Mia1978
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Sounds like there are certain things that set you off (enough to "mouth-off and feel less powerful). Am I right? If you find that you are "reacting" to a situation and you get riled-up about something, then you need to discipline your mind to not react, but instead to lead your mind elsewhere. For instance, my older brother always used to irritate the hell out of me by insisting that he could prove 1+1 did NOT equal 2, and that Hitler was the smartest man that ever lived. Oh my!!! I would get so upset and would turn into a fighter to prove he was wrong, and after it all was said and done, I was angry, exhuasted, and all that arguing didn't change anything about either of us. I soon discovered that instead of letting him get the best of me, I would take the stance (in my mind) to "agree to disagree" and would leave the discussion with a smile because he has the right to think and feel whatever he wanted, and I didn't want to turn into a stressed out angry person. I don't know what it is about Holly that turns you subby, but if you can focus in on it and control how you respond to those situations by leading your mind somewhere else, then you may conquer yourself and never turn into a sub again. If you are Holly's sub, and Boy's Dom (oh my, what a perdicament!), then maybe some alone time after a session can help you meditate and re-focuss before having an encouter with the other. Taking 5 or 10 min for yourself can help you regroup, especially if you can find a specific thing to focuss on that allows you to re-center and get in touch with both sides of yourself). ;) hopefully I hope I understood your post right. If I went down the wrong assumptions here, I do apologize and welcom clearification. Mia
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