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My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 11:58:01 AM   
Shylahgirl


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Status: offline 		I have noticed a few things regarding the post on this web sight… and I will be the first to admit that I do not go through every post to check this… but it seems to me that for almost every post there are the same 3-4 people who always respond with something negative about the posters problem.  

Personally whenever I post something regarding an issue I’ve been having with something involving BDSM and ask for advise I always get one or all of these people chiming in with their  $.02 telling me how my Master or I are doing something wrong or we are in some way bad players or bad people. 

 Of course I try to give more info, because I assume that I wasn’t clear in what I was asking. The problem with that is that I can never give enough info to clearly show why I am asking this question or what is really involved in the situation   Every time I do this something else in what I said is picked out and torn apart as Master or I being bad people and I, of course, feel very attacked and start to get defensive.  

The odd thing is that these 3-4 people who are always poking holes in others posts and saying negative things about the poster or what ever don’t seem to be starting threads them selves (at least I haven’t seen any). I wonder why they don’t post threads.   

How do they find the time to go around and chime in on all of these other threads?   Are they just a wealth of unlimited knowledge and it is their purpose in life to go to the collarme posts and point out something that is wrong with people?  

Should I get down on my knees and bow to these peoples years of online experience?  

I say that they have online experience because out of all the mean remarks I have not yet had a hint that they have experienced BDSM in real life.  

Out of all the responses I have received for these people I have not yet been help by anything they have had to say, I have been upset by it. I have felt attacked. I have been confused as to why they think that saying, indirectly, that my Master or I are bad people would help me with my problem.  But I haven't read anything from these people that has helped me in any way.

I know that I’m going to get a lot of pissed off people responding to this with angry words… I don’t care.   If people have the right to be negative to me and say needlessly mean things about my Master or I, then I have the right to bitch and moan about it.

Go ahead and yell and bitch at me… no matter how much you type... no matter how big your caps are I will not change what I believe on this and I still will not care from this point forward. when you post something that is just pointlessly mean I will just laugh at you ;)  

Shylah

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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:03:12 PM   
texancutie


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Status: offline 		Interesting view.  Don't let others upset you, especially if you personally feel all they have is online experience.  

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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:07:22 PM   
FatDomDaddy


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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:11:00 PM   
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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:17:14 PM   
MistressDoMe


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Status: offline 		I feel like the boy from the 6th sense usually around here.
I see mean people.

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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:31:11 PM   
SirKenin


Posts: 2994
Joined: 10/31/2004
From: Barrie, ON Canada
Status: offline 		Welcome to the world's biggest community of cyber-wankers where you can pretend to be anything you want, because the probability of anybody calling you on your bluff are about as great as Real and farglebargle admitting the facts.

The online BDSM community (any of them, not just this one) appears to be some kind of huge joke.  Never in my life have I seen so many wankers that think because they have assumed a role that they are Gods/Goddesses and that you owe them something.  Money, gifts, kneeling, pictures of your tits, "call Me SIR!!!!", "call Me MISTRESS"..."Oh, and please make your cheques payable to 'CASH'".  Have you taken some of the time to read some of these losers' profiles?  Holy shit.  Like.  Honestly.  They think they are royalty or something.  It is good for a laugh, but not much else...   And damn it all I forgot to kneel and kiss their feet..  The feet that they themselves look like they have not seen in about 15 years.

I have made a few attempts here and there to actually contact people with some genuine interest about where they're from, their hobbies, etc.  You know..  I actually am a nice guy when people do not piss me off...  But I have been met with some utterly rude people..  Some of them so hideously ugly a monkey would not date them (which makes me wonder why they have to destroy their last semblance of humanity, their personality).  Now, I can understand if I was in some way rude or ignorant to them....  But that was not the case..  "Hi, I am from Ontario too.  Which part of Ontario are you from?"  To which they respond with venom from hell...   I have been met with an ugly old fart posing as a young female model.  I have been met by others that do not agree with the way I conduct my life and therefore I can not possibly be a Daddy Dom.  And then those that think I am an asshole because I tell them in no uncertain terms what I think of them.. In my typical blunt fashion.

And THEN..  I have my slut on here...  Who shall remain nameless...  And I read her messages from time to time.  The absolute SHIT that these SUPPOSED Doms/subs/slaves comes out with is absolutely pathetic.  First message..  Show me your tits.  Let's meet.  Let's fuck.  What is your MSN.  Do you like this picture of my cock?  Or, in the worst whine you could possibly put into print... "Can I serve you and lick your feet?"  How appealing.  She got so wet she slid off her chair and I came on my leg....

Oh.  My...  GOD!!!!  You people are fucking pathetic.  You know who you are..  The pimply, sagging old fuck that has to yank his shrivelled up old crank with a pair of tweezers...  But what a remarkable piece of meat that you have to show it off...  I am bi, and I have no problems admitting it..  and I would not fuck the greatest majority of those pathetic losers in her inbox with a dildo and a ten foot pole attached to the end of it.

Now, I am not saying I am all that and a bag of chips.  I most certainly am not..  But damn it all, I am not the stupid fool who is sending off these pathetic messages to every poor sap who comes on wanting to get to know people in the lifestyle either.  I mean.. Her profile is very clear...  Looking to meet people and discuss common interests.  Not..  I would LOVE to show you my fucking tits while you suck the nail polish off my toes.

It is enough to make you puke.

I still can not figure out why, in a lifestyle that is supposedly so open-minded and open-ended, people assume that because you are struggling with a concept, or because you do not like to take it up the ass on the first date, or because you will not turn on the webcam so they can spank they're monkey as even hookers turn down that trick, or maybe you do not like to get slapped around, or you refuse to call some wanker "Sir" or "Mistress", that all of a sudden you can not possibly be a lifestyler.

Y/you W/wanker.  Do you not know any better?  Shame on you for having legitimate questions, comments and concerns.  Shame on you for not blowing sunshine up their ever-so-sensitive asses.  Their wannabe-house-of-cyber-BDSM-cards is going to topple now.

Why is it that if you are not a Ford, suddenly you are not a car?

Ok.  I am done now.  lol.

< Message edited by SirKenin -- 5/20/2007 12:40:33 PM >

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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:35:54 PM   
imthatacheyouhav


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ORIGINAL: MistressDoMe

I feel like the boy from the 6th sense usually around here.
I see mean people.

I heard that !!....but fortunately it is just a few of the same people...so i'm with the OP...i just don't bother wasting time reponding to that mess, and go on my merry way smiling, being happy in my skin......


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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:37:38 PM   
MistressDoMe


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Status: offline 		Oh I agree, but they manage to rain on almost every thread.
They come out of their holes like rats.
It is as if they are only hear to tear others down and build themselves up.

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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:39:49 PM   
minnetar


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ORIGINAL: MistressDoMe

Oh I agree, but they manage to rain on almost every thread.
They come out of their holes like rats.
It is as if they are only hear to tear others down and build themselves up.


Very well said.  If a few people bother a person enough, just put them on block and then you don't have to read what they post.

minnetar

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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:41:00 PM   
MistressDoMe


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Status: offline 		I have about 3 on block these days.  Many refuse to use the block feature though.

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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:45:52 PM   
cjenny


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Status: offline 		It can be discouraging and frustrating. I can't count the times my feelings have been hurt. "Grow thicker skin", well my take on that is "Use your manners".

Guess who always wins?

There have been times when I have accidently hurt someone with my words here, that can be impossible to avoid. There is a difference tho between doing it accidently or thoughtlessly and doing it with the intent to be nasty.
People online say things they would never say to a stranger face-to-face, being anonymous seems to set some people free from basic manners because no one can see them.
I don't understand mean spirited people, people that positively delight in verbally slashing others.
All I can think is that they must be pretty dang unhappy inside if this is what it takes to make themselves feel good. It is a false feeling & I bet they feel rather empty inside.
Try not to let it get to you, remember they don't know 'you' they only know the screen name. The only feedback they deserve is pity.

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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:48:22 PM   
farglebargle


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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:48:25 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Bravo!  The most entertaing I've seen in a while.  Informative, too.  I'm not being mean.  I actually enjoyed the post.

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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:48:44 PM   
MistressDoMe


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Status: offline 		The 3 that I have on BLOCK, are very popular posters, they post on almost every thread.
They have thousands of negative posts on CM.
Is there any reason you feel compelled to continue to read their negative rants?
Do you use the block feature?

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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:53:43 PM   
texancutie


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Status: offline 		That is well said cjenny.  I think I accidently hurt someone who was bi-polar, when I urged her to talk to her doctor and real life people about something that serious.  When I realized that,  I just left the thread.  Sometimes we do it unintentionally, but there are others who truly are so full of themselves (and full of piss and vinegar) that post.  I do my best to try to not let my feelings get hurt.  

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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 12:58:41 PM   
happypervert


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quote:

Oh I agree, but they manage to rain on almost every thread.
They come out of their holes like rats.
It is as if they are only hear to tear others down and build themselves up.

Good thing you're around to set such a great example for being upbeat and cheerful; keep it up and perhaps someday they'll start actng just like you!


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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 1:05:09 PM   
MistressDoMe


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Status: offline 		another candidate for the block feature
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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 1:09:45 PM   
Shylahgirl


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ORIGINAL: MistressDoMe

The 3 that I have on BLOCK, are very popular posters, they post on almost every thread.
They have thousands of negative posts on CM.
Is there any reason you feel compelled to continue to read their negative rants?
Do you use the block feature?


I don't block them in the vain hope that maybe some day they might say something usefull. Or when another poster responds to them, I want to see what they are responding too so that I don't get confused.

Shylah


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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 1:10:21 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDoMe

I have about 3 on block these days.  Many refuse to use the block feature though.



        For a long time, I didn't block in the forums (and I still refuse to block the ones most likely to piss me off).  I came around and used it with a few who never have anything worthwhile to add or ask.  

      If you know what they are going to say the moment you see their name, clean up the screen. 

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RE: My last word on this subject - 5/20/2007 1:11:20 PM   
MistressDoMe


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Status: offline 		Shylah, every blue moon, I take them off block.
Usually, I can follow the thread without removing them.
Try it you might like it, I find less to complain about when I use it.
They invented that feature for a reason!
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