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RE: .LongDistanceRelationships. - 6/18/2007 11:01:13 AM

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I'm thinking LDR would be anything that involves more than a two or three hour drive. Personally, I don't see that as anything unreasonable. It just means that you have to plan a bit in advance for good visits.

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RE: .LongDistanceRelationships. - 6/18/2007 11:49:34 AM

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to me long distance is any where I cant drive there and back in the same night (and that is includeing the time we spend together!!)

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RE: .LongDistanceRelationships. - 6/18/2007 1:57:03 PM

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If I could get my ass back up on an airplane again and money would
never be an issue, long distance for me would be outside of the country.
Driving 2 or 3 hours would work. I was involved in a 2 year long-distance
relationship, 7-8 hour drive, it was hard but also had some great/fun traveling
together, we always made it an interesting trip.

Obligations outside the relationship made the traveling and missing each other
more difficult, so as long as I'm "grounded" I don't think I would become involved
again with someone that would take more than a few hours to get to or come to me.
I might make an exception if both parties would have open possibilities for re-location,
but never someone out-side the country.

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RE: .LongDistanceRelationships. - 6/18/2007 3:39:09 PM

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I agree with those who are replying 2 hours. I would say a two hour drive as well as a two hour time difference would constitute LD. Time zone differences can be a problem, not just the time it takes to drive to the other location. Not sure if these work out long term, I've never been in that type of relationship before so I just plain don't know. It seems like it would be difficult to sustain.

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RE: .LongDistanceRelationships. - 6/18/2007 3:48:30 PM

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i was involved in a LDR where we were 1,000 miles from each other and it was difficult. i made more than him so i flew there about once a month and he covered all other costs while i was there.

In the end, it was the time we were apart that was the end to the relationship because i couldn't afford to fly more than once a month and he couldn't handle being alone the rest of the time.

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RE: .LongDistanceRelationships. - 6/18/2007 5:01:51 PM

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Well in my relationship there is a 3,000 mile and a two hour time difference. The number of miles is about to increase because they are moving. Instead of just having a 7 - 8 hour flight (not including layovers and travel to and from the airport) to get there, I will also have to drive 5 - 6 hours after that to get to the house. I think that qualifies as long distance *g*

It is not uncommon for me to drive an hour just to have lunch with someone, so driving two hours would not be a big deal. For me, anything more than 3 hours away would be a long distance relationship. Of course, after dealing with the distance for the past two years, three hours would be heaven.

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RE: .LongDistanceRelationships. - 6/18/2007 5:18:59 PM

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I do feel that I can meet a Domme who is living close by.

I live in a large city with small towns near by. I would not mind driving across the city or to the smaller towns. I would use different highways to drive there quicker. I do think that driving more than 100 miles away is too much. My family and friends live near by. I would hate to move away.

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RE: .LongDistanceRelationships. - 6/18/2007 6:26:41 PM

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long distance...well rook and I live about 3 1/2 hours apart.Each weekend (only missed one since we met!) he drives up and spends about 3 days with me.We do vanilla ,kink, and family stuff, a really nice blend of everything.
When we discussed the time that is taken away from him being in his own home, we sorted through some basic stuff.Laundry is now done at my home-his and mine, bills can be paid from anywhere,food shopping -for the most part can be done together,so when we broke it down,there was little reason WHY he needed to be "in his home" to do most things.
What long distance did do was make him more focused during the week to get small things done BEFORE he comes up to see me!

And I agree.If someone lived 2 miles from me,but was too busy to see me,well then he might as well be 200 miles away! I find long distance sometimes keeps people from taking "together time" for granted. We long distance people use all our resources- phone,email ,or visits- to keep things close!

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RE: .LongDistanceRelationships. - 6/18/2007 11:56:39 PM

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I would consider anyone that doesn't live in the same city as me to be a LDR - mind you with the every increasing urban sprawl it can take 2 or more hours to get from one side of the city to the other.

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RE: .LongDistanceRelationships. - 6/19/2007 2:04:04 AM

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All of my relationships have been long distance and it seems the only way they work is if both parties are motivated. It's seems strange that i have not found one compatible Dom in my own state but it is what it is. my last relationship lasted just under 2 years and we saw each other every other weekend and it was not the distance that caused it to end.

i drive a bit over an hour each way to and from work so a 2 hour drive is fine with me. But i have recieved many emails from Dominants an hour or so away who write "too bad we don't live closer" so i suppose long distance is really relative to how much effort one wishes to expend.

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RE: .LongDistanceRelationships. - 6/19/2007 3:05:05 AM

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before we moved in together M lived in VA and myself in Ct.

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RE: .LongDistanceRelationships. - 6/19/2007 2:34:36 PM

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I was thinking about something to add to my earlier post. When I found a Domme and where she live. She might have family and friends living near by too.

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