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24 hour slave - 6/23/2007 2:28:32 AM

Melindadawn5

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There is a girl that I like and over talking with her she has agreed to be my slave for a day. we set up a safe word and she has no limits so I dont have a lot to go on with what she would be interested in. I want my day to be special and yet i want her to see my dominant side. i am currently trying to win her love over the love she has for her x who has no true feelings for the girl she likes and her only intentions with the girl i like is to drag her along until something better and with a penis comes along...
i know that she is more dominant so i am worried that she will hate the submitting part however she seems very excited for this to happen. she is mascochist but only when she is giving the pain to herself and she is a major sadist. she loves knives and other sharp objects and loves fire... i am writing to you and hopefully other dommes on ideas that will make this girls head spin and make her emotions for this other girl to vanish. id like to win her over on the 24 hours that she will be mine. do you have any ideas?
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Mistress Mindy

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RE: 24 hour slave - 6/23/2007 2:43:57 AM

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Hi Mindy

I dont think that you will be able to make her emotions for the other girl to vanish, but what you can do is show her how much you like her. If she is exicted to sub then play on that, use it to build the anticipation. take your time and follow your intuition. I have often found that just doing something, works better than actually planning out a scene step by step, dont get me wrong, ideas are great to have, but to many details can get in the way.

hehe and dont worry about titles too much, shrugs, im a Dominant, but im also a masochist and a sadist haha. I think that if you just relax and enjoy yourself it will be fine. Another thing is that its probably best not to do too much at once, dont give her all your cards, show her a taste of what she could have with you, tease her a little, but dont play all your cards in one hand.

hope this helps

just some of my thoughts

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RE: 24 hour slave - 6/23/2007 2:56:33 AM

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Lady Catherine,
Thank you for your input. I dont think I will plan everything out but I do want to have some ideas on what to do. I am lost. Normally I already know that the other party with me likes me and is crazy over me so winning them over means nothing to me. This is different because I like this girl and want to have a real gf relationship with her... and a lot of different transitions go on in a 24 hour period. i guess maybe im looking for sensual things, fourplay activities etc... maybe small things here and there that will put butterflys in her stomach. i dont now.
Thanks,
Mistress Mindy

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RE: 24 hour slave - 6/23/2007 2:57:37 AM

Melindadawn5

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I also dont think that I will be having sex with her so it is even more hard to know for sure what to do.

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RE: 24 hour slave - 6/23/2007 3:10:10 AM

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There is no way You can make someone fall in love in 24 hours. So just be normal and enjoy the date, then she will see who You are and what You have to offer. Sometimes trying to hard comes across and is off putting. You could always sit and chat for the first half hour over coffee, and see what she is expecting from the day, then go with the flow.
i hope it all goes well for You.

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RE: 24 hour slave - 6/23/2007 3:19:21 AM

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a rose can work wonders, you get the thorns to scratch, and the petals to soothe, they are so versitile and sensual. candles are good, soft music, and relax, show her you are enjoying it as much as you hope she will.

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RE: 24 hour slave - 6/23/2007 3:20:45 AM

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... I have known this girl for about 2 months.... i see her every day and sometimes she is over for days on end... we are getting a house together with two other friends, so we know eachother very well. i spend day after day being flirted with by her: felt up, kissed, hugged, pet... the list is never ending. so i have already been working on getting to know her. this salve for a day thing is just another way for us to be able to touch and even go further than what we have been doing. i just need ideas

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RE: 24 hour slave - 6/23/2007 6:53:09 AM

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... I have known this girl for about 2 months.... i see her every day and sometimes she is over for days on end... we are getting a house together with two other friends, so we know eachother very well. i spend day after day being flirted with by her: felt up, kissed, hugged, pet... the list is never ending. so i have already been working on getting to know her. this salve for a day thing is just another way for us to be able to touch and even go further than what we have been doing. i just need ideas

I'm a bit confused.

In the OP you said she "has no limits" but you've known her for about two months (above).

In my experience even people who say they have no limits really do, they just may not be thinking that you are the kind of person who would cross those or they might now know how to express them. I'd frankly insist you have a pointed discussion about what is and isn't off limits for this scene.

If nothing else it will give you more information and imformation is power which should make you feel more confident. Lack of confidence is a killer for both the dom and the sub when it is the dom who lacks the confidence. Don't do this 24 hour thing until YOU feel ready for it.

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