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a newbie seeking advice - 5/26/2005 3:18:07 PM   
musicalme


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Hello All,
I'm new to this. I'm looking for a lover/Dom that appreciates what I'm giving him. I'm a pleaser by nature, very submissive. The fantasy of this life, is somthing I dream about. I'm looking for a sexual fantasy as well as a life partner. Could someone tell me if subs are allowed there sexual fantasy's or is it just whatever the dom wants.

Another question, can children adjust to parents in this lifestyle.

I'm sure these questions seem dumb, but its confusing reading all the differnet views on the life.

Thank You,
Melissa
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RE: a newbie seeking advice - 5/26/2005 6:17:16 PM   
selphaware


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quote:

ORIGINAL: musicalme


Could someone tell me if subs are allowed there sexual fantasy's or is it just whatever the dom wants.

Another question, can children adjust to parents in this lifestyle.

I'm sure these questions seem dumb, but its confusing reading all the differnet views on the life.



your questions aren't dumb, melissa! you're just trying to learn, which is cool and admirable. inexperience does not equal stupidity! ;)

i can't help you with your question about children -- no personal experience to share.

as far as your other question: there is no "right" or "wrong," no set "rules." any given relationship is made by what the Dominant and submissive in question bring to it and agree on. honesty and communication are key. just because you are submissive, that does *not* mean you can't ask for (and within reason, get) the things that will leave you feeling fulfilled and happy. part of that will rest on you -- you need to figure out what you want/need, and then communicate that to your partner, just like in a "vanilla" relationship. if you're lucky, you'll find someone compatible sooner rather than later...good fortune to you in your search!

selphaware

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