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MizSuz -> RE: The New Guy (6/1/2004 5:16:03 PM)
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Greetings HN,
There's a lot of worthwhile information on this, and many other, boards and site (and in hardcopy). I'd encourage to you read a LOT (but don't forget to think for yourself while you're reading). Go out to munches, demos, workshops and the like (if you've a mind to meet people realtime) and just generally start slow. Take plenty of time to be choosey about who you do play with and don't be quick to jump into a 'relationship' until you've had a chance to test the waters a bit here and there, try some new things and get a good sense of what you are interested in. Taking this time in the early stages could save you a lot of grief in the long run with mis-matched playmates. Barring happenstance, one foundational key (in my opinion) to having a quality 'scene' life is by finding the people you most resonate to/with. If you don't know what you want it's difficult to find the right match.
You'll inevitably be doing the people you end up with a favor by saving them the grief of a mismatch you never intended. An example would be someone who says they 'yearn' to 'be a 24/7 slave' only to find that the reality of 24/7 slavery is not at all the vision they've been masturbating to for XX years. Save yourself that head trip. [;)]
Don't do anything you don't want to do until you've agreed with someone to assume that role. Don't let anyone tell you that you have to adopt this or that behavior because you identify as this or that. Not until you've agreed with that person that is where you both want to go.
Come to the scene whole, participate whole, contribute whole, take whole things away from it. It'll mean more in the long run.
Questions are a goooood thing. Do lots of that. <smile>
Welcome to the boards.
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