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ORIGINAL: Celeste43

Sleep, masturbate, chocolate. Exercise if you're up for it. Drink lots of water.

Back when we were ldr, I learned early that playing until the last minute was a recipe for disaster. I can't imagine doing so and then dealing with airplane flights and jet lag. From where I sit, the sheer fact that you can make sense posting means you're doing amazingly well.

Even if he's not yet online, you could still write him lots of emails. Give him something to look forward to when he does get back on, plus it's like journaling in that you get everything out.

Take it easy and pamper yourself.

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

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ORIGINAL: Celeste43

Sleep, masturbate, chocolate. Exercise if you're up for it. Drink lots of water.

Back when we were ldr, I learned early that playing until the last minute was a recipe for disaster. I can't imagine doing so and then dealing with airplane flights and jet lag. From where I sit, the sheer fact that you can make sense posting means you're doing amazingly well.

Even if he's not yet online, you could still write him lots of emails. Give him something to look forward to when he does get back on, plus it's like journaling in that you get everything out.

Take it easy and pamper yourself.

Loved this post. 

One thing that helps me is he occasionally gives me a shirt he has worn.  It smells like him and I swear I inhale the scent right out of it!  It's wonderful to sleep with.  Some people have teddy bears in their bed - I have a damn wardrobe. 

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ORIGINAL: amaidiamond

This has probably been posted a million times before and if so i do apoliguise, I think it's one part question, one part whinge.

I'm in a LDR with my Master, He's in America, i'm in England, we met online 6 years ago and developed a close friendship and back in january decided to make a go of things real time, currently it is visits only then when my house is sold, hopefully in january i hope to move, (visas and the like being explored currently)

I flew back into the UK yesterday and not visiting now for another 9 weeks and I really don't know what to do with myself, whatever I'm doing I really don't feel like doing and then if i change what i'm doing i don't want to do that either, He isnt online atm due to moving house, He should be reconnected in about a week so normally He'd be with me online and this time he's unable, we're talking on the phone and the like but i'm just feeling so damn wretched, I've done the things i'm meant to be doing, I go back to work tomorrow so should help, just wondering if anyone has any hints and yep, I know, my fault for being in a LDR in the first place.

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ORIGINAL: amaidiamond
Oh what a fantastic idea :D i have a huge teddy bear in there at the moment to take up some of the space, I think i'll ask him nicely for his clothes in september lolol

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

Having been there done that and still doing it for the most part... the aftereffects of a LDR are rough. When Angel and I were still long distance, we went months without seeing one another. To make it easier, I made sure he had something of mine to hold on to. He has a shirt from me, and he has a small glass angel on his desk that reminds him that even if we arent physicaly together he is always in my mind and my heart. Becasue of his scheudle, even now that I live less than 30 min away, we only managed to see one another a handful of times since I have been here. Every time we are together, it gets to be harder to be apart. What I would suggest, and you might think its silly, is ask your Master to record himself on a tape for you. When you hear his voice, it'l help. If you have a song together, play it.  If you have a favorite activity together, do it. Angel and I used to play DOOM when I was over.  It was the only time he ever played it. When he started to miss me too too much, hed play, and the  write me a long email about how his game went, and how many mosters he killed.  It was adorably simplistic, but it seemed to help him.
And instead of thinking that its a whole 9 weeks until you see him again, do a count down. They are far more exciting than dreading how long it will be.  Angel and I used to start our countdowns to the next visit while we were waiting in the airport for my  departing flight.  And we'd email the update to one another on occasion.
He will be back online soon, and you do have him on the phone now.  Instead of focusing on the negative parts, think of how lucky you are that you found one another over such a distane.  Think about how lucky you are that it all worked out when every logical avenue says it shouldnt have. Thats what we did. Thats what we still do, we remind ourselves every time we are together that there is a reason we are in one anothers lives.
If you look for the silver lining, every cloud can look better.

My 2 cents.
DV

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie


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One thing that helps me is he occasionally gives me a shirt he has worn.  It smells like him and I swear I inhale the scent right out of it!  It's wonderful to sleep with.  Some people have teddy bears in their bed - I have a damn wardrobe. 

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ORIGINAL: sfdrew

I am getting ready to meet my Mistress for the first time next week and i am real nervious now about subdrop. She lives in NY and i live in Kansas so trips are bound to be several months apart. Anybody have some advice for a first timer (to be). i hope it gets better after the first time.