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ShadeDiva -> RE: Practicing switch? (6/1/2004 12:01:09 AM)
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Find a top or a dominant that you are BOTH comfy with - and see if they will consider co-topping with you to help you gain more confidence and give pointers.
I LOVE co-topping, the other dominant/top always gives me something to bounce off from from the dominant role - I do this with my S.O., and the energy we are able to cultivate is just awesome. I always learn something new or a different way to see things, and it's just plain fun, besides!
Most bottoms and submissives welcome the opportunity to be the focus of two deliciously evil brains, so why not simply be honest with him, tell him that you aren't feeling very confident due to inexperience and perhaps you could co-top him with another dominant (he might have someone he knows that would be perfect), and you gain their experience and devious knowledge, while feeling you have a safety net so to speak.
I think it's one of the absolute best ways to learn and home your dominant/top skills, and it's just always so fun too, I see it as being a win-win situation.
Then again, I've never had a *bad* experience doing that, so mileage may vary.
~ShadeDiva
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