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MistressDREAD -> RE: What part of you does your dominance come from? (2/5/2004 1:53:33 PM)
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Personally My Dominance was Born and Bred in Me. I come from two Dominant parents and lived with in a Dominant led Poly Home that
nourised My Dominance. I hear you having questions on Your Dominance but what I really hear you questioning is if You are ready to take on the responcibility of another human being if ever, so I will ask You these questions and make these statements to help You determine if this is a step You are ready to take. And show a small sample of Dominance * wink...
There are sum things that a responsible Dominant needs to think about , understand, and accept befor taking on a sub or slave.
What sort of Dominant are You?
What will be Your approach as a Dominant?
If this is a question You do not have a answer
to then You are not ready to take on sumone
else till You learn about Your self.
Just because it sounds cool to be called Master
and gives You a false sence of Dominance to hear
others around You call You this doesent make You
a Master or even simply Dominant. This is earned
by actions taken in a Dominant manner in Your as
a whole.
Do You know how to apologize? And mean it?
Do You have space for play? Have You made the investment
in either buildiing a Dungeon or becomming a Member in a
Public Dungeon and aquired what toys and tools that will make
up what You will use as a Dominant in scening and play and leaned
how to use them resonably and learned what can happen both
possitively and negitivly with such items practicing and practicing
and then practicing with them till You think about them all the time
and even dream about their use?
Have You joined a Munchies group in Your area so You can associate
with like minds in Your chosen Lifestyle and talked with others online
with simular interests?
Can You accept the essential humanity of another and grasp it in Your
hands and hold it safe from ALL things around You?
Can You clearly define what it is that You desire in a sub/slave and only step towards those whom fullfill those area that You desire?
What do You want from a sub? slave? Be realistic. Do You desire a weekend play toy or scene in the bedroom with a sub, or a slave whom will serve outside a scene in every day life and in public and expect the same from You showing Your self as Dominant?
Do You know what Your limits are? Do You know what limits can be out there to be a part of Your limits? Do You know how to set the limits and stand up for them? Do You know how to respect a subs/slaves limits and push them if desired?
Remember having another human being responsible for is a hugh and awesome responsibility and if You do not feel that You are ready to take on say a newborn baby then You might not be ready to take on a slaves needs either. They are equal in commitment of Your self in Dominance.
Can You communicate well with others? If not what area do You need to learn tolerance and acceptance? Remember human beings being what they are will call You on any falsehood they see in You in pursuit of this,
We call Dominance.
Do You know how to deal with a suplicants Fears? Do You know how to recognze the warning signs of such and take the corrective measures to
aleviate it in what You will Own? Are You humble enough to ask for Help when You know You are over extended and address this with Yours and Others whom can help You in Your times of need openly?
Do You understand that stateing You are Dominant means just that and only that You are DOMINANT not a Switch with Dominant tendancies or a Alpha sub!!
Do You understand the difference in Dominant Will and Dominant Sex?
What do You have in place for both You and Yours saftey? Physically,Mentally,Spiritually,Emotionally,Finacially,Healthwise?
Can You afford to take on the cost of another whom will depend on Your support or will this one You bring in to Your life be assisting You in that?
Do You have a list or Contract in place that specifys this information for
both parties?
REMEBER: When you Dominate somebody, you need to be INCREDIBLY AWARE of EVERYTHING that is happening in the life or in scene. If You slack on this issue, You could end up seriously injuring Your partner mentally or physically. Being a Dominant does have it's rewards, but eternal vigilance is the price You pay for being in charge.
Can You be Patient?
Can You be Humble?
Can You be Open?
Can You be Honest?
Can You be realistic?
Can You be Healty BDSM wise?
Do You know what Head space is?
Are You ready to spell out Your opinion on
Rules.Proticals, Regulations, Roles, Limits and
contracts and how every day life will be lived and
not assume or take for granted that your suplicant
will instinctively know what these are and the ground
rules?
Are You ready to be really Dominant? submissives are looking for someone who will take over their body and mind and life and living, not just for brute strength but within all ways. Real people are wanted, not just cardboard images from cigarette ads or macho stereotypes. Your Dominance enhances Your whole existence. It does not cover up or substitute for other areas of Your life - it is You.
Are You ready to make Your submissive fall in love and admire and depend on and with You, and expect her to give herself up to You totally. Follow up on rules, expect obedience, and punish appropriately when it is called for. Don't shirk Your responsibility to Your sub/slave or to Your Sister/Brother Dominants. Be dependable and expect dependability in and out of the Home and both Your lifes. You have agreed to take the Dominant role - now take it and take action!
Looks up at all Ive written and babbled on again and really wonder how those who are around Me can put up with My Dominant Motherly ways! LOL
to be continued......................
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