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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 5/15/2005 9:31:24 AM   
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Thanks LA... I have used wooden clothespins, but they're kind of tame... Doesn't get the desired hurt moan reaction I like to hear, lol... I really am becoming a sadist.

Love the other ideas... Don't grow nails because chipped nails and partially broken nails drive me insane, but brushes I can do. Thanks, M


look at little girls' hairclips... I get them about 1 doz. to a card... you know, those cute little butterfly clips with teeny tiny teeth... I have dozens of those in all those pretty rainbow colors... I call them my "biting butterflies"... I have dozens of them in varying sizes/colors...

now think of some of them around the edge of the head of the penis... or in that most sensitive place, the frenum (right under the head)... very very intense!

another type of clip to consider would be those novelty clothespins for baby showers... teeny tiny clips that pinch so nastily... ::weg:: find them at the party story in the baby shower section...

I also get clips at my local dollar store (99-Cent Only)... 100 for $1... never such a thing as too many... LOL! and the "package" looks SO festive when decorated completely! what's even better is that those clips are SO cheap one can toss them afterwards & not waste time cleaning them... or give them away as a souvenir of the scene...

the kitchen supply section is great for fun refrigerator clips... my partner (a Top himself) loves those OXO clips... there's usually some sort of metal clip there too... good for use with the violet wand...

a malesub I know dips the ends of his wooden clothespins in ToolDip (a rubberized dipping solution)... man! those hurt when dragged off since the rubber tends to stick & drag...

clips are SO much fun!

as for broken/chipped fingernails, wellllll... getting my hands manicured is a treat for me -- my hands are my tools and I treat them accordingly... ::smile:: and sometimes I have my sub take me out to have my hands "done" -- he loves my hands as much as I do! of course, it's much more fun when I have the girls do HIS hands/feet too... ::weg::

LadyBadger




Hello Lady Badger

It was so great to meet you at DomConLA.

Respectfully
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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 5/15/2005 1:09:47 PM   
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look at little girls' hairclips... I get them about 1 doz. to a card... you know, those cute little butterfly clips with teeny tiny teeth... I have dozens of those in all those pretty rainbow colors... I call them my "biting butterflies"... I have dozens of them in varying sizes/colors...

now think of some of them around the edge of the head of the penis... or in that most sensitive place, the frenum (right under the head)... very very intense!
LadyBadger

Awesome Ideas LadyBadger... I will be buying a lot more hair supplies, and can't wait to try them. Thank You, M

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Update on :Need to Learn about CBT - 5/30/2005 12:33:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		I got the book "The Family Jewels" at MikoExoticwear, and it is awesome, and it has scared me into thinking that I will not ever be heavily involved in CBT after reading all of the potential risks/Troubleshooting; I would be embarrassed and afraid of legal repercussions if I broke/did permanent harm to a man's Family Jewels.. Yikes!. M

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RE: Update on :Need to Learn about CBT - 5/30/2005 1:34:08 AM   
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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 5/30/2005 8:30:12 PM   
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have you checked out the humblers? They are not cheap but worth it as far as I'm concerned. /b]

You can get a humbler for about $20 http://stores.ebay.com/Stumpys-Woodworking_W0QQsspagenameZl2QQtZkm

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RE: Update on :Need to Learn about CBT - 5/30/2005 10:38:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

I got the book "The Family Jewels" at MikoExoticwear, and it is awesome, and it has scared me into thinking that I will not ever be heavily involved in CBT after reading all of the potential risks/Troubleshooting; I would be embarrassed and afraid of legal repercussions if I broke/did permanent harm to a man's Family Jewels.. Yikes!. M


there are risks in all bdsm play, IMNSHO... that's why we as Tops learn as much as possible before playing -- physiology/anatomy of the play area, how tools/toys work, the effects, the risks/dangers, etc. ... armed with that knowledge, it's possible to proceed [more or less] safely... and if Safe is not acceptable, then Risk Aware might work better...

LadyBadger

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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 5/30/2005 10:46:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyBadger
look at little girls' hairclips... I get them about 1 doz. to a card... you know, those cute little butterfly clips with teeny tiny teeth... I have dozens of those in all those pretty rainbow colors... I call them my "biting butterflies"... I have dozens of them in varying sizes/colors...

now think of some of them around the edge of the head of the penis... or in that most sensitive place, the frenum (right under the head)... very very intense!
LadyBadger

Awesome Ideas LadyBadger... I will be buying a lot more hair supplies, and can't wait to try them. Thank You, M


Our boy calls those "the evil little bastards" - quite effective.

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RE: Update on :Need to Learn about CBT - 5/30/2005 11:12:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyBadger
there are risks in all bdsm play, IMNSHO... that's why we as Tops learn as much as possible before playing -- physiology/anatomy of the play area, how tools/toys work, the effects, the risks/dangers, etc. ... armed with that knowledge, it's possible to proceed [more or less] safely... and if Safe is not acceptable, then Risk Aware might work better...
LadyBadger

Thanks LadyBadger,
I understand what you mean, and I'm not one to flinch/run at seeing most risks, but some of the things in there were potentially very harmful... As the book points out, there is a large spectrum covering Cock and Ball play, and I will no doubt try the less potentially permanent damaging ones . M


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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 5/30/2005 11:13:54 PM   
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LadyBadger

Awesome Ideas LadyBadger... I will be buying a lot more hair supplies, and can't wait to try them. Thank You, M

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Our boy calls those "the evil little bastards" - quite effective.

Well that gives them extra endorsements in my book. Thanks, M

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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 6/4/2005 7:38:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		Wow who do thank for this wnderful group and thank you whoever you are for this topic.
my name is mike and i have ben longing to explor this area(cbt) the area that most inspire me are have the genital tightly bound and teased,the gentles either or both used as targets for slapping,having the balls squeezed and pulle and having the balls crushes iby the Lady in her hands or under her foot. Also punching and kicking,but i confess i am concered how even a carring top can gauge the line past wher there is serious injury.
Does ny one know if there ball busting workshops in the ny area? or if any of you ever want cantinue this subjuct please feel free to email me
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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 6/4/2005 10:24:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		You're welcome Mike... You might do better looking on the other side with profiles that include CBT as interests. M

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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 6/4/2005 11:10:11 AM   
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You might do better looking on the other side with profiles that include CBT as interests


Great idea. A quick search shows 21 dommes in New York who have an interest in CBT and who have visited Collarme in the past month.

And of course, artdecant might also do well to attend his local BDSM events or munch. He is likely to meet some knowledgeable people that way.

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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 6/4/2005 11:38:06 AM   
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RE: Update on :Need to Learn about CBT - 6/4/2005 12:29:18 PM   
BeachMystress


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Status: offline 		Remember, you don't have to get overly harsh in CBT to get an extreme reaction from a man. You're not likely to damage the balls or penis by doing the thing where you use thumb and forefinger to flick.. but you can bring a man to his knees with tears in his eyes. Low risk, big reaction.

In CBT, I usually use about the amount of force I'd use to smack a dog's nose or baby's hand for doing something bad. A little goes a loooong way.

I think you'd really enjoy a Wartenburg Wheel http://www.extremerestraints.com/stat/ns100.html The way I use it, it leaves little dotted lines.. You'll have the sub screaming with very little effort. You can also get them as disposable ones, since (as far as I am concerned) these are a blood drawing instrument. http://www.komkare.com/diagnostics/reflx_sens/cleanwheel.html

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RE: Update on :Need to Learn about CBT - 6/4/2005 2:11:03 PM   
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Remember, you don't have to get overly harsh in CBT to get an extreme reaction from a man. You're not likely to damage the balls or penis by doing the thing where you use thumb and forefinger to flick.. but you can bring a man to his knees with tears in his eyes. Low risk, big reaction.

Thanks very much for this info... Off to look at Wartenburg wheel . M

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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 6/12/2005 9:05:45 AM   
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Thanks LA... I have used wooden clothespins, but they're kind of tame... Doesn't get the desired hurt moan reaction I like to hear, lol... I really am becoming a sadist.

Thanks, M


Another technique by Hardy. Put clothespins on the cock and balls as normal and then string a leather shoelace through the spring of each clothespin and pop them off.

As an example, put a few along the top of the cock shaft in a row and string the lace though the springs. Tie a big knot on the end closest to the cock head (closest to you) so that it will not slip through the springs. When you pull on the other end of the lace, the clothespins will pop off one at a time. There can be an agonizingly long wait in between pops, or a quick yank will rip them all off in a split second.

You can make as many of these rows as you want and then pull them off one row at a time, or all at once. You can also tug enough so they don't pop off but tenderize each clothespin one at a time before pulling it off. Of course, you can also whip the clothespins, or hit them with your hands to get him nice and tender first.

As you can see, there are lot of fun ways to use clothespins. And lots of fun for Sadists :)

Fred

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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 6/12/2005 9:33:59 AM   
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Put clothespins on the cock and balls as normal and then string a leather shoelace through the spring of each clothespin and pop them off.



This is known as a zipper. I'll put up a picture with a couple of mine shown. Zippers are home made, and you can be as simple or elaborate as you like with them. Since mine are one of my favorite toys, I tend to paint and decorate them. I find for CBT, the smaller clothespins work best (about an inch and a half long) but all the ones in the photo I'll be posting are full size clothespins.






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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 6/12/2005 9:41:17 AM   
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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 6/12/2005 12:15:37 PM   
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Another technique by Hardy. Put clothespins on the cock and balls as normal and then string a leather shoelace through the spring of each clothespin and pop them off.
Fred

Thanks to Fred and all responders for all the great advice/suggestions. M

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RE: Need to Learn about CBT - 6/13/2005 12:04:49 AM   
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