ToysAndTies
Posts: 124
Joined: 5/20/2007 Status: offline
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From my persepective, the idea of holding a lover (dominant, submissive, vanilla, etc) to a standard of commitment that I exempt myself from is unacceptable. I refuse to get into the semantic debate about if I'm polyamorous, a swinger, single, or whatever, so I'll merely say what I do, and whoever feels like he or she needs to can ponder what I am. However much I care about someone, I will never ask her to be monogamous to me, because I value the freedom to interact with whoever I like, and would not surrender it. My take is that relationships, at any level, should be between two people: if I'm friends with someone, it's not because they have the approval of all of my other friends, but that the two of us get along, etc. Poly : Poly or Mono : Mono relationships seem to me the more ideal forms, because only when both (or all) parties involved are afforded the same choices and freedoms equally can any argument have meaning. Otherwise, with the Mono : Poly structure, when Mr. M asks Mrs. P why it's ok that she see others, and he not, she doesn't have a logical leg to stand on.
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