Suleiman
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It is possible to remain submissive while topping (engaging in sensation play as a way of servicing your lover), which is a very different experience from being dominant. It can be surreal as all hell, and the sheer dichotomy of the situation can be very amusing. I don't know the particulars of your dynamic, but here's how it's gone down for me in the past: Set the scene. Candles, music, incense, all that kind of stuff. Make yourself pretty for them. Set up the various pieces of equipment - ropes, cuffs, paddles, floggers, clamps, et cetra. Include the non-sm stuff too, like massage lotion, feathers, chocolate sauce, whatever works for the two of you. Hopefully you have some idea of what he likes. Using best submissive manners, invite them in and ask if you may be allowed to please them. Tell them you have a special night planned, just for them. If this guy hasn't had his mustache liscense revoked by the manlyman's union, he should be sporting a cheezy grin on his face if you do this right. Ask him to undress. Offer him a backrub or something similar to start off with. If you haven't told them what you're intending, the next part should come as a surprise. Pick up the rope (or some similar restaint), and ask them to hold out their hands. If you've any skill with seduction or coquetry, now is a good time to turn on the charm. Tie his hands in as slow and seductive a manner as you're able to (think of it as a reverse striptease). Best submissive manners during the whole process, of course. Trust me - the confused look on his face will be priceless. Tie him in some relatively comfortable position (reclining, legs spread, hands behind neck usually works well), show him some toy, and begin working on him with it. Hopefully you know him well enough to be able to tell if he's having a good time. Start off slow, mix pleasant sensations in with the hurting stuff. Talking usually helps, but don't expect him to interact. When in doubt, talk about whatever it is you're using, and how it makes you feel when he does it to you. Talk about how you want him to enjoy is as much as you do, how all this is just one more way to serve him. Any way, it's just one suggestion out of many. You might want to give it a try, or not, as the case may be. Hope this helps. ~S
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