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24/7 - 6/4/2007 12:50:12 PM

xoel

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I am considering joining my owner in His home, as His slave for 24/7 ownership. I will not be working. I am just wondering what i should expect, if anyone has any advice as i embark on this journey....
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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 12:54:53 PM

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Best thing you can do is talk to your owner and find out what he expects of you. No one else can really answer that for you or him.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 12:59:10 PM

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I have asked, and continue to ask questions of Him, ans He answers them all, I gues I am more or less wondering what experiences/thoughts/ feelings, whatever, might come up, i have never been in a 24/7, and have a feeling i will experience a slew of emotions.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 12:59:35 PM

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Find out what his expectations are and proceed from there.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 1:22:33 PM

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As a 24/7 slave that has been owned and living in my Master's house for over a year, i would say that the first thing to do is to ask yourself what it is that you expect/want/need from being a24/7 slave. Then, discuss with Him what your expectations/wants/needs/ are and compare them to what His expectations/wants/needs/ are and see how well they fit together.

If you have never lived with anyone else before, whether in a M/s setting or not, this could be a very big adjustment for you. There are plenty of issues about living with someone else, regardless of the type of relationship, such as how living expenses will be handled and things like that. Oh, and what if things don't work out? Do you have a back-up plan? Where you will go and will He help you get there?

i can tell you that, from my experience, there are always adjustments to make when you are getting used to living with someone and some of it can be a little bumpy but, it can be (and is in my case) very rewarding.

Of course, as always, the best thing to do is to talk, talk, talk about everything you can think of before you make your move.

Best wishes to you.

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ORIGINAL: xoel

I am considering joining my owner in His home, as His slave for 24/7 ownership. I will not be working. I am just wondering what i should expect, if anyone has any advice as i embark on this journey....
many thanks,
xoel

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 1:36:40 PM

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quote:

I am just wondering what i should expect

If you are "wondering" - you shouldn't go.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 1:41:48 PM

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Ditto to Merc, the serious consideration should come AFTER the discussion and understanding of expectations.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 1:44:43 PM

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Make sure that you know him VERY well and that takes quite a bit of time to do. Make sure that you have some money put away in case this doesn't work out and you need to leave. I've seen to many non working 24/7 slaves go off with someone that they didn't know very well only to return home with just the clothes on their backs and alot of emotional baggage.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 1:53:51 PM

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Make sure that you know him VERY well and that takes quite a bit of time to do. Make sure that you have some money put away in case this doesn't work out and you need to leave. I've seen to many non working 24/7 slaves go off with someone that they didn't know very well only to return home with just the clothes on their backs and alot of emotional baggage.

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All others who have posted have given good advice. I would stay with the practical bent and ask what are you going to do about health insurance?

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 1:57:08 PM

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We are talking alot about it. I just want to get others perspectives, maybe to trigger more questions that i have not thought of. All suggestions are very good, I have lived with others before, and the permanent move is at least 6 months away.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 2:29:17 PM

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Some good advice given here. And questioning yourself ain't always a bad thing. Ask yourself, What do I want...What am I expected to gain? One of my biggest advice lines to people..........Expect the unexpected. Good luck to ya.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 2:42:58 PM

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quote:

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We are talking alot about it. I just want to get others perspectives, maybe to trigger more questions that i have not thought of. All suggestions are very good, I have lived with others before, and the permanent move is at least 6 months away.

Well, it depends on what is important to you. My friends and family are important to me so I made sure that Valyraen would not restrict my time with them without reason.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 3:15:21 PM

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I would expect that it might not be nearly as exciting as you're imagining. There's laundry, dishes, groceries, and a slew of other non-sexual services. And, if you work, I would be asking whether the home work-load will be shared or will you be expected to complete every chore.

It's the benign things that you should probably be asking about. You probably won't be naked and in high heels 24/7. I would try to investigate the "vanilla" stuff.

But, I can't tell you what to expect or not to expect. His expectations are the ones you need to be worried about, not ours.

Edited, because I did not see that you would not be working.

Not working will make you very dependant. Be sure that this is what you want, and also be sure that you have a way out. I would also be asking questions about health insurance, as mentioned above. What happens if, for some reason, he is unable to work? Is he properly insured to cover the expenses during that time period?

I know, the questions aren't sexy, but they'd be the ones that I would be asking. And, are you giving up a career?

< Message edited by spanklette -- 6/4/2007 3:18:59 PM >

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 3:46:04 PM

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Take the time to have several long talks about expectations before moving in.
Consider gettting a contract, so that expectations are in writing.
Good luck xoel.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 4:35:45 PM

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Oh, ok, now i understand what it is you're asking. Of course, there are a lot of emotions and feelings involved when you move in with someone and become 24/7. It's exhausting sometimes. i don't work outside the home but, i do have a monthly income and that gives me some security, in case something were to happen and i found myself out on my own again.

Well, i'm not going to go into all the emotions that i have experienced, besides that is a very individual thing. No one else's feelings and emotions are going to be just like someone else's. But, if you're interested in reading what other slaves have experienced and felt, you can go to http://www.my-journal.com/ and do a search for the keyword "slave" and quite a few journals will come up, including mine. You will need to register to read the journal entries but, it's free and easy to sign up and you can choose to write your own journal there, if you want.

Hope this is of some help.

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ORIGINAL: xoel

I have asked, and continue to ask questions of Him, ans He answers them all, I gues I am more or less wondering what experiences/thoughts/ feelings, whatever, might come up, i have never been in a 24/7, and have a feeling i will experience a slew of emotions.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 5:05:35 PM

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RE: 24/7 - 6/4/2007 5:22:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xoel

I am considering joining my owner in His home, as His slave for 24/7 ownership. I will not be working. I am just wondering what i should expect, if anyone has any advice as i embark on this journey....
many thanks,
xoel

Hello xoel. Sure, but based on what? Your post? your profile? "You" have "decided" to go 24/7 M/s? This after how long of a "relationship"? You are "wondering" what to expect??!

Ok, based on what I know, do not do it. RL.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/5/2007 7:07:57 AM

xoel

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Thank you, We have discussed health insurance and he is going to provide me with it, be it significant other, or my own policy. He has also agreed to an allowance, and time for me to visit my family and friends with regularity. I find it both exciting and a little scary. It is a big step, to be totally dependant on someone. i have started to keep a journal to write the questions i come up with so i have them ready to discuss.
Most of these questions are not sexy, i agree, but i think that for self protection, though i have no doubt he can and will protect and care for me, i need to explore my feelings, and reach out to those with experience, for some perspective.

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RE: 24/7 - 6/5/2007 7:09:33 AM

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I bet two weeks, anyone else?

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RE: 24/7 - 6/5/2007 7:18:12 AM

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it is a leap of faith.... congrats sweetie.... i remember when i took that leap, W/we were together for 7 years....

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