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collaring - 5/24/2005 6:43:12 PM   
ain


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Status: offline 		i am fairly new to this lifestyle and i believe i have a Master...... he asked me to be his owned slave and I agreed. as of yet no contract has been drawn up, and i am unsure of whether He is my Master or not and whether or not He still wants to be we live together 24\7 and the longer i do the more i want him to be my Master. anyone out there care to explain what collaring exactly means to both the slave and the Master, I beleive i have the general idea but would like your input.
thank you ahead of time
with much appreciation
ain
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RE: collaring - 5/24/2005 7:48:44 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		The sad part is- a collar means whatever you want it to mean

The great part is- a collar means whatever you want it to mean

The sad part is- you can't say you're collared when you have no clue what it means

The great part is- you can't say you're collared when you have no clue what it means

My guess is that you're more in love with the idea of having "a master" rather than actually taking the time to get to know what it means, who you are getting involved with, what expectations are involved and what the character is of the person you are collared by.

So, stop. Don't get committed to anyone for 6 months, learn, see what happens.

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RE: collaring - 5/25/2005 1:19:39 AM   
terah


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Status: offline 		I had a situation like that as well. But he did collar another slave instead of me. When I asked him why did he give her a collar instead of me , he said because I had his heart and that was stronger then any collar. A collar mean what ever he want it to mean and you agree upon. However if you are tied up in symbolism you need to speak to him about that.

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RE: collaring - 5/25/2005 5:38:56 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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quote:

ORIGINAL: terah

I had a situation like that as well. But he did collar another slave instead of me. When I asked him why did he give her a collar instead of me , he said because I had his heart and that was stronger then any collar. A collar mean what ever he want it to mean and you agree upon. However if you are tied up in symbolism you need to speak to him about that.

Did he tell this to the woman he collared?

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RE: collaring - 5/25/2005 6:53:37 PM   
gretchen


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quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2


quote:

ORIGINAL: terah

I had a situation like that as well. But he did collar another slave instead of me. When I asked him why did he give her a collar instead of me , he said because I had his heart and that was stronger then any collar. A collar mean what ever he want it to mean and you agree upon. However if you are tied up in symbolism you need to speak to him about that.

Did he tell this to the woman he collared?




I asked my self the same very thing.

I could never conceive the fact that the man I will belong to, is not the same man that cares for me. A collar, in my mind is a symbol that represents the trust I have in him, and the commitment that shows this trust. I only trust people that I know well and love...so, Why take a collar, or, make a commitment to someone who will feel less, or care less about it?. No way!...My willingness to be collared goes beyond jewlery or kinky leather garments.

Plus, I asked to have his collar. He was not responsable for that decision. It was my decision.



< Message edited by gretchen -- 5/26/2005 7:02:00 PM >

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RE: collaring - 5/26/2005 11:16:18 AM   
hole


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Status: offline 		A collar can mean as much or as little as you agree upon. i was with my former Master for almost a year before He collared me. To Him, and so to me, it was like a wedding ring/commitment/contract. Later when Master found my slave brother he allowed me to put the collar on him and Master applied the lock.

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RE: collaring - 5/26/2005 12:15:13 PM   
terah


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Status: offline 		No he didn't tell her.

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RE: collaring - 5/26/2005 8:14:15 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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ORIGINAL: terah

No he didn't tell her.


That tells me a lot right there.

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RE: collaring - 8/16/2005 11:11:17 PM   
OscarHargraves


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Status: offline 		EM you couldn't have said it better. Stop, Look and Learn are the things that she really needs to do right now. I would however add 'communicate' and say she needs to talk to her would-be Master and see what he envisions also. Not just the sex but ALL of the things that go into a relationship.

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RE: collaring - 8/17/2005 2:43:40 AM   
lovingmaster45


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Status: offline 		No wonder we see so many messed up relationships. When two fucked up people form a relationship, it too is doomed to be fucked up. This girl does not have a clue and neither does the so-called master she is dealing with. No sub would ever have a hint of a doubt with me. I suspect I will get agreemtne from any other dominant who has ever taken on the responsibility of acquiring a sub; they know EXACTLY what I expect. When I see this kind of confusion, I jsut shudder with expectations of the disaster to follow.

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RE: collaring - 8/17/2005 4:31:51 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Yep, two fucked up relationships or people do not make one stable situation. Perhaps this may come under the Clusterfuck heading????

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RE: collaring - 8/17/2005 12:38:20 PM   
Hallittlelolita


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Status: offline 		Hi there, a collar means usually ownership and devotion to your Master. The collar is not taken lightly to me anyway, it can mean many things, it's all between you and your Master. Have you read about it on websites, books, ect, there is alot of information on the web about collars. Speaking of collars I'm getting collared this week by my Master/Hubby this week, it took four years for us to get here and he is still learning too.

I wish you the best of luck and happiness with you and your Master and of course with your new collar. It will be very special for years to come. Happy collaring to you and your Master.

Sincerely, Andie and her Master Hal

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