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ORIGINAL: Mikal

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ORIGINAL: Kitte9

Does your Dom/me ask you to switch or are there other, more subtle clues that let you know when to?

For me, I find that I tend to be in one 'role' as it were, for the majority of the relationship. It really depends on how I've connected with the person I'm with. Some people seem to have a vibe about them that I react/respond to - if that vibe is submissive, then I feel/become more dominant; likewise, if that vibe is dominant, I feel/become more submissive. *shrugs*. During play/sex... I just go with the flow. If it feels right, it's right. Also, it depends on my mood *grins & laughs*... I know, sounds like a cop-out, but its true. I've gone to parties, fully intending one thing, only to have my mood shift and do something completely different.