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cheekybottom -> Theatrical Eroticism (6/1/2005 10:01:05 AM)

What do you do with the dark fervent thoughts that come unbidden? Are they concealed like filthy secrets staining the inside of your mind? Do you instead lurk within its shadowy recesses waiting for liberation? What persuades and prevents you from taking fantasy to an act of the flesh?

The erotic labyrinth of mind both sensual and disturbing, yeah, some of my imagery makes me uncomfortable which might have inhibited me from exploring but this delay has also made me realize that the discomfort I feel tells me what I fear and fear tells me where my passion lies. I’m going in the right direction, I just know it. Its hypnotic it’s strange I’m quite simply seduced. This unease I’m experiencing marks a true challenge for me, what do I do with it now that I’m ready to confront? How do I learn the fluency of my own private play ground so that I might translate these thoughts and images into tangible, sensuous flesh based realities?

Sometimes you have to break from your comfort zone in order to nurture self. I want this more than anything. I’m tired of hiding and denying the very things that make me come alive. These roles I fantasize about are expressions of identity; they are an integral part of who I am.

I’ve never role played before but it makes sense to me that this would be the most appropriate, pure outlet that one has and yet I wonder can something intrinsic to ones soul be misconstrued as artificial as though one is behaving in a false manner if acted out? Has anyone ever gone through some confusion when assuming a character in erotic role-play?

And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.~Anais Nin

~d~




EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Theatrical Eroticism (6/1/2005 10:07:10 AM)

There can be confusion, some of what is considered "role play" is actually a very fuzzy area. When doing age play, I am not pretending to be an 8 year old girl, I am ME as I was at 8 years old. When doing puppy play, I am ME as I would be if I were a puppy. When doing objectification, I am ME as I would be if I were an object.

Elaborate role playing I see as akin to the role playing games that people can play very detailed, or to SCA people. They BECOME those characters as if it were who they are naturally.

I can see how there would be a disconnect. I am not sure I could ever really enjoy SCA or other such role play because I'd still be aware of myself. However, I'm good at changing perspectives and altering my mindset, so it's not out of the question if I ever became truly motivated to do so.

Fantasies and ideas are part of who we are, and we should feel free to explore them. My play is generally not role playing, when I beat someone, I am beating that person. When I am having sex, it's with me and them, the connection is with us.




happypervert -> RE: Theatrical Eroticism (6/1/2005 11:18:38 AM)

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How do I learn the fluency of my own private play ground so that I might translate these thoughts and images into tangible, sensuous flesh based realities?

I don't think there is anything to learn. Instead you need to find the right playmate for your playground, someone who is in tune with you. Then I think it will just come naturally, kinda like having the right dance partner.

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Has anyone ever gone through some confusion when assuming a character in erotic role-play?

I don't know if confusion is the right word . . . perhaps it is more like wondering if I'm going "over the top" and acting like a caricature. But if I'm wondering if I've crossed the line, there's no reason not to plunge forward and make absolutely sure I blast way over the topand be the most outrageous characture of domliness I can be. After all, it is play, so I might as well laugh and have fun with it.

Otherwise, I think there tends to be subtle roleplaying in all sorts of situations, such as acting like a serious responsible manager when meeting new coworkers while suppressing the inner lunatic or dressing in a dark suit and acting somber at the funeral of somebody I detest instead of dancing and throwing confetti as I would like. There may as well be some role playing to enhance the effect in erotic shenanigans too.




EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Theatrical Eroticism (6/1/2005 11:24:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: happypervert
Otherwise, I think there tends to be subtle roleplaying in all sorts of situations, such as acting like a serious responsible manager when meeting new coworkers while suppressing the inner lunatic or dressing in a dark suit and acting somber at the funeral of somebody I detest instead of dancing and throwing confetti as I would like. There may as well be some role playing to enhance the effect in erotic shenanigans too.

An excellent point! When I first lived totally on my own, a lot was overwhelming, new, big, and I wasn't really mature enough for it, common sense wise and emotions wise.

So what I did was begin to ask myself "So, if I were the most confident, mature, experience ME right now, what would I do?" and then do it! If you can't envision yourself, then envision someone you admire for their maturity and skill.

Soon enough in a few months I had mastered skills and raised my confidence high enough I didn't need to ask what would I do, because I was doing it.

Roleplaying often helps people explore things they aren't totally comfortable with in their own skin by de-centralizing and allowing it to be "the other self" experiencing it. This is often also why subs like being "forced" to do things so they don't have to consciously be responsible for it.




Estring -> RE: Theatrical Eroticism (6/1/2005 3:07:34 PM)

I think you may be overthinking things just a bit. Jump on in, the water is fine.




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