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earthycouple -> RE: Dominating-dominate-guys fetish? (5/25/2007 5:45:28 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Aliet
Well, I had my first domme-from-the-start scene last weekend and I've been thinking about things.
My ex and I were both rather dominate switchs. I had no problem being dominate as hell with him (and he was quite the painslut), and it wasn't that I wasn't dominate with my new pet... It's just... I found myself holding back. He wasn't complaining (and he didn't want pain, he wanted to be humiliated), but I just couldn't unleash on him the way I used to my ex.
Is it stage-fright? Is it that I knew my ex could take as good as he gave? He is just, overall, a nicer, more submissive guy. Aggressive, dominate guys turn me on--and getting turned on makes me aggressive, too! It's not that I top-from-the-bottom. I don't want to control things, I enjoy being dominated. It's that my brain goes: dominate = power = can take it, where's my whip?
What the hell is wrong with me? Is there anybody else like this?
First please consider learning the definitions of "dominate" and "dominant" because your posts are going to be difficult to understand otherwise.
Dominate is what one does; dominant is what one is. I am a dominant woman who dominates men. Easy, yes?
Now as to your question..... I can't ever recall taking on a scene with someone new that I didn't "take it easy" to me this is simple intelligence. I believe in going a bit easy on my bottom, slave, sub the first few times to guage reactions and response so I know what to expect when I get a bit heavier. If someone says "you can do more" I ignore that because I, me, Donna needs this learning time. If he never comes back for more because I was too "easy" on him then I didn't want him anyway. If my explanation isn't good enough then so be it. I do what I do so I can be the best I can be with each partner. I rather leave them wanting more than running for the hills because I frightened them (I can be quite sadistic).
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