I am curious to know if there are any lines of demarcation that separate a switch from a Dom or Domme, submissive or slave.
It has been my experience that it is not uncommon in the world of BDSM and D/s for many of those who term themselves as switches and who experiment with different roles. Sometimes they find our nitch in life, but often they linger somewhere in between one designation or the other. If that place satisfies one's needs, the result is contentment; but if they are unhappy and unfulfilled, then it is quite another matter.
That said, there are also those who are self-proclaimed switches, but lean in one direction or another, until that find that special relationship or situation that can move them from the middle to one side to the other side.
I have a suspicion, which mostly comes from what other members of my community have shared with me, that switches are not taken seriously by the BDSM community. There will always be prejudice and bias in any community, simply because of ignorance and intolerance; but it has always baffled me when a subculture that has been discriminated against chooses to harbor the very same kind of prejudice that they have suffered at the hands of others.
Without getting into too many specifics about myself, I have been told by a kink-aware therapists that I am hard-wired as a switch, but I much prefer the submissive/slave role to that of a Dominant. Sure, I can successfully pull it off as Dom, but to me it is acting out, rather than coming from the heart soul of who I am. My XGF for five years was a sub, and although I loved her, there was always something missing.
I am convinced that everyone of us is different. We are wired differently, have different needs and expectations, have different goals in life, and in general have different views about who and what we are. But is there a consensus of opinion among switches about how they interact in order to find satisfying relationships, as opposed to Doms or Dommes, submissives or slaves?
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