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Switch dynamics - 5/20/2007 11:30:33 PM

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I'm curious as hell about relationship dynamics with Switches. I personally have done the D/s thing, the D/D thing and the M/s thing. Power Exchanges being with submission or deferment based in nature. Whew...

Do switches tend to indentify with subtitles such as "Dom/me Switch" or "Submissive Switch"?
If So, did you find you were more of "Dom/me Switch" one relationship and more like a "submissive switch" in a totally different relationship.?
Do you switch power roles outside of the bedroom taking turns in who was in power as well?
Do you indentify with the type of power exchanged in your relationship as being through submission or more through Deferment.

I'm simply curious as hell about Switches... I'm wondering if your relationship dynamics function or work more like D/D relationships do or not?

I'm trying to seek a little more enlightment here.

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RE: Switch dynamics - 5/21/2007 7:22:12 AM

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I am a Master (relationship role) who Tops and occasionaly bottoms (physical roles).

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RE: Switch dynamics - 5/21/2007 8:01:40 AM

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

Do switches tend to indentify with subtitles such as "Dom/me Switch" or "Submissive Switch"? I am a dominant (Mistress to a slave also) who can and enjoys occasionally bottoming...for example I am always the first to jump up and be the demo model for a rope bondage class or if a friend wants to try out his new toy I'm usually game.

If So, did you find you were more of "Dom/me Switch" one relationship and more like a "submissive switch" in a totally different relationship.? No, now, today, in this frame of mind and with my most up to date knowledge I am a Domme. Even if I do bottom, it's for fun for me and the Top. I'm no ones submissive or slave. I once thought I was (may years ago) but I realize I was wrong.

Do you switch power roles outside of the bedroom taking turns in who was in power as well? That relationship from so many years ago was only in the dungeon. In public and in bed we were just people with mutual care and love for each other.

Do you indentify with the type of power exchanged in your relationship as being through submission or more through Deferment. Then it was most certainally deferment and play. Today it wouldn't happen. My slave is my slave and he will not be topping me for any reason in any place (bedroom, play room, daily life, public).

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RE: Switch dynamics - 5/21/2007 8:03:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile
I'm curious as hell about relationship dynamics with Switches. I personally have done the D/s thing, the D/D thing and the M/s thing. Power Exchanges being with submission or deferment based in nature. Whew...

Do switches tend to indentify with subtitles such as "Dom/me Switch" or "Submissive Switch"?

Some do, some don't.

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If So, did you find you were more of "Dom/me Switch" one relationship and more like a "submissive switch" in a totally different relationship.?

It's rare for a person to switch WITHIN a single relationship. Usually they form one attachment to one person and it remains fairly static.

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Do you switch power roles outside of the bedroom taking turns in who was in power as well?

I do with my partner. But again, this is fairly rare. Most switches are one thing in one relationship- a slave is a slave to their master all the time, but they may be a dominant to someone else.

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Do you indentify with the type of power exchanged in your relationship as being through submission or more through Deferment.

I don't exchange power, I transfer authority. And that's what it is for me.

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I'm simply curious as hell about Switches... I'm wondering if your relationship dynamics function or work more like D/D relationships do or not?\

There's no generalization to be made :)

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RE: Switch dynamics - 5/21/2007 9:26:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

I'm curious as hell about relationship dynamics with Switches. I personally have done the D/s thing, the D/D thing and the M/s thing. Power Exchanges being with submission or deferment based in nature. Whew...

Do switches tend to indentify with subtitles such as "Dom/me Switch" or "Submissive Switch"?

If So, did you find you were more of "Dom/me Switch" one relationship and more like a "submissive switch" in a totally different relationship.?

Do you switch power roles outside of the bedroom taking turns in who was in power as well?

Do you indentify with the type of power exchanged in your relationship as being through submission or more through Deferment.

I'm simply curious as hell about Switches... I'm wondering if your relationship dynamics function or work more like D/D relationships do or not?

I'm trying to seek a little more enlightment here.

1. I call myself a person who will be a sub sometimes when I'm in the mood, and a dominant at other times. Switch is simply the practical label I use for it. I don't really feel anything for those other labels.

2. I find I can be both a dom and a sub in the same relationship. However, with some people I do just take one role.

3. *Shrugs* Not really sure how to answer this one.

4. I'm not quite sure what you're asking, but when I am sub, I'm a sub. When I am a dom, I'm a dom. I embrace both roles fully, as I fully enjoy both roles.

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RE: Switch dynamics - 5/21/2007 4:41:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

Do switches tend to indentify with subtitles such as "Dom/me Switch" or "Submissive Switch"? For me, it is just easier to say "Switch" and leave it at that. otherwise I would have to get into details w/ strangers but since we're here and you don't know me... I am owned by a Daddy, what he says goes. I have a few subs currently, who even though I use alone, live in accordance with the rules he laid down. Dinner is promptly served at 5pm, if one of mine is here they serve but Daddy is the one who dictates where and when, I usually handle the what. Control by proxy. some might classify me as a "first-girl" but I disagree because that would put every sub/slave on equal footing as subs and they are not equal to me. I liken our life to a wolf pack.

If So, did you find you were more of "Dom/me Switch" one relationship and more like a "submissive switch" in a totally different relationship.? every time I am in a relationship, hence why I do not couple two or more titles together.

Do you switch power roles outside of the bedroom taking turns in who was in power as well? reverse that, the roles follow us into the bedroom but they do not switch. I am not capable of switching in the same relationship. I can not do it, that is why I am glad we are poly inclinded.

Do you indentify with the type of power exchanged in your relationship as being through submission or more through Deferment. not really sure what is the deference in these defination to you. I always defer to the Alpha dog, even when my first gut reaction is to rebel I submit because that is the agreement I made when we got together and to do otherwise would be a rejection of my nature. edited to add... deferement as in while I may take a minute and procrastinate because it is not what I want, I still ultimitely do it... as the definition as defer.... or do I have the totally wrong understanding of that word.... edited yet again.. defer also means....To conform to the will or judgment of another, especially out of respect or courtesy: bow 1, submit, yield... now I'm even more confused, I'll stop now.

I'm simply curious as hell about Switches... I'm wondering if your relationship dynamics function or work more like D/D relationships do or not? not sure how others do it so I am not qualified to comment.

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RE: Switch dynamics - 5/21/2007 8:48:15 PM

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Hey WhipLash,

A little perspective might help with the confusion...

In an S&M relationship, a switch will either bottom or top.

In a Bondage relationship, a switch will both throw the rope (typically also called the top) or catch the rope (also called bottom).

In a Discipline relationship, a switch will be the punisher (also called the top) or receiver (also called the bottom).

In a D/s relationship, a switch will either dom or sub, and since D/s can, and often does, occur outside of a scene, top and bottom are not really appropriate labels. Nonetheless, a significant number of people can switch D/s roles. More can switch outside a single relationship, but there are some who can switch inside the same relationship. (I've seen cases where they will toss a coin to see who gets the Dom/sub role that day.) This kind of switching seems to work best when the D/s falls into the "transfer of authority" category, and/or the submission is primarily service oriented.

While for some, a Dom or sub personality is "natural", and they cannot switch, there are some who are lucky enough to be able live both sides.

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RE: Switch dynamics - 5/21/2007 11:06:37 PM

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The answers only apply to myself. You could also every single switch and get a completely different answer from each, but I'll take a shot at it. :)

Do switches tend to indentify with subtitles such as "Dom/me Switch" or "Submissive Switch"?

I identify as a switch with a dominant default setting.

If So, did you find you were more of "Dom/me Switch" one relationship and more like a "submissive switch" in a totally different
relationship.?

I'm dominant in the majority of my relationships. I've been submissive in one. I've also been known to bottom from time to time. It is extremely rare that I switch within a relationship.

Do you switch power roles outside of the bedroom taking turns in who was in power as well?

If I'm dominant in a relationship, then I'm dominant in the relationship.

Do you indentify with the type of power exchanged in your relationship as being through submission or more through Deferment.

I'm not really clear what is being asked here.

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RE: Switch dynamics - 5/22/2007 5:36:32 AM

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Thank you everybody for the wonderful input..

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