worked out, and the next logical response would be to just work it out before it cools. When She asks me how i feel about any activity, i do try to be as thorough in answering Her, so that She will be as informed as i can help Her to be. Thank you for helping answer Her question. toad[MystC] House of Phoenix Athens, Ga
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