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RE: "Under Consideration" - 5/17/2007 4:46:04 PM

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with Daddy, literally one day he was my good friend and Mentor, and the next he was my Master for life. He didn't "consider" me and i didn't "consider" him. before the moment when we actually became Master and slave, we had no commitment of any kind to one another, and neither of us had even considered the other for a partner.

I think you're really lucky in that sense, and obviously it was a good match. I think that the whole "consideration" thing applies more to people who are just getting to know each othre for the first time as opposed to people who already basically know who each other are, have decided they like who each other are, and one day decide to go for a D/s dynamic. If I met someone in r/t or online and he wanted to be my sub/slave, hell yeah there would be a loooooong period of consideration (hopefully not only on my part either) before taking the plunge. That consideration period may not be formally, outwardly marked, as in a collar, but I can't deny that it would exist. I don't think it's possible to have a relationship with someone on any level without first meeting them, evaluating them ("considering" them), and deciding whether to keep them in your life or not based on your assessment of their value as a friend or anything else.

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RE: "Under Consideration" - 12/3/2008 3:00:55 PM

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I still don't understand how new subs are under consideration less than 24 hours after they join (especially if its a new person, not some who made a new profile after finding someone or had someone to begin with. Are they truly that desperate?(not really the sub, but the Doms.

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RE: "Under Consideration" - 12/4/2008 3:45:35 PM

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Everyone will have their own reasoning or definition of this phrase. When i've talked with other Doms on here, one of the most common answers is that it does not exist so to say and that no one is "under consideration". The same, from what i've heard, is "under protection". Again the phrase is not correct. But from my perspective i don't see why people can't use it. If you want to use it, use it. But in my situation only the "under protection" applies, though i'm sure i'll recieve many rebuttals against it. Be what you want it to mean to you and yours.

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RE: "Under Consideration" - 12/4/2008 6:28:22 PM

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~fast reply~

As I said on an earlier thread, if I tell someone xhe's "under consideration", it means "I'm thinking about it." It's not a "pre-collar engagement", it's an opportunity to meet a couple more times and see what happens. If I've met with someone over coffee, then had them come twice in service, it's decision time for me... either I am comfortable enough to put them in a probationary collar (probation, for us, lasts at least 6 months), or I let them go to try to find something more suitable. Same goes for them -- either they are ready to make the relationship active (a regular schedule, collar, and training/service plan), or we're not the place for them. For us, the probationary collar is the formal acknowledgment. If one is going to use the 'engagement' analogy, the probation collar would be our 'engagement'.

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RE: "Under Consideration" - 12/4/2008 10:42:31 PM

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Under consideration means to me "I am watching out for you, if we so happen to be compatible and will work out, we MIGHT move on to the next step."

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