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"Trust me, you'll find it fun!" - 5/18/2007 12:45:39 PM

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What is the kinkiest thing you have convinced a non kinky partner to do, and how did you talk them into it?

I originally was starting this thread over at "Ask a Mistress" because I was interested to hear how other women have talked non-sub men into submitting to various acts. Basically taking a glimpse into the seduction process. I'm sure a lot of dominant men have had to convince a non-sub lady to indulge him. So how did you talk her into it, and did you deliver on the promise of a good time?

How do you talk someone into something a little kinkier -- like letting you piss on her? With men, I have always found that the biggest carrot to be offered is the promise of how much it will turn me on; men LOVE to arouse their women, and it feeds their ego and also turns them on. So if I can make a man believe he is going to make me incredibly wet, and deliver on that promise, he's willing to "try" something he otherwise would have not shown an interest in. Then often he realizes he enjoys it.

Now, for dominant men, I am not so sure the promise of "you will really turn me on," is enough to convince a non kinky woman - but maybe I am wrong. What do you use to convince her to give it a try, without relying on pressure or guilting?

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RE: "Trust me, you'll find it fun!" - 5/18/2007 12:47:48 PM

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I think the response in women is the same, that they pleasure their partner by doing so.

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(and I really liked your diatribe on the weiner thread A!!!!)

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RE: "Trust me, you'll find it fun!" - 5/18/2007 12:48:53 PM

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The only type of play I use this line for is wax and electricity. These are the only formso f play where I have honestly found EVERY person to enjoy it in some way on some level. If they don't it's because the other person sucked or wasn't doing it well.

Otherwise, I never use that line. People use it on me all the time to try and convince me that I really will like pain, or really can orgasm easily. It becomes very condescending, rude, and presumptuous.

So I'd eagerly encourage someone to try everything if they are curious about it, to start slow and see how they really feel, just as I'd tell them to try a new food.

But only if it were Coldstone Creamery would I push it and tell them to trust me that they will definitely love it and be pushy about it.

< Message edited by LuckyAlbatross -- 5/18/2007 12:49:19 PM >

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RE: "Trust me, you'll find it fun!" - 5/18/2007 12:53:40 PM

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In the past I have found that with most of the woman I have known, they were more self conciouse of how I felt about them in relationship to the kink as aposed to not wanted to do something because it was too kinky. I allways started out with positions that were considered kinky by them and then started small kinks and once the trust was developed that what they were doing was not causing me to look down on them (have to use positive reinforcment) then they were pretty much willing to try anything once. Everthing starts with good conversation and not being judgmental about what they have done in the past or what they were curiouse about. I have often found that once woman opened up about their sexuality verbally it allso opened there minds to the exploration of it.

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RE: "Trust me, you'll find it fun!" - 5/18/2007 1:56:03 PM

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Being verbal, letting them know when I was enjoying what they were doing. During moments when they felt awkward to encourage them and tell them exactly what to do. Hence just being my normal domly self. She appreciated this very much to no end. It built trust and confidence between her and I, to the level she felt comfortable about sharing fantasies. This in term led me to open up about my own kinks. Amazing what can happen when another person trusts another to guide and communicate with them. I have yet to met anybody who did not have any unfullfilled closet kinks.

It was not a matter of me talking them into it, as much as it was gaining trust building confidence and simply guiding them along in fullfilling their own burning desires. Had very little to do with me talking them into anything. If my own kinks or fantasies were not a hard limit then wa la, it happened. Nothing better then to let nature takes it's own course and not push for something to happen. Communication, Trust and encouragement goes a long way...

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RE: "Trust me, you'll find it fun!" - 5/18/2007 4:47:22 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

The only type of play I use this line for is wax and electricity.

Lmao! In my limited experience so far.....these are the two I personally dislike the most....borderline hard limits. To each his own I guess.......

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RE: "Trust me, you'll find it fun!" - 5/18/2007 4:55:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

It was not a matter of me talking them into it, as much as it was gaining trust building confidence and simply guiding them along in fullfilling their own burning desires. Had very little to do with me talking them into anything. If my own kinks or fantasies were not a hard limit then wa la, it happened. Nothing better then to let nature takes it's own course and not push for something to happen. Communication, Trust and encouragement goes a long way...

Very well said.

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