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Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/26/2007 8:50:11 PM

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I am wondering if anyone has ever heard of this or if you have any thoughts on it... I feel like I would love to dominate but at the same time I love being my Masters sub/slave, is it possible to be a dominant couple with others but be in a D/s dynamic ourselves with me submissive and him Dominant? Just looking for thoughts on this.

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/26/2007 8:57:26 PM

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Yes.

If you can imagine it, it exists.

And, you can form unique relationships which are completely independent of eachother in terms of dynamics if that's part of who you are.

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/26/2007 9:12:52 PM

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Have you ever tried being Dominant?

You may feel like you would love to, but if and when you actully try it, it could go in any direction. You may love it an give up submission forever. You may hate it and revert to submission completely forever. You may enjoy it but not feel a need to do it again. You may never be able to live without it again. Who knows?

Personally, I don't believe in Dominant females. I honestly believe any female who claims otherwise to be lying to themselves. That's my opinion and I am entitled to it, even if it is utterly and completely wrong. I believe that any attempt to argue with this opinion is just a sign of insecurity that indicates to me that deep down inside the woman knows she is submissive and for some reason she can't or won't allow herself to be free to live it.

Who cares?

I'm just some dumb guy spouting nonsense right? Obviously

So give it a try, and find out if you like it, need it, want it...or hate it.

Just realise one thing...angry, agressive Dommes (and there are a fuckload of them around) (Edit: and a fuckload of Dom's like that too - just to be non-discriminatory) don't have a clue what Dominance is. If you can't Dominate mentally, don't waste your time trying to do it physically, because it's just not there.

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/26/2007 9:19:53 PM

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yes i know several situations like the one you envision. totally doable.

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/26/2007 9:23:12 PM

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Holly is my Domme, Karen is my Domme, Karen is Holly's submissive... Yes it's done.

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/26/2007 9:31:58 PM

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Thank you for the input I haven't heard of it on here before and was just wondering if it was more common than I thought or not.

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/26/2007 9:36:55 PM

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I try to use most....when you try to generalize so much that you say all people, or all women, you are in logic fallacy. There have been studies, and some women are most assuradly dominant.....

if a woman tell you she is gay, do you still not believe her? does she have to take you to her bedroom and show you her with another girl? so a woman dominating another is fiction? she's not really enjoying herself?

you can believe what you want, like the earth is flat, the earth is the center of the universe, and cars don't exist.

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/26/2007 9:39:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: zindyslave

Thank you for the input I haven't heard of it on here before and was just wondering if it was more common than I thought or not.

I have heard this before......

if you find you don't like being dominant, you might have troubles with who-ever you find, some women will submit to a dom couple, but don't just want a dom guy....

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/26/2007 9:42:57 PM

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Master > Y/you > slavey slave.

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/26/2007 9:53:58 PM

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Why is it that so many people seem to see the Dominant person in a relationship as ">" the submissive one?

If you ask me, if anyone is ">" the other, it is the submissive, but really, neither is ">" the other.

(deleted the rest, it really didn't need to be said)

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/26/2007 10:08:48 PM

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Our Relationship dynamic is exactly like that. Within my marriage I am my Master/husband's sexual submissive, but in my play dynamics with others I am a Top. One person I know put it well - she is her Master's submissive, but she has a "pet" of her own. It's quite a common dynamic, and once you've got your head around it, it works just fine.
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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/26/2007 10:21:07 PM

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Thank you LadyHeart for putting it that way, it was hard for me to exactly state it like I wanted to. I know that I would like to dominate as my Master has let me experience this with him even tho he has no desire to be submissive just wanted me to experience it to see if it was something I would like. So, I was just wondering if anyone would be interested in being with a couple such as my Master and I.

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/26/2007 10:23:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: Rastimmipitwax

Why is it that so many people seem to see the Dominant person in a relationship as ">" the submissive one?

If you ask me, if anyone is ">" the other, it is the submissive, but really, neither is ">" the other.

(deleted the rest, it really didn't need to be said)

in relation to power, I can see the > symbol......

with regard to importance, a Dom cannot really have a relationship without a submissive...and vice versa, for the existance of the relationship, you'd hope both would realize the importance of the other...

A dom who doesn't respect and treasure his submissive is eventually going to lose that submissive...

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/27/2007 1:45:53 AM

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I have been in a relationship like this for 3 yrs now, I love being submissive to Master, but love to be Dominant as well, for me I love to share the experiences and feelings I have when I am serving, so when I have a session where I am Dominant with another, and I see that person/pet/toy getting the gratification from that session, I must imagine that it makes my Master feel that same way watching me To see that lust desire and need satiated is a wonderful feeling.

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/27/2007 2:44:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wwwkevinww

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ORIGINAL: Rastimmipitwax

Why is it that so many people seem to see the Dominant person in a relationship as ">" the submissive one?

If you ask me, if anyone is ">" the other, it is the submissive, but really, neither is ">" the other.

(deleted the rest, it really didn't need to be said)

in relation to power, I can see the > symbol......

with regard to importance, a Dom cannot really have a relationship without a submissive...and vice versa, for the existance of the relationship, you'd hope both would realize the importance of the other...

A dom who doesn't respect and treasure his submissive is eventually going to lose that submissive...

For clarification, I was indeed referring to power/control in the relationship, not actual worth of the person.

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/27/2007 3:47:46 AM

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One of the many options W/we are looking at is for her to Domme a third... since she is so comfortable in her role of submissive, for her to Domme someone would requiring her to do what I tell her... :-)

Best of luck.

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ORIGINAL: zindyslave

I am wondering if anyone has ever heard of this or if you have any thoughts on it... I feel like I would love to dominate but at the same time I love being my Masters sub/slave, is it possible to be a dominant couple with others but be in a D/s dynamic ourselves with me submissive and him Dominant? Just looking for thoughts on this.

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/27/2007 3:55:07 AM

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I know of a few couples that are like this, the woman is submissive only to her Dom/partner/husband and Domme to all else. I could see myself in a similar situation if the opportunity arose keeping in mind I would be submissive to the Dominant and follow their desires first before my own.

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/27/2007 4:40:12 AM

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I lived in this kind of relationship for over a year.. I am a Domme, was Domme even before I met Her and continued to play with My boy while I was submitting to my Mistress.. it is a very interesting dynamic. Unfortunately in the long run it did not work out for me, but if One can make it work it is amazing!

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/27/2007 5:58:54 AM

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**rolls eyes and shakes her head at Rastimmipitwax**

Well I believe that most male doms are just afraid to submit, for fear they will like it to much. **grinz**

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RE: Dominant couple but female sub to Male Dom? - 6/27/2007 6:18:26 AM

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Good Morning,

When I describe myself I say - I am not a switch because my feelings and my actions never change. I am submissive to Argent ONLY. I am dominant to everyone else. I had a boy for a while who would arrive at our home on Friday evenings and be my boy all weekend both in serving me and in "play" sessions/scenes. He knew in the general pecking order that Argent was dominant to him also and often Argent would have the boy run an errand or go find a tool in the garage, but the boy's main function was to serve me. It became common in the evenings for Argent and I to be on the couch sort of cuddling with the boy on the floor at me feet with his head in my lap as we all talked or watched a movie. There were times when a female "boy" we love would also spend the weekend and he would be on the couch between Argent and me with my boy at me feet. We are currently in the very beginning stages of a new relationship with a girl who is sub to both of us and this past weekend we watched a movie with Argent on the couch and the girl and me both on a quilt on the floor on either side of him. I have no trouble maintaining a dominant feeling toward the boy, the other boy, or the girl while always knowing I am Argent's submissive. So far others who are sub to both, even if that is mainly sub to me have said they also have no problems when they see me doing somethign Argent has told me to, and I have been told it even makes them respect me more and not less, which was my main concern. And I love both of my positions in this life, both feel very normal and natural. I do not think there is another man in the world that I could be sub to. (ok I did just realize that we do have 1 female D friend to whom I always feel s and I would do almost anythign she required of me at any time, but I respect and love her so very much and I'm sure that's why I feel that way)
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