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how do i approach a master correctly - 5/30/2005 5:08:01 AM   
jenna696


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Status: offline 		i have been looking for a master and how is the correct way to approach them. What is there requirements when we met? Do any masters train there sub/slaves as I am willing to be one
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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 5/30/2005 7:20:55 AM   
CitizenCane


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Status: offline 		There are no rules for this- just be polite, sincere. The real trick is figuring out who is a 'master' in any meaningful sense of the term.

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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 5/30/2005 8:56:25 AM   
MsSilvie


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Status: offline 		In general, for females with profiles on bdsm sites, the problem seems to be "how to deal with way too much interest from males?"

Or was it one specific master you were talking about?

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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 5/30/2005 9:06:03 AM   
petcerina


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Status: offline 		i am not a Master, but do have my own individual answer to your question that might help you. The most wonderful part about BDSM is that there is no rule book. There are guidelines, but nothing more. As far as i know, there is no "correct" way to approach a Master. CitizenCane is right in that the best advice to give you is to be polite, sincere and also honest and true to yourself.

As far as the requirements when you do meet someone, that varies between every relationship. Ask the person you are going to meet what they require from you and talk about it in detail. The key in any relationship is communication. Make sure you understand what each person wants and is looking for out of a meeting before the meeting ever takes place.

*smiles* Yes, many Masters train their property and it is good that you have decided to pursue this Lifestyle, but be patient. Finding someone in the vanilla world is hard enough, but there are times (like now) that i will insist that finding someone in the BDSM world is much harder. Patience is a virtue, and usually a trait that Masters look for. i wish you luck on your search.

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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 5/30/2005 9:38:40 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Hear!! Hear!!

Well said petcerina.

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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 5/30/2005 9:44:23 AM   
Domin81


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Seriously, petcerina's answer works for me.


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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 5/30/2005 11:21:26 AM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		My advice would to just be yourself until you have agreed to submit to a certain Dom. Then he should guide you in how he would like you to behave.

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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 5/30/2005 8:26:19 PM   
DesertRat


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Status: offline 		I agree with proudsub. Just be yourself and interact as you would with anyone. When the two of you decide to give it a go, the master should tell you how to address him, whether or not to kneel, and all that other stuff.

Bob (notcat....DesertRat)

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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 5/31/2005 2:09:57 AM   
Focus50


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Status: offline 		Email or r/l, saying "Hi" works for me.

There's a world of difference between being 'a submissive' and *my* submissive. Mine is the only sub I'd actively dominate and every other is met with the normal politeness and respect I'd greet anyone with who's new to me....

All Masters "train" their subs. There's no universal rule book or obstacle course to physically run through; what you're really being taught is how best to serve and please your particular Master as everyone's requirements are unique. A new sub in my life with 20 years previous experience still won't know exactly what I like, dislike or generally expect of her and the best qualified person to teach or "train" her is me. Which is why I state in my profile that previous experience is not important....

Focus50.

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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 5/31/2005 7:16:43 AM   
Kiaban


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Status: offline 		I have spoken with a few and had a few approach me as well.
My girl emailed me with the winning the line of "boo"...well here we are 4 years later and going strong.

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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 5/31/2005 7:18:49 AM   
DemonAngel


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Status: offline 		As a human being.And just be yourself and not how you think a submissive is.If the relationship develops you can then find out the dominants requirements and learn from then on.

Demon

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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 5/31/2005 8:51:01 AM   
jenna696


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Status: offline 		please can anybody else help me. I would like to get a master in the birmingham area and learn to behave

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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 5/31/2005 10:10:36 AM   
SenorX


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quote:

ORIGINAL: jenna696

i have been looking for a master and how is the correct way to approach them. What is there requirements when we met? Do any masters train there sub/slaves as I am willing to be one



There is no correct way, jenna; however, there is a common sense way and a foolhardy way. Look through the profiles and carefully study those who have posted their info therein to show themselves off to the subs. That would be the first best thing for you to do.

Then mark those whose profiles most closely fit those needs and desires of yours and put those into your "Favorites" list.

If you then really and truly wish to catch a Dom's attention, send that Dom an initial Petition for Consideration. A good Dom will know and appreciate such a gesture coming from a person wishing to find a good Dom.

In the meantime, you will be needing to weed out all the dommie wannabes that start barking orders at you from the beginning (and there are a bunch of those desperate folks out there... in cm and in other sites, and in the r/l world). If you really wish to give yourself to a good Dom, take your time in your search and you will run across someone who will slowly begin to take control... even to the point of holding back the reins when you want to become impatient and move too fast.

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ORIGINAL: jenna696

please can anybody else help me. I would like to get a master in the birmingham area and learn to behave



Now you are sounding like a screaming desperate injured rabbit just looking to be pounced on by a predator... but if that is what you are just looking for, more power to you. If you are looking for a true and lasting relationship, don't allow yourself to be desperate. you may not like My saying this, but it is the image you are just giving off.

Hopefully My thoughts stated herein will not just fall on deaf ears.

X

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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 5/31/2005 11:56:17 AM   
Interesdom


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Status: offline 		jenna,

As others have indicated, one of your first aspects in how to approach a master is to understand what you are approaching a master for (and are you sure it's a "master" you need). Most of us (d/o/ms) get quite enough attention and can only keep an interest in so many at a time: if you have spent time thinking through matters as best you can, that really helps. That's not to say you should just "make up" things - if you truly don't know if you want xyz or would enjoy abc that's fine because knowing what you don't know is as important as knowing what you do and don't want.

I had looked at your profile before reading your forum message as I'm in reach of Birmingham but decided not to write because profile is currently too vague. It's great that you haven't just ticked all the Interests but it still doesn't give me much idea what you are offering or even wanting.

Take a look at the nine levels of submission to help you get some idea of what you are looking for. Another simpler way to approach the matter is whether you just want someone to play with occasionally or whether you want a relationship; then do you have an interest in serving or an interest in masochism (could be both).

Best wishes,
Douglas.

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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 6/4/2005 7:32:36 PM   
RagnarSardar


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Status: offline 		It might be worth you asking who trained your new prospective Master...the title Master is claimed by many...mostly self taught....imagine a self taught driver...do you really want that kind of 'safety' ?
Masters are few and far between, Dominants abound like ths stars in the sky..a true Master will insist that you talk to several others He has trained..for thats what Masters do..train...others as well as continue their own....enjoy, be safe, and be a treasure...

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RE: how do i approach a master correctly - 6/4/2005 9:32:25 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RagnarSardar

It might be worth you asking who trained your new prospective Master...the title Master is claimed by many...mostly self taught....imagine a self taught driver...do you really want that kind of 'safety' ?

Better than someone who just happens to have a lot of charisma and friends.

I don't care who has what title, or how they got it, when it comes to M/s. I care about the person themselves.

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Masters are few and far between, Dominants abound like ths stars in the sky..a true Master will insist that you talk to several others He has trained..for thats what Masters do..train...others as well as continue their own....enjoy, be safe, and be a treasure...

Hmmm "true" and all, can't argue with that...must suck to be a new dom then.

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