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BeautifulDoll -> Journals (5/21/2005 11:17:50 PM)

my Master recently asked me to start keeping a journal of my journey into my submission and new 24/7 relationship with Him. Has anyone else had to do this? How helpful is it to a submissive to do this?




FelinePersuasion -> RE: Journals (5/21/2005 11:30:25 PM)

I've done it and it seemed to be very helpfull. If I had issues I couldn't bring up I journaled it and directed him to go read it. It helps see the patterns in issues too sometimes.





junecleaver -> RE: Journals (5/21/2005 11:54:58 PM)

My journal became the place where all of my disrespectful, sarcastic, biting remarks ended up. It was a soothing excercise for me. Not so much for him. Although it did teach me that attitude is not just how you act in front of your Dominant, it's how you think. So in a way, it taught me to be more positive.




proudsub -> RE: Journals (5/21/2005 11:56:15 PM)

Here are some threads on journals:

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ricanmami678 -> RE: Journals (7/11/2005 11:41:58 AM)

my Sir as well wants me to keep a journal its has elped me so much it helps me relase everything i have kept dormante for so many years now i can finally be my self. i actually love the journal




lonewolf05 -> RE: Journals (7/11/2005 12:28:55 PM)

let me say 1 thing, i have a new Ms, so far just online, until the 18th of july, when i am supposed-to, to be moving to Her. She has asked me to send Her a nightly journal.
it escapes my logic why, but being She is female, there is no telling about "female logic".

life is very strange when it comes to females.

the wolf




softandshy -> RE: Journals (7/11/2005 1:05:43 PM)

i've kept a journal for roughly half of my life. i don't write in it every night because i don't always have the time, the energy or the need. However, it does help me to sort out how i'm feeling or to just express the feelings. It helps keep things more rational for me because i tend to rely on "heartspace" to work out issues, when sometimes what i need most is to be in "headspace".

One thing that i do a bit differently is that i don't just write in my journal, i also draw. Crayons and colored pencils can be very useful for self-expression!




perfection20005 -> RE: Journals (7/11/2005 6:35:15 PM)

Its easier for me to write down my feelings than to say them, but I am working on the talking part. So I write a page everyday to my Master about anything and everything. It does help, and I know he reads them, because of the responses I get later on. I have found it to be very helpful.

perfection




OMC -> RE: Journals (7/11/2005 7:10:47 PM)

quote:

i have a new Ms, so far just online, until the 18th of july, when i am supposed-to, to be moving to Her.


:::slapping forehead:::




gretchen -> RE: Journals (7/11/2005 8:16:15 PM)

I have read that most Masters request a journal to their slaves. It's helpful to them. Through writting, they get to know you, your desires, your goals, etc. It helps to encrease the trust within the relationship. Don't be surprised if you caught him reading it, because he's probably going to.

This way, he's going to be able of handling your fears, concerns...you know...all those things they care about.





sultryvoice -> RE: Journals (7/16/2005 8:20:44 PM)

I have written journals for one of my Dominants. I said in there what I had a hard time saying to him. That way it could be said, he could read it and nothing was hidden. As the relatinship of that time matured, I still wrote but it was more my feelings because i would talk to him about everything.
I also keep a painting journal for myself. I write what I want...a statement, write haiku or a longer poem. I then take watercolors or watercolor pencils and draw my feeling or whatever I feel at the time. It can be a picture, or just splashes of color..

Respectfully,
sultry




imtempting -> RE: Journals (7/16/2005 8:59:07 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: lonewolf05


but being She is female, there is no telling about "female logic".

life is very strange when it comes to females.

the wolf



A very true statement. :O Omg thats a question and a comment that you have said that is good...




ravenna -> RE: Journals (7/16/2005 11:14:51 PM)

My master directed me to start an online journal this spring as an outlet for some of the things i was trying to put into words here at CollarMe, in my little journal here and on the message boards, talking about our relationship and our lives, trying to sort out how it works and what it means. It's been kind of amazing what a great idea this was for us. Writing requires me to sort out my feelings and experiences in a (semi) coherent way, something just talking or daydreaming doesn't seem to do as well, and it's also turned out to be, um, pretty erotic too, at least for us, it's really brought us even closer together. So i'd give the journal thing two big thumbs up so far. And you don't have to write well or do anything fancy, just look at a lot of the journals on LiveJournal or Diary-X or any of the other blog sites, you just need to be honest with yourself and try to be clear, so it gives you someplace to start talking and getting deeper into each other's heads and hearts. And it doesn't need to be online either, of course, it could just be a notebook that only you and your master ever see. Just the act of trying to put things into words helps you make sense out of it all, so i'd say go for it!

PS: Here's mine: http://www.livejournal.com/userinfo.bml?user=ravenna_amorosa




lonewolf05 -> RE: Journals (7/17/2005 3:26:10 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: OMC

quote:

i have a new Ms, so far just online, until the 18th of july, when i am supposed-to, to be moving to Her.


:::slapping forehead:::

=====================

Your point is?????





NightDaughter -> RE: Journals (7/24/2005 5:52:40 PM)

Keeping a journal can be very helpful, when it comes to looking at your feelings over a particular person, events or the like.

My ex use to have me keep a jounal that he could read, both online and off, but as time passes I stopped doing so because it wasn't working he wasn't reading what I wrote. So I just started keeping my online journal as a way of expressing myself in genearl.

Luck to you, take care.






Jennylu48 -> RE: Journals (7/24/2005 6:00:34 PM)

I remember keeping journals long before I was introduced to this life. Then and now, it gives me the freedom to write what I think and feel. It allows me to express myself in a way that might not be possible when I am with Sir. It allows me a way to show him how I feel. It is also a place I can rant to my hearts content expressing those little sarcastic tendencies I get. Certainly has saved me a punishment or two over the years.




flirt -> RE: Journals (7/24/2005 6:06:20 PM)

i find journaling helpful but i have had both good and bad experiences with it. Like others have said, i find it easier to communicate my true thoughts and feelings with the wirten word. If you can write and not edit it can be helpful, i never read back over an entry because i wanted my first thoughts and not change something to perhaps soften it.

i have had a Master that read my journal and One that did not. i found i liked Him to read it because it was a form of communication for me. BUT...... i found that my Master would become upset at what i wrote, He would try not to say anything or show his feelings but i knew and i could always tell what it was and could relate it to my journal. If your Master asks you to journal so He can learn about you, the thoughts and feelings deep within you and can handle them then it can be a wonderful thing. Some Masters want you to journal so you can see your own change and strengths as well as weakness.

There are different reasons a Master can require you to journal, i just know that sometimes for some Masters the journal can be very harmful, those Masters i would hope could just not read the pages. It was my journal that sealed my fate and i ended up released from One i love and would have been serving for years to come. i realize that part was not my fault.

If He is going to require you to journal then obviously you must, ask Him if it will be read or not by Him and then watch His reactions to see if problems develop. Just because a Master reacts as mine did does not mean He is a bad Master or anything it was just His demeanor.

i journal even now, without a Master because for me it is theraputic but i will be very uneasy should i ever belong to another and He read my journal.

flirt




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