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sirmagic -> Thoughts on Dominance - "Speaking to those who would follow" (6/8/2004 12:30:59 PM)
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Thoughts on Dominance -
"Speaking to those who would follow"
By Sir Magic
http://www.darkangel.com
I am Sir Magic and I am an alpha male, a DOMINANT.
Those like myself, dominate because it is natural for
us to do so. I am born to it, as an eagle is born to fly.
This is not so much self grandiloquence as it is truth. When
a natural Dominant walks into a room, they can own it.
There is a natural presence which flows from within as
natural Dominants project power. Often in our presence
people want to follow, to be led. Usually in vanilla group
situations, I find males and females automatically
deferring to me; asking what they should do. You might
think as a Dominant I would be in heaven. A born alpha
male with everyone at thy feet. Well in truth, it's a
pain in the ass. Just because I'm a Dominant doesn't
mean I want the responsibility which comes with leading
all the time. Fortunately for me I have learned to "mask"
it or turn it off. Regardless, it still causes problems
in every day life.
It's particularly hard in the corporate culture, especially
when your boss is threatened by you, and doesn't understand
why. I'm not talking about the cases where he or she knows
they are less competent than you or even, the situation
were their paranoid about you wanting their job. Truth is,
in most cases I had no such desire. It's a simple case
instinct vs. intellect. They instinctively want to defer
to your will, but intellectually know they must be your
superior. Thus, subconscious conflict. End result, usually
loss of a job. In my case being a 6 ft. black male with
240 pounds of imposing muscle mass doesn't help either.
I'm not one to play race cards and frankly I'm tired
of blame the "white man" for various ills.
America is as it is, I am a competent, intelligent and capable
Black Male Dom. History is history I'M OVER IT and have moved
on. For you Brotha's who have not... GET OVER IT !!
( But I digress.. anyaway as I was saying )
I exist, therefore, I can intimidate. The
fact I have NO such intent is irrelevant when it comes to
a closed mind. This simple but true reality is something
most men of color and any woman can relate to.
There are Dominants out there Dominate because they are
"Control Freaks" and must be in control at all times.
Controllers need constant assurance their out of control
life, is under control. Usually, they seek to control
every aspect of a slaves life. They are not happy unless
they are debasing or controlling someone. For them, this
is not a sensual activity, a part of life. For a control
freak, it IS their life. ( Not to be confused with "lifestyle")
They live to hear you beg because they need to feel
superior, not because a slave needs to be controlled,
a yin and yang. But because they pathologically need to
debase and control With a control freak, it is not about
your need to submit or your craving for emotional release
through debasement, submission or slavery. It will always be
about their need to hide their rampant sense of insecurity.
"I am in control, because I dominate you. Therefore I
must be someone, because I am in control."
In a Dominant/submissive relationship, the Dominant's
needs do come first, but not at the total and complete
expense of the slave. Unfortunately, this group will
never come to understand a Dominant's power and control
comes from within, and NOT at the end of a whip, flogger,
crop or calling you a worthless fuck pig. We are empowered
by those who need or Dominance, NOT by our existence.
For you young Dominants who are exploring for the first
time take heed and look inward and ask yourself.
"Why am I really here ?"
"Why do I Dominate ? "
"Which do I like more, the power or the sex ?"
"Is Dominance for me a sexual act or a spiritual science ?"
True Dominance comes from within. Before you seek to be
Master to another you must first Master yourself.
Otherwise, your DOM/sub relationships will not succeed
long term.
This isn't about getting your rocks off exclusively. This
is about power, discipline and control. Seek to Master
these things first and when you do, you will have more
opportunities to "get off" than you can honestly satisfy.
I've been doing this for 22 years now. I'm not
an expert and I make NO such claim. But, I am one who
has walked this path before you. I have been where you stand
now and where you will be tomorrow.
Where or not you choose to listen and learn, is a fate
which only you can Master.
Warm Dominant Regards
Sir Magic
Copyright 2000 -2004 Sir Magic and Magic's World
http://www.darkangel.com
All rights reserved.
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