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MaamJay -> RE: Telling Our Stories (6/26/2007 10:05:06 AM)
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I like the vignette idea also because it can cover the different groupings involved in bdsm (male Dom with fem sub, female Domme with male sub, also same sex pairings, switchy types and even some poly!) and also depict people from different backgrounds. I firmly believe it should avoid reinforcing the stereotype that people come into this because they are "broken", I think that's a very dangerous thing to do. Fine that it shows how they become fulfilled and things like their self-esteem may improve etc ... but not seriously damaged to start with. That was very much my criticism of the Secretary, they were both badly warped and didn't really know what they were doing and neither did they take the time/trouble to find out ... everything we here at collarme would give them heaps of shit for! I think it would be more positive to (at least in part) show that there are a lot of highly intelligent, professional thinking people involved, who run great risk of being "outed" and perhaps losing jobs etc, but who so firmly believe that this is who they really are that they go down this path anyway. In fact the diversity of people involved in bdsm is a lesson in itself. I think it should show that being a sub isn't a position of weakness, in fact it shows great courage and strength of character to allow oneself to be so vulnerable, so trusting, and to put one's wants aside. And I definitely think it should break the stereotype of Dominants being domineering/bossy people ... instead it should show how this role requires quick thinking, decision-making, responsibility and care and concern for their sub. Surely along the way we can explain some of the key things like safe calls and safe words by having the characters arrange them, use them, or perhaps neglect to do so and learn a lesson! And we can also show that while we are all different, and don't always agree, we do come together at times in small groups and communities to help, support and educate each other, whether it's online as in this forum or in real such as at munches and play parties and Dungeon workshops! And for once, we can show some realistic play!! Some of the very B-grade (or was that Z-grade??) movies I have seen either have subs doing way too much moaning for way too little impact ... or have ridiculous, impractical and downright dangerous scenes that could kill someone if it was imitated. One I remember was a latex-suited and hooded sub, bound to an upright religious-style cross on a beach and left there. Through the movie artifice of the tide coming in and out and the sky going dark, light, dark, light etc it seemed like days passed and she was still bound there moaning weakly! No food, water, toilet relief or movement (or supervision by the Dominant either!). Now sorry, but even Jesus didn't last that long crucified! And it wasn't the nails that made the difference (if you ever want to read something gory read a medical explanation of how crucifixion kills *shudder*). (PS I don't take his name in vain, I am a believer, so please don't start the fire!) I also like the idea that the conflict shouldn't come from within or between characters in their vignettes, but should show how they work together, how they complement each other, how the power exchange is open between them to create a whole that is greater than the sum of its parts.
Surely WIITWD is spectacular enough to vanillas when portrayed accurately that we can avoid the sensationalism that is so often a part of movies and just tell a damned good story! I think this is a totally awesome idea, and I really hope it gets off the ground!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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