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newbie!!! - 6/11/2005 5:34:10 AM

zoetrusoldier

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Hello, im very new at this. I am a 25 year old straight male. A friend of mine suggested this site to me last night and i have just been checking things out. I am not just inexperienced in bdsm.... but also sexually. I am somewhat of a closet freak, im very curious and would like to learn more. So help me out a bit folks if you can, any suggestions?

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RE: newbie!!! - 6/11/2005 6:20:51 AM

perfection20005

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Do some research on what it is you think you would like to do. Find someone you can confide in, and talk this lifestyle. Don't jump in over your head, just because of something you may have heard.

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RE: newbie!!! - 6/24/2005 2:35:55 AM

zoetrusoldier

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dont really know where to start... a lil lost

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RE: newbie!!! - 6/24/2005 4:09:13 AM

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when i first came here, i met a wonderful Man.. a master of several years..who became my mentor. He taught me a great deal and kept me safe from harm. W/we spoke for a long time each morning as i was over-excited by my mail and not paying attention to profiles. He had approval power over whom i met and under what circumstances, to assure my safety.

i knew when i arrived here i was a submissive, but that's not much more than saying i'm a woman; the range of submissives is very broad; and working with my mentor helped me understand and focus and determine that i was a pleasure sub. it did not happen overnight.

i do not know where Marion is, but many munches are listed on www.mybdsm.com; You may find one in Your area. seems to me You need to understand first if You are a Dominant or a submissive/slave..and then seek the attention of the women who could satisfy Your needs...but in a very cautous manner.

it does not matter that You are sexually inexperienced; i am 49 and so am i. real BDSM people are not going to judge You or reject You; not so long as it is apparent You are learning and respectful to others.

So, i would do two things. read -- castle realm (www.castlerealm.com) is a good site. and try to find a woman with more experience than i to be Your mentor..hopefully someone You meet in real life, but if not, then perhaps You could search here for submissives and Mistresses in Your area and ask if T/they could make time for You.

if ever i can be of any help, don't be afraid to email me..and i wish You great happiness...fillepink

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RE: newbie!!! - 6/24/2005 9:53:22 AM

MadameDahlia

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You can find plenty of reading by using the search option near the top of the page.

There are a number of websites and books available for research purposes. You may be able to find lists of these sites and books in prior threads.

Another thing to do would be to use the search option to find threads about questions you may have regarding a particular fetish, idea or theme. You could start a new topic as well to get a fresh perspective.

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