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MHOO314 -> RE: Female Domination: Threat or Friend? (6/21/2007 6:50:22 PM)

It seems that I can see through Doms, most of them pfffttt---however the ones that are My friends are so dear, and I am very comfortable with them---we have the same interests and I am fine with it--we use each other to teach and learn-- and if its a new skill--pffttt, they are just glad I don't try it on them!---as far as Dominas--very few make My A list--but those that do, I am really fine with even if they are at the other end of My style <wink>----
 
I have spent so much time in My work life with men and being better and making better war analogies, I dont even think twice--and  I smell better---LMAO




MsKatHouston -> RE: Female Domination: Threat or Friend? (6/21/2007 8:37:53 PM)

Sir Dominic, I was using a quick reply and my post was intended for the OP.  I do not think you misconstrued anything.  Instead, I was asking the OP if perhaps SHE was misconstruing some playful banter with disrespect.  Sorry I know it looked as if I was posting to you, but was not.  I was merely using quick reply and you happened to be the last post.




DiurnalVampire -> RE: Female Domination: Threat or Friend? (6/21/2007 8:42:00 PM)

You always run into the few men who believe that all women are potental submissives, just like the ones who believe all lesbians just havent met a good man yet.  If they re people you know and respect then make sure they know it is not appreciated.  They might not realize it is actually bothering you.





SirDominic -> RE: Female Domination: Threat or Friend? (6/22/2007 7:31:35 AM)

Thank you for the clarification, Kat.

Namaste, Dominic




Tenchi -> RE: Female Domination: Threat or Friend? (6/22/2007 4:04:02 PM)

If you like to Dominate someone do it. Im willing to bet the guys that think you are confused are just weak minded and insecure dont let them effect something that you like or in there mind your helping prove that they are correct.





jaunty1 -> RE: Female Domination: Threat or Friend? (6/23/2007 2:08:31 AM)

I know quite a few women, in real life, who are dominant. They are absolutly wonderful people who I accept just as they are; I don't find them confused or strange at all.  There are some in the groups that we belong to who consider me to be a bit odd about this since I follow the Gorean philosophies about natural order.
 
Live well
 
Alex




submittous -> RE: Female Domination: Threat or Friend? (6/23/2007 11:49:45 AM)

I am likely prejudiced being half of a Dom/me couple. I see Dommes as friends and people to learn from just as I see gay male Doms in the same light. I was a single hetero Dom for more than 2 decades and have had the privilege of having a co-Dom now for 6 or 7 years. I have no trouble admitting I have learned a lot from Iris and had more fun in the process. Having a different energy just adds to understanding and we think makes us both better Masters. I  have never understood gender hostility among Dominants.

Bill




akbarbarian -> RE: Female Domination: Threat or Friend? (6/23/2007 2:17:14 PM)

Everyone is dominant, unless I decide otherwise, then they are all submissive.  It depends on my mood.




LadyHugs -> RE: Female Domination: Threat or Friend? (6/23/2007 6:19:13 PM)

Dear LadyAlzara, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
In my many years in the Leather Community, et.al.; there will be those who will not accept a woman as a Dominant, a Master and or one who is an equal peer.  There will be those who are tolerant and respectful to a woman as a Dominant, a Master and or an equal peer.
 
It goes back to individuals themselves, as they are the ones who must listen to their own 'spirit of intent' and what guides them in that time, that moment and the like.
 
Being a Heterosexual Female, in many Gay and Lesbian Leather events, I really don't have much trouble from Gay men.  I at times have trouble with Lesbians, as they focus on sexual vs. the total form of mastery. 
 
I have also had wonderful Gay Masters as mentors in my salad days.  Perhaps this is why I get on so well with Gay men; as I am not seen as a sexual object but as a unique individual who is well qualified in variety of fields. 
 
I would like to say, that words saying that I am Dominant are not necessary in Leather community circles.  It is one's manners, use of protocols, respecting those of all roles as well as having presence; tells more of my standing in my role than a lot of 'gushing' with individuals and having to inform them of what I am.
 
I also come into a crowd of strangers very serious--business like if you will.  I do not flirt with strangers, I only tease in a good humor fashioned with those who know me well.  It is a matter of earned respect and given latitude among dear friends.  Again, that 'right' to tease me and tease them is earned. 
 
In addition; how I speak to those who identify as Dominant matters.  I am keen on using my words carefully as to cement the fact that I address them as a Dominant and with the right key words, invite their permission to entertain my mind's eyes, my views and my skills.  I do not need to 'out crow' any Dominant --especially when I invite them into my mind's eyes.  It is a respectful exchange.  I also use words to invite them to share their mind's eyes.  Understanding is valued.  Respecting each other is important.  I never 'assume' I will be tolerated or appreciated.  I always think of myself as a 'guest' in those realms in the community where I am a stranger. 
 
Learning a new skill in a public place can be embarrassing.  They see mistakes and flaws, etc.  When I mentor someone, I do make it extremely simple and get results quickly, that people can see.  I do not like to string people along with lessons on techniques and skills.
Those with bad habits take more time however, those new to a skill are easy to work with.
 
I don't find in my area, people mocking those who wish to pick up a new skill or technique.  It seems more of many Dominants falling over each other to help a novice at a skill, to succeed.
 
Those who ask to mentor me, have never been upset by the peanut gallery per se.  Those who claim that they might not be dominant because of this or that, to include --they haven't met the right dominant yet --are often new themselves.  They always need to 'impress' others -- yet, often have little to impress with.  I have often offered to loan my whip and tell them to show us what they know.  It is amazing how fast retreats are.  Consider it posturing.  Just paying attention to your own business and learn good and safe skills is most important; not trying to change people's minds of who and what you are.
 
Just some thoughts.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs




mons -> RE: Female Domination: Threat or Friend? (6/26/2007 2:28:26 AM)

greeting lady A

i had many domianant males write and tell me i am not a very good domme and  i need to find a dominant male. i havw worked hard and i am coonfident and strong mind i am a dominant oh but i even have women dommes writing me. i have a slsave already i just wish they would respect me as i am. i began to talk to some of the dominant males and they have it their minds i need a master . i want a friend to speak with and share ideal and thought, that is all i wanted.

great post
mons




RavenMuse -> RE: Female Domination: Threat or Friend? (6/26/2007 3:54:31 AM)

My best friend is a lifestyle Domme, We share many of the same outlooks and values, often discuss our respective approaches to handling subs/slaves. Much the same way as I do with fellow Doms who I am friends with. Her gender makes no diffrence what so ever. On here I get on with and regard the likes of MoAz and MH just the same as I do with My old friend Ironbear, again it is the outlook and personality that drives the friendships, not the gender.

Why the heck would I see Dommes as some kind of 'threat'? Mostly they keep the male subs out from under My feet, great and even those who are looking to take on femsubs.... no more in competition with Me as other Doms are. I don't see it as 'competition'. I don't win a girl as a prize in a contest, I find a girl who is compatable and it builds from there.

The biggest problem I see in the OP is that she describes herself as a "Dominate" Gah! the word is "Dominant!!!!" Dominate is a VERB not a noun!!! *Chuckle* I don't do the pulling people up for word choise often but that is one of the few that REALLY bugs Me on forums such as this!




DiannaVesta -> RE: Female Domination: Threat or Friend? (6/26/2007 11:14:11 AM)

I’ve used this analogy before because it best describes my whole take on this…



I see us all as tribes. We live and breathe the same space; however we each have our own language, cultures and traditions. I would never step into someone else’s tribe expecting them to adhere to my beliefs or vise versa. Instead I would be more apt to learn more about them, even experience them on a limited basis just as I would do if I traveled to another country. I would respect and honor their space & expect the same from them when they step into my world.



I am quite comfortable in my femdom, female supremacy world here that I’ve created. I’m set in my beliefs and comfortable with my traditions, however I would be a foolish woman to think my way is the only way and I would be foolish not to explore everything life has to offer.



I have had several truly dominant men as friends. A man has to truly be a man, in my book to earn the title Master just as a woman must have fitting attributes to claim the title of Goddess.




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