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RE: Meet a Dom after... - 6/24/2007 10:51:11 AM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		MJ an I met at a Starbucks, about 3 1/2 years after we started talking, hundreds of hours of phone conversations, countless hours of IM conversation, numerious arguments, knowing eachother that well, was great. If we had met after 4 short emails, we would NOT have gotten along, we probably would have killed eachother.
 
I HAVE traveled to meet people before, I'm glad I did, I knew those men very well, and I had saftey precautions in place, as well as other things.

To the OP, is this something you are considering?? or just a fantasy??

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RE: Meet a Dom after... - 6/24/2007 11:50:41 AM   
ELUSIVE1


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Ahhh come on everyone with the Hell No's--where is your sense of adventure....where are all the 'adrenaline junkies' that laugh in the face of danger????...just kinding y'all, I hate to be so agreeable all the time, but yes the manis freakin batshit insane if he thinks any worthwhile sub would do that...


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RE: Meet a Dom after... - 6/24/2007 1:24:32 PM   
ExSteelAgain


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Status: offline 		You live in San Diego, on the border with Mexico, and I assume many go back and forth on a regular basis. So he wanted you to simply go for a ride with him is another way of looking at it. I'm not saying you are wrong, but it is not like he tried to take you to some mideast place where sultans hang out with concubines.

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RE: Meet a Dom after... - 6/24/2007 3:19:51 PM   
EvilGeoff


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Status: offline 		Why can't I meet any submissives that want to take ME to another country?  *sighs*
I'd love to go to Europe or Asia on someone else's dime...

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RE: Meet a Dom after... - 6/24/2007 4:13:46 PM   
GhitaAmati


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quote:

Why can't I meet any submissives that want to take ME to another country?  *sighs*
I'd love to go to Europe or Asia on someone else's dime...


I love it! of course we would probably ALL love to take some exotic vacation on someone elses dime...but a question for You as a Top (Dom?Master/Whatever you use)...would you..even if a sub offered, travel out of country with someone you had only spoken to a few times on the net? (wondering how this sounds from the other side)

ghita amati

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RE: Meet a Dom after... - 6/24/2007 4:50:05 PM   
frazzle40


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I had one message saying HI and was then expected to pack my bags for Eygpt.      Surprise, surprise, im still in rainy UK.

Wonders what i might have missed out on.   lol

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RE: Meet a Dom after... - 6/24/2007 5:24:29 PM   
wwwkevinww


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaverosebeauty

MJ an I met at a Starbucks, about 3 1/2 years after we started talking, hundreds of hours of phone conversations, countless hours of IM conversation, numerious arguments, knowing eachother that well, was great. If we had met after 4 short emails, we would NOT have gotten along, we probably would have killed eachother.
 
I HAVE traveled to meet people before, I'm glad I did, I knew those men very well, and I had saftey precautions in place, as well as other things.

To the OP, is this something you are considering?? or just a fantasy??


alot of what you say makes alot of sense....always have a lifeline so someone knows where you are etc in case things go bad they know who you were last with, meeting a stranger, etc....

I had someone meet me only after a short convo, the first conversation with them, because I wanted to see a play and didn't feel like going solo.....it wasn't out of country.....

You should of asked qualifying questions like their full name, their real address, etc....do some research on them, their cell phone line so you can call them back, etc....if they are serious and not intending you any harm, then they'd be willing to give you all this info if they are serious about getting together with you...

double check on the white pages etc if they check out......does anything they have said not add up?

You'd hope that would be a deterant to anything bad happening to you, that you had people who knew you were with this stranger.......

I had some girl want to meet up, and it was just a wild goose chase, not sure why she picked me to waste hours driving pointlessly (boost her self esteem), but I should of known better before  I even left.  I did contact my brother as a lifeline as a preventative measure (guys can be victims too)......even while I was contacting my brother and had turned around, she recalled me on my cell phone just to make sure I wasted another few hours of my time on a wild goose chase....

I'm leery of people who say they will never meet anyone on here, if your not looking for romance, than I can understand it.  but if you want intimacy, Its not easy to have an intimate relationship without meeting........

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RE: Meet a Dom after... - 6/24/2007 5:34:58 PM   
frazzle40


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Status: offline 		Forgetting leaving the country.   I did spend half a day talking to someone on CM, we seemed to click, so He jumped on a train to come visit, i picked Him up at the nearest station, deal being at worst He'd get a decent home cooked meal ( i can at least cook).
We got on great, plan to meet again.   Ok He works weekdays, i work weekends and we live 200 miles apart isnt being helpful, but if its meant to be we'll work something out.   Wonders if producing a new calendar would help, i already seem to need 30 hours in a day not 24, so why not add days as well.

Yes im warped, but it keeps me sane.

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RE: Meet a Dom after... - 6/24/2007 6:38:44 PM   
dogobedience


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Status: offline 		I did meet a girl within 2 hours of me signing up for my first profile on collarme. THANK YOU COLLARME !!! We were face to face a few hours later and she was bound in my place a few hours after that. The good old days, prior to all the new internet fakes and kinky sex only players. 

I believe I created comfort in her by allowing her an out, and verified who I was through friends, ALL GIRLS and former play partners and or owned by me.Yes she took a risk, but I was willing to offer every chance to leave and she had a safe call who knew who I was and where we would be at all times. I do not recommend what she did to others but, I go out of my way to prove who I am and EXACTLY what will happen under my control. We are friends still years later.BTW, I also protected myself with a safe call!! 

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RE: Meet a Dom after... - 6/24/2007 7:54:56 PM   
slaveish


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quote:

ORIGINAL: EvilGeoff

Why can't I meet any submissives that want to take ME to another country?  *sighs*
I'd love to go to Europe or Asia on someone else's dime...



Well. Hell. I have a dime. Don't know how you're going to get overseas on it - it's rather small. But just say the word and it's yours.

in eternal assistance,
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RE: Meet a Dom after... - 6/25/2007 3:10:51 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		I swear I remember, years ago, meeting a guy at a party and going home with him for the night. You know, I still have both my kidneys, didn't get sold to a sultan for tons of money or anything else. And no, I didn't demand his last name or driver's license or anything like that. Had a hell of a hangover the next day if that counts.

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RE: Meet a Dom after... - 6/25/2007 3:32:16 AM   
taintedgypsy


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Status: offline 		Hi and I am with those who say hell no ... but I also do not see the prob with meeting for coffee in a public place even if it has only been a short time as long as you have set up all the necessary safe guards and it helps if they can offer a reference. Not everyone is a freak and you can too cautious.

I think of some of the stuff I did 20yrs ago and wonder if I do not have a very tired guardian angel who worked a lot of overtime ... spent a week in a little A-frame cottage setup on the edge of a cliff in northern Western Australia with some peeps I had only met a couple of times over a very short spanse of time ... but I had a ball. However I do think times have changed and I would think twice about alot of things I have done and many I would not consider for any reason now.

I am not sure whether it is the world has changed, I have got older or a combination of both, whatever, it did seem to be a lot easier and more free than it is today.

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