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RE: Password safety - 5/16/2007 10:21:58 AM   
slaverosebeauty


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From: Cali
Status: offline 		Ditto above, hell no. Your password is a LOT of trust, it takes em a very long time to get to that place with someone, its not hiding something from them, its privacy and its common sence. You don't give out your PIN number so why would you give yuor password to someone you don't know.

I keep a file on my comp with my passwords, I change them so often I have to keep a list of which ones are in use, yet, that file has a password; something that if [God Forbid] anything happened to me, someone close to me could figure out by answering my security question.

I found a password generator online, I LOVE it. http://www.pctools.com/guides/password/ You can set all sorts of things, if it has symbols or numbers or letters, etc and how many digits you need. The site doesn't save the passwords, so you can use them as you wish, I usually run 3 searches and copy all fo them, then mix them up on my own and use them.

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RE: Password safety - 5/16/2007 1:04:32 PM   
lovetokissnylons


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

I gave someone my passwords to this site
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He was quite amused at the emails that I would get here.



So, must have been HIM that blocked me, huh ? 

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RE: Password safety - 5/16/2007 2:26:27 PM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		Nope.  It was me.

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RE: Password safety - 5/16/2007 2:35:58 PM   
lovetokissnylons


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Status: offline 		Can't believe that. 
Am going to assume that it's still him, giving responses "as if" he were (was ?) you.

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RE: Password safety - 5/16/2007 3:37:12 PM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		You can believe anything that you like.

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Password safety a volatile subject! - 5/17/2007 9:37:37 AM   
GiselleBiCD


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Status: offline 		WOW! Never did I expect to get so many responses, such heated passion, and I feel bad if anyone got their feelings hurt in the discourse. But I have to say thank you for the reassurances that I did the right thing. Thank you for the genuine concern some of you had for my safety, I am humbled. Now that I have left this pot boil, I will go into further detail. At the time I posted this topic, it was already too late between that Dom and I. I did not blindly follow orders so I was dismissed without notice. Just no more emails, no more nothing. So I did what any other self respecting gurl like me would do... Trashed him in my journal! He subscribes to my journal (or he used to) so he read what I thought about him. My friend agrees with me that I should compile all your responses to this and count the pros and cons and mail them to him (email addresses and IDs removed OF COURSE!). Just the responses. Then tell him "You lose out, so called Master!" There were only a small number of email exchanges between us, I can't give you the exact number, (woman scorned, I deleted them) but I know there were not 10 exchanges between us. It was moving too fast and in an adverse direction. But now I know where to go when I have a question or doubt myself. This community is so great!! Luv to you all, Giselle.

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RE: Password safety - 5/17/2007 12:24:12 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I agree with much that has been said here. I would not even continue on with the "getting to know you" phase with someone that wanted that sort of access into my private personal correspondence before I even met him... no way no how.

We have been seeing each other for a year and he still does not have my passwords because he does not want them. If he wanted them he could have them at this point, he just does not see it as necessary. I tell him about all the emails I get anyways (at least the ones that would concern him).

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RE: Password safety - 5/18/2007 2:05:15 PM   
ready4srvce4all


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Status: offline 		I don't know what "a few" emails entails.  I think at some point, the trust will be there.  But you have to feel that trust.  It's a risk, as reading the posts, there are those in relationships for a good while, and still won't.  It's your pace. Just don't do it to please, unless there is trust.  When I gave Mistress my password to CM when She asked, She  was surprised at the level of trust I had in Her, and what had She done to earn that trust?  It was quite simple.  We had numerous chats online and on the phone.  We had arranged to meet, and I had plane tickets.  But more than anything else, I told Her..."You have given me Your address, phone numbers, website to review Your nursing license, I know the names of Your children, husband, their birthdays,  and even talked on the phone with Your daughters.  You have given me trust for more valuable info then a password on CM.  I trust You with my life from what You have shared."  Or something to that effect.  So if that helps as a bit of a guidline of when you might feel that kind of trust, then great.  But I'm probably a bit more of a risk taker in many ways than others.  There is no right or wrong way, but make sure that trust is earned.   My advice right now though, is don't do it. Just by the fact you put this thread on here shows you don't have that trust yet.


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RE: Password safety - 5/18/2007 2:12:00 PM   
earthycouple


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Status: offline 		My slave is a smart man...Ditto.

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RE: Password safety - 5/18/2007 2:16:03 PM   
pinksugarsub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GiselleBiCD

Hey Everybody,

I was recently beginning a Dom/sub relationship that was progressing towards ownership. We had only exchanged a few emails, but shortly into the life of the correspondence he asked me to give him my password to this site. I want to hear from everyone out there as to their opinion if this is a good idea or not.

I know how I feel, I need/want to hear from YOU!

Thanks for your time and attention!
Giselle


Giselle how was it "progressing towards ownership" when Y/you only "exchanged a few emails"?
 
Nevermind that.....don't give out yr password and if you already have, change it.  Like now.

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RE: Password safety - 5/18/2007 5:16:38 PM   
Termyn8or


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Status: offline 		LOL, my PC signs on transparently, I have long forgotten my password. That means I can only post from home. That also means if I get another PC I will have to ask CM for my password or just reup with a new account.

NO, I would not give out the password under these circunstances. You can't trust them yet. And I would be highly suspicious of the question, and venture to say that you might never be able to trust this person.

I think this was a stupidity test. Throw this at them "Give me ytours first". Then test it before giving yours out, that is if there is a logical reason for anyone else to come here and masquerade as you.

I have given out passwords, to people I've known over ten years. And not very often.

So in a nutshell, ABSOLUTELY NOT.

T

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RE: Password safety - 5/18/2007 8:14:36 PM   
adoracat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub

Giselle how was it "progressing towards ownership" when Y/you only "exchanged a few emails"?
 
Nevermind that.....don't give out yr password and if you already have, change it.  Like now.


its working towards ownership once the interest has been expressed.  you both agree that the relationship is headed in that direction, and the sub stops looking for other Dominants.

it doesnt mean anything more than that.

kitten,  who stopped looking and got Owned.  *smiles*

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RE: Password safety a volatile subject! - 5/18/2007 8:22:34 PM   
shyinini


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GiselleBiCD

I did not blindly follow orders so I was dismissed without notice. Just no more emails, no more nothing.


This is a direct quote from my Sir to a gal we are mentoring in regards to blind obedience/faith/trust when initiating a new/newer relationship ....
".....Male Doms even real ones are
men of control, but even they are not god! Real Doms
know they can not demand blind faith. Leave blind
faith for your religion. Make us mortal Dominants earn
your trust and faith....."

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RE: Password safety - 5/19/2007 11:26:47 PM   
Kitte9


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Status: offline 		I think the consensus speaks loudly here.

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RE: Password safety - 5/20/2007 7:35:43 AM   
grlneedstolearn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GiselleBiCD

Hey Everybody,

I was recently beginning a Dom/sub relationship that was progressing towards ownership. We had only exchanged a few emails, but shortly into the life of the correspondence he asked me to give him my password to this site. I want to hear from everyone out there as to their opinion if this is a good idea or not.

I know how I feel, I need/want to hear from YOU!

Thanks for your time and attention!
Giselle



i say never give your pw to anyone, no exceptions

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RE: Password safety - 5/20/2007 7:56:07 AM   
adoracat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn
i say never give your pw to anyone, no exceptions


i'd disagree slightly with this.

i am the keeper of the passwords for our household.  i know them.....because passwords get forgotten, sometimes people dont check things for a long period of time, and its my husband and i against a smart-arsed teen.

there must be Honor....i've my husband's passwords, but i dont look at his account(s) unless there is DAMNED good reason to.  IE:  deleting a screen name from aol, changing the kid's screen name, checking something he's asked me to.

for that reason alone, yes on the passwords.  if you have a secure place to write your password down (or a secure memory), obviously you wouldnt have to do this.

kitten, who's always known the passwords and never snooped.

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RE: Password safety - 6/5/2007 9:29:33 PM   
kharaakitten


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Status: offline 		i believe it is acceptable to give your passwords to others, if you trust them. In my humble opinion, the fact that you posted asking opinions shows that you do not yet have the trust that one should if/when they make this choice. So, i believe you should not do so. 

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RE: Password safety - 6/7/2007 5:34:42 AM   
LadyHeart


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Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline 		Have you read CollarMe's Terms of Service - you know, all that stuff you don't read when you tick the "yes" box?
I am reasonably certain that you would be breaching the TOS by giving someone else your password.
If you're prepared to be dishonest with CollarMe, then that says something about your integrity, doesn't it, and the integrity of the person asking you to do it? Trustworthiness is an absolute - it can't be applied selectively.

BTW - this is a good argument to feed back to the person asking you to be dishonest, hehehe
:))
LH

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RE: Password safety - 6/7/2007 9:40:39 AM   
bliss1


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Status: offline 		Not a chance would I give it to him.
The only exception to that rule would be - living together as partners.

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