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Squirting Question - 5/22/2007 12:57:16 PM   
Seda


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Status: offline 		When I first started in the lifestyle and becoming sexual, I would squirt when orgasming. At that time I had no idea what it was and was embarassed. I trained myself to stop in a way, and havent done it in a year. Now I know what it is and would like to be able to again but for some reason, it just dosent feel possiable. I can not cum at all!

Any advice?
Seda

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/22/2007 1:01:07 PM   
BossyShoeBitch


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Status: offline 		Seda,
Is it that you cannot orgasm at all or can't squirt while orgasming?  I'm afraid your post wasn't very clear to me..


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RE: Squirting Question - 5/22/2007 1:12:02 PM   
Seda


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Status: offline 		Hello,

I'm sorry, reading back it is a bit confusing. I cannot at this point reach orgasam at all.

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/22/2007 1:26:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		go to the search screen and look for ejaculation or female ejaculation---

you might get lucky and LA comes along.

But you can, you just gotta wanna.

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/22/2007 1:28:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		If there have been no physical changes (sickness, bodily harm) then it is purely mental.  What did you do to "stop" squirting in the first place?  Were you able to climax then without squirting?  Have you lost certain stimulation since then?  Perhaps starting the lifestyle and becoming bisexual were such hugely erotic motions that your body was overthrown with stimulation.  Since then, they have grown to be more standard. 

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/22/2007 2:06:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		i would say don't try to force yourself to cum or squirt, which is what my problem was. i could easily squirt durinig an orgasm, but if i tried too hard to cum i couldn't. Even now sometimes i can not cum at all, but it's still fun to reach that orgasm point. i worked on the vibrator the first few times, and know i will either squirt or cum a lot, depending on how long i haven't used the vibrator. This probably won't help a whole lot, so i guess my advice to you would be to keep trying and hope for the best, and remember to not try to force yourself to squirt, let it happen naturally.   Best of luck

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/22/2007 2:27:14 PM   
texancutie


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Status: offline 		Since this is a good post and request for help.  I am no expert on orgasms.  What I know works for me, and maybe not others.  I do know sometimes when I put pressure on myself that I have to have one....I can be my own worst enemy, and have a very difficult time because of imagined pressure.  When I go with the flow and accept everything for what it is.  Things seem to go more smoothly.  I am just assuming there are no medical issues or anything because I don't know you.   I do cum on command and even squirt on command.  But he is definitely involved.

I have never squirted unless he was there with me.  I guess I don't stimlute myself like that away from him.  When I first started being trained and helped to experience squirting, I felt like I had to go to the bathroom.  So I would kind of not let myself go, when I needed to just accept it and let go to enjoy it.  That was the biggest hurdle.  After that things got much easier.  I have noticed over time though, that my mental state can play a small part too.  Like if there is a lot going on in my life, and I can't clear everything out of my head.  I am just not as relaxed and into things as I could be.

There are also different kinds of orgasms.  This is going to sound really sad, but I never really had a vaginal orgasm until  I met him.  There are clitoral orgasms, vaginal orgasms, squirting orgasms, and the other ones, that are more mentally based.  For me, female ejaculation feels very different than a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal orgasm.  Very, very different, but of course very enjoyable.

Just take your time and try not to worry.   Be as comfy as possible.  No unwanted pressure.  If you can't squirt it's not the end of the world.   I have no idea what to tell you about not being able to orgasm at all though.  It could be pressure or stress again.  Or it could be something to discuss with your doctor.   Good luck to you!  Oh...one of the best things that I have found that might help...is the Hitachi Magic Wand with the attachments.

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/22/2007 2:44:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Seda,
At this point, if it were me, I would work on orgasming again first and worry about squirting at a later time.
What kinds  of things are you doing to try and achieve orgasm?  Do you masturbate?  (I am going to assume you can't orgasm either alone or with a partner).




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RE: Squirting Question - 5/22/2007 3:14:40 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Seda

When I first started in the lifestyle and becoming sexual, I would squirt when orgasming. At that time I had no idea what it was and was embarassed. I trained myself to stop in a way, and havent done it in a year. Now I know what it is and would like to be able to again but for some reason, it just dosent feel possiable. I can not cum at all!

Any advice?
Seda


http://www.very-koi.net/tutor/female/female.htm

I think this is one of the best tutorials regarding female ejaculation that I've seen. It goes into not only the physical reaction but the mental aspect of it as well.

I think that it isn't at all unusual to be embarrassed by it in the beginning prior to understanding that it's simply a natural sexual reaction to pleasure. I was as well and I've posted in a few of the other threads dealing with it discussing my own experience in being a bit gushy when it comes to this type of orgasm. 

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/22/2007 5:56:00 PM   
Seda


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Status: offline 		I do Masturbate, (quite a bit lol) But I build up and build and build then ok Im done. Lets have some cake! I just lose it in an instant. Its quite annoying. I will definatly try all these things though. Thanks for the help everyone!

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/22/2007 8:38:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sometimes I lose the urge to orgasm which really stinks, but I give it a few minutes and try it again and it usually happens then. Do you orgasm with a partner or is it the same as when you are by yourself?

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/22/2007 11:23:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I do wish I could help, but I am rooting for you.  Hope you'll let us know when you get through it.

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/23/2007 9:16:31 AM   
Seda


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Status: offline 		Hey everyone,

Thanks agian for the amazing advice! I am going to my OB/gyn on friday. I had been postponing, simply because I work for her and it is kind of wierd. But for the sake of sexual pleasure, I will get over my embarrasment lol.

For clarification, I cannot even bring myself to orgasam by myself either anymore.
Seda

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/23/2007 9:29:03 AM   
slaverosebeauty


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Seda

When I first started in the lifestyle and becoming sexual, I would squirt when orgasming. At that time I had no idea what it was and was embarassed. I trained myself to stop in a way, and havent done it in a year. Now I know what it is and would like to be able to again but for some reason, it just dosent feel possiable. I can not cum at all!

Any advice?
Seda


WOW. We are a LOT alike. I was with a vanilla man the first time I did that, he freaked; I got online when I got hoem and I had NTO clue what to look up or do, so I trained myself to stop.

The Top partnre I had after that guy, would massage my g-spot, I would fight him as mucha sI could to NOT squirt, but, he was relentless, he would tie my legs open, bind my thighs open so I could nto close them, then tie my wrists so I could NOT touch him or close my legs as he fingered me; my safeword didn't work, he woudl stop and ask 'are you in physical pain?' My6 answer was 'no.' Then he would would go back to what he was doing. After a short time, my body succumbed to him and he won; I just kept squirting; after that, he was able to get me to squirt anytime he touched my g-sot.

I have kinda regressed back to NOT squirt, but, I KNOW a top will come along and take that as a 'challenge' and work on me until I do, over and over and over.

Cumming is different from orgasm as it is different from squirtinging. If yuo want to be able to gush/squirt, massage your g-spot, or have your parnter do it over and over, oral works well. It worked for me. I can cum with a look though, lol.

Good luck.

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/23/2007 9:46:23 AM   
Seda


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Status: offline 		I am basically looking to orgasam again, I gave the info about squirting and my mentally training myself to stop, because it could be relevant to the topic. I kind of worded it horriably wrong though.
Seda

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/23/2007 1:02:11 PM   
malloves69


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Status: offline 		my mistress squirts and i love it   i love her sharing her juicys with me when she does so ..i find it very erotic indeed as she cums that way ...i try to swallow as much as i can because i feel that wetness that she is giving me she is giving me it to nourish me ...its like she is giving me a pat on the back for getting her to squirt the way that she does ..the look on her face is priceless ..love sharing that with her and everything we do together   cant believe there are guys that are offended by a woman who squirts ..that must be pretty ignorant of them to not love it as much as i do ...yes we do gs too any fluid that cums from my mistresses wonderfull body i try to drink up as much as i can   hope you get that loving feeling back its great to share it with someone you truly love and who truly loves you ..have fun and best wishes mal

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RE: Squirting Question - 5/23/2007 10:52:41 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaverosebeauty


The Top partnre I had after that guy, would massage my g-spot, I would fight him as mucha sI could to NOT squirt, but, he was relentless, he would tie my legs open, bind my thighs open so I could nto close them, then tie my wrists so I could NOT touch him or close my legs as he fingered me; my safeword didn't work, he woudl stop and ask 'are you in physical pain?' My6 answer was 'no.' Then he would would go back to what he was doing. After a short time, my body succumbed to him and he won; I just kept squirting; after that, he was able to get me to squirt anytime he touched my g-sot.

I have kinda regressed back to NOT squirt, but, I KNOW a top will come along and take that as a 'challenge' and work on me until I do, over and over and over.



Good luck.


Omg, that was really erotic...
::realizing her batteries died, crawls to the bathroom to turn on the cold shower::


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RE: Squirting Question - 5/23/2007 10:55:01 PM   
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RE: Squirting Question - 5/26/2007 8:59:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Seda

I do Masturbate, (quite a bit lol) But I build up and build and build then ok Im done. Lets have some cake! I just lose it in an instant. Its quite annoying. I will definatly try all these things though. Thanks for the help everyone!


Some medications have a side effect that both decreases libido and makes it harder or sometimes impossible to reach orgasm. An example of such drugs are some antidepressants. If you are taking any medications then you should check if your situation might be a known side effect of that drug.

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RE: Squirting Question - 6/14/2007 3:19:37 PM   
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< Message edited by peachums -- 6/14/2007 3:20:18 PM >

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