LadyHeart -> RE: CBT (6/24/2007 4:35:41 AM)
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When we wanted to run a workshop on this subject, we contacted a couple of gay Dom's to present it for us. There is nothing like gay men to know about men's bits, lol. The first point they made was that most men are very penis orientated. The balls are the part of their anatomy that is most neglected. So their advice was to focus on the balls, rather than the dick. They suggested using properly designed toys like parachutes and cock rings with ball separators, and starting with weights first. Begin with lots of stroking, gentle tugging and stretching with the hands, then apply the harness and start adding weights. Play with the weights a bit, swing them, spend heaps of time with the balls. You can use clothes pegs on the skin of the scrotum, run a wartenburg wheel across it (which is extra effective when the skin is stretched taught with a cock ring) apply ice, blow on the wet skin, use a vibrator, stroke it with abrasive gloves - everything you can to focus on the balls. Squeeze lots - but avoid striking. Playing with the penis is the next step. We were shown how to use sounds, but that's probably something you need to be shown. My suggestion - make friends with a gay Dom! It's an education! There's also a book called "The Family Jewels" which is good - and guess what - it's written by a gay Dom, lol :)) LH
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